Hi fellow sobriety community,
my Name is Nick, I’m 32 and living in Germany, so please be kind with my English
I’m new here and want to introduce myself and my life story…
Ok, where should I start?
My 1st experiences with hard liquor…
I had my 1st hangover from vodka when I was 13-14 yrs. old. Same age I started to smoke weed on a daily basis. With 16 I started to go to clubs and very fast I took Speed and XTC while partying, like alcohol only on the weekends.
My gf got pregnant and our daughter was born when we was 18. So I stopped smoking weed, speed & xtc! Weed sobriety didn’t last long, only 10 months and I smoked my 1st joint again, at least I was clean of the other shit!
I finished my apprenticeship successfully and got a lifetime contract in the same company. With 21 I switched the department and in my new department it was totally normal to drink alcohol everyday, even at work. Also a few coworkers were using cocaine. I don’t know why, but very quick I started to drink with em and sniff cocaine.
However, this was my daily life, drinking & smoking. Cocaine most times just on the weekends. One summer I started to sell cocaine and this was a big fault, because with so much cocaine in my pocket I started to use it everyday for a period of 3 months, I left my gf because of my dumb head, after 3 months my body told me to stop or something bad gonna happen. I stopped it and gladly I got back with my gf & daughter.
So life was going, I was drinking and smoking. One day totally drunk and high, I had a hit-and-run, gladly with a parked car and nobody got injured. I lost my license and had to pay 5K total for penalty and the damaged car. Gladly from this day, I never drove drunk again.
Let’s go on, a few yrs later…
…my gf saw me totally drunk kissing another girl in a club, I promised to stop drinking! I stopped it for a period of 3 yrs. but I still was smoking weed daily. Best 3 yrs. of our entire relationship.
3 yrs. later…
On a long flight, my gf and me started to drink because she was afraid. From today it’s 3 yrs ago, and I started heavily drinking again. I drank at work and at home, sometimes until I passed out and couldn’t remember anything from the last evening.
Over the past 18 yrs. I ruined a lot of family parties, weddings etc. I really disgraced myself because I was so drunk! But I need to say that I never did bullshit when I was just on weed, just when I was drunk or on hard drugs.
2018, I tried to prove myself, that I’m not addicted to weed and stopped it for the whole year. My bad, I drank a lot in 2018.
2019 was a very bad year, fall out with my parents, so I drank a lot! I ruined a whole family vacation in August because I was drunk everyday, after this vacation I promised to stay sober, it worked for just 1 month
November 2019, probably the worst month of the last years. I ruined every weekend, I drank so much until I passed out and couldn’t even remember the days. I forgot a whole Saturday, waking up on a Sunday thinking it’s Saturday. I drank in the middle of the week, had such a hangover that I had to drink on early shift to survive the shift.
Last weekend I disgraced myself on a party, my wife and daughter didn’t even came with me to the party because I was already drunk before the party started! I drank the whole weekend from Fr-Mo morning, to cure the hangover.
My wife & daughter were so pissed that they wanted to leave me, I could convince them to stay and that I’ll start a therapy.
I had my last vodka Monday morning, my last bowl of weed on Monday evening.
I went to my doctor yesterday and told him about my problem. Tomorrow we gonna talk about my blood results and he’ll get me a therapist and they’ll decide if I need a stationary rehab or if it’s enough if I go ambulatory to group and single therapies.
Recalling the past 18 yrs. I’m shocked how much shit I’ve done. I’m blessed with a wife that didn’t left me in 16 yrs horrible relationship. I never harmed her physically but I really destroyed her mentally. It really hurts! But I’m thankful that she never gave up on me and stayed with me. Mainly because of our daughter, she said without our daughter she had left me many years ago.
Writing this down, hurts and feels good at the same time! I’m at the point, I just want to be sober, I can’t control myself, I can’t control alcohol, alcohol controls me!
I’m 2 days sober now, I’m confident, I’m looking forward to the therapy to talk about everything and get to know why I’m so easy attracted to drugs! I guess I’ve deep psychological issues and I’ve always wanted to drown them in alcohol and drugs! I had a relatively good childhood, except of a narcissistic father and a hysterical mother.
If you read this, thank you, it’s a long ass post but I needed to get this out of me. Not a lot of people know this, most people think we are the perfect family because we can hold the picture of a perfect family up!
I’m looking forward to good conversations and to be strong with y’all to STAY SOBER FOREVER!
Sincerely,
Nick