Ok. Can anyone tell me what happens when you’re arrested for drunk driving? It’s not me. My friend who isn’t and has never been an alcoholic crashed his car into a parked car last night. The police arrested him and he spent the night in jail. He was double the driving limit. I’m so mad at him. It was stupid. What might happen? I’ve no experience and really don’t want to talk to him right now.
I’ve been in your friend’s position. It won’t help anyone to be angry in this very moment. Most likely he is regretting his poor decision more than anyone. I’ll never forget a person at work that showed me grace and understanding when I felt I didn’t deserve it. I felt punished by my husband, who wouldn’t leave work to pick me up. After many calls I finally found an old neighbor to pick me up. That was over 13 years ago and luckily it was dropped to a dwai and is not on my record. NY is very strict, but a letter from my boss at the time defending my character seemed to help an awful lot. I am grateful knowing the outcome could have been much worse.
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It depends on the state and whether he has a history but I bet he gets probation. Might have to take an assessment and go to some classes. Tell him to be careful, I got 2 DUIs within 10 years and had to have a breathalyzer in my car. It’s a pain and very expensive but I’m actually grateful for it. Probably saved mine or someone else’s life.
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Thank you. I didn’t tell him I was angry or disappointed. I told him what I want someone to say to me when I’ve done something that makes me hate myself. That I love him and it will be ok if he owns it, learns and doesn’t repeat. I don’t want him to feel it’s ok tho. I’ve been an alcoholic for a very long time and this has made me question everything. Is it a thought process?
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I just got my first one and I’m only a social drinker, but it made me quit. Be there for him. I haven’t slept right since it happened. My depression and anxiety are worse from all of it. They make you feel like a POS. From what my lawyer told me tho, it all depends on how many times you have been caught and your alcohol level. You get charged more fines for higher levels. It’s expensive which makes it more stressful. He will need to be surrounded by good friends. If he’s anything like me, he has already beat himself up with regrets and what ifs.
My sister got one a couple years back, first offense. She had to pay fines, her driving license was suspended and she had to take classes.
There was also a time frame in which she couldn’t have a drop and drive. 6 months maybe? Kind of like probation, if she had been pulled over and tested and there was even the tiniest percentage, she could be charged again.
When I got mine I had to spend 48 hours in jail total. I spent the night of the DUI and had to go back for a day and a half to total 48 hours. I think I had to pay 500 for jail. I think my lawyer was around 1500. I had to go to court with the DMV. I had to wait about six months before they processed my case, during that time, I had my license the whole time. I lost my license for 90 days. I had to go to drug and alcohol classes for 3 months 3-4 hours each session. I played about 300 or 400 for the classes. Drug test at the hospital required for the class, 100 bucks. After I completed my classes I had to wait another month to get a letter from the DMV and payed more fines I think around 300. So it was around 2000-3000
This was around 10 years ago, so I am sure it is more money now and probably more hoops to jump through. Fun fun.
Like others said depends on the state. I know if you blow that high in FL it’s an advanced dui which increase everything .Also the fact that he caused damage due to an accident it will also most likely increase everything even more like fines, classes, length of probation he will lose his license for probably at least 6 months, in FL you can apply for a hardship license and drive to work. He should look into getting an attorney. He’s about to spend ALOT of money.
I had a dwi a couple years ago, the state I live in is very strict! I blew pretty high, it was not twice the limit, but it was right over the edge for them to charge me with two. The new law in my state lowered the limit, and they also made it mandatory to be held for 48hours, so I ended up being there for 5 days until court on Monday. I got out on the conditions, with a blow device, random drug testing, court fines, probation, whiskey plates for one year and mandatory interlock in my car for one year. It was the most humiliating experience. Oh, also had to go to a MADD class which made me feel horrible and like garbage. My state is going to lower the limit to a .06. So very strict here. He probably feels like such a loser already, and will likely have many consequences soon. I would try and be supportive, during those times people feel like a loser, and sometimes hopeless, hopefully no one was hurt and he will find sobriety now.