Can’t stop masturbation… I was watching porn videos frequently…if I watch again I will masturbated again…so I need to control my fingers and eyes to not type and watch porn. I think it would be better if I had someone to tell everyday that I didn’t watched porn today …that will give me some motivation…because I don’t have any real friends …I tried several chat sites …but failed no one is there for me
Hi @zzz1. First of all take a breath. Give yourself a moment and don’t beat yourself up. PMO is something a lot of people on here struggle with. Like many addictions the PMO is a way to cover up a deeper hurt. Joining this community is a really good first step and this is a safe space to talk about how you are feeling.
Everyone’s journey is different. I am addicted to Porn. I am 15 days in to this attempt to get clean. So I understand the struggle. Some things that have helped me are:
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Being active on this forum. The daily check in page especially. It shows you that you are not alone in your struggle.
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Getting outside - Fresh air and exercise are both excellent ways to help clear my mind. It might be worth a try.
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Recognising what causes you the most temptation. As an addict I am at my most vulnerable when I am Hungry, Angry, Tired or Lonely (HALT). If you can identify what is causing the temptation you have a much better chance of riding it out.
I hope some of that is helpful. We are all here for the same reason, to get clean. Be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time.
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How old are you?
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You’ve been part of this community for 3 weeks and read for 30 min… 
What are you actually doing to further your recovery, apart from trying to not masturbate? If that’s it, we alkies call that whiteknuckling. It’s isolated withholding of the addictive behaviour w/o addressing any of the reasons and developing any other coping skills. And it does not work.
First order of business today: use the 
up top and search for the threads of other porn and masturbation and sex addicts on here. There is a wealth of information and recources on this site you’re not using. Start doing that.
Nothing changes if nothing changes, my good man.
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I think my short temperedness is attigger for porn and masturbation…im an extreme rage revenge violent type guy …also stress will also make me to do PMO…others may include online sexting
There are a few different zzz members, I think you may be thinking of another one.
I also have a severe temper and no fuse - it often coincides with acting out sexually.
The best tool that has helped me to date is simple box breathing.
Inhale for 4 counts
Hold for 4 counts
Exhale for 4 counts
Hold for 4 counts
I use my heartbeat as a count until my heart rate slows and I can’t keep up. Just think only about the breathing and if your mind wanders, bring it back to the breathing.
I use this when frustrated, angry, feeling an urge or craving, and before I go to sleep. It will change the way you see things.
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