-What do you do to handle the urge, and mentall fight war in your brain?? ( example: just one small hit or just a beer or o e drink, it wont be that baad … just one ,its okaay just one) …were your brain keeps fooling you and lie to yourself for 1 hit or a shot.
-What Adivce , The best thing i can do
To lower it down??
THANKS ALL
I went to AA, got a sponsor, and practiced the steps. I’ve had an up and down year and not once have I considered a drink or a drug.
Read Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Control Alcohol
and Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind
I don’t know about yourself, but ‘just one drink’ has never satisfied me. I don’t crave a drink, I crave a whole bottle and then some and so does my inner voice. Don’t listen, it’s just the disease whispering in your ear.
Find things to keep you busy. Try meditation. Try a new hobby perhaps. There’s lots to learn.
Early on in sobriety, I got some pretty nasty cravings and some of them, I tried talking myself in to caving, but I didn’t. Maybe it was sheer will power, maybe it was because I knew where that path would lead and I was tired of going down it. Whatever it was, I decided that no matter how uncomfortable it was, I wasn’t gonna cave.
Cravings wont kill you, but picking up very well could.
Go for a walk, or run. Eat a sandwhich. Go to a meeting. Re-arrange your bedroom. Do some laundry… do something to keep busy and let the cravings pass through you. The more you can do this, the easier it gets.
Meetings will give you support on your journey we have no defence against the first drink but 12 step program will give you a good defence for triggers and youl meet new like minded friends . wish you well
I step outside and take a deep breath and regather my thoughts. It sounds simple but it works for me.
I’m going to echo others that have posted above - AA meetings and working the steps have been life changing. My first 4 years of sobriety came with numerous challenges but not once did I consider picking up a drink or a drug. I owe it all to the AA program.
I eat… probably my new problem. But I don’t care so long as I don’t drink.
I know it sounds weird but it was that exact super annoying inner addictive voice that was what finally made me quit completely.
I got fed up with the constant pacing about, constant excuses, constant battles with myself to justify it, constant reasoning and annoying circular thinking… I realised that the only way to end that was to push thru the early days of sobriety and keep on and on one day at a time.
The voices and justifying do die down over time. Once you change your outlook on alcohol and see it as the cause of that deep unrest, the unrest itself is so uncomfortable that going sober is the only logical choice.
I hope this makes sense
You just said what I wanted to write 
I call that voice the Winewitch 
Still do.
She drove me nuts and I’m so glad I seldom hear her these days.
What I did was keeping myself busy with activaties that made me tired like walking, cleaning, working out, gardening, etc.
And reading recovery books, listen to recovery podcasts and being here much to keep me focussed and learning about my addiction.
Understanding how addiction works made me capable to become and stay sober.
I made a sober plan for myself, you can find it here if you are interested:
Within a few weeks I’m sober for 6 years. I still work hard to mantain my sobriaty by being here and not letting my focus slip.
My life is so much better then it was.
I feel so much better so the urge to get that wine is gone too.