Alcohol talk is everywhere

Attempting to get clean is a tough enough task to deal with on its own but since I started this all i do is see people on Facebook talking about how much they drink and so on. Also work is another place that the drinking conversations really never stop. Any advice on how to deal with this?

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It is interesting how much u notice booze is everywhere when u get sober. If u can politely get away from it at all I suggest u do. Idk honestly since quitting I really am unimpressed with drinkers (myself when drinking included)… it usually involves a lot of annoying and/Or unattractive behavior. And of course feeling like Crap the next day. I really do not envy that (but also accept people are free to make their own choices)! I am happy with mine. :slight_smile:

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Yep!!

It is funny because you don’t realise how prevalent it is until you decide to give it up. Honestly it is the same thing as when I decided to become vegan. All of the sudden it was meat adds EVERYWHERE. People posting pictures of their steak dinners on FB. Aaaaahhhhh. Now I experience it with booze.

I don’t know really how to tell you to deal with it though. I just sit there and tell myself that I am on the right side of the issue and they are victims of advertising. We’ve been told since a very young age that drinking was normal and cool. Advertisements, movies, songs…all of it glamorizes drinking. But you’re stronger than that. Advertisers don’t manipulate you!!

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Yep. Headphones.

Ugh, hearing people talk about their stupid weekends is obnoxious. I don’t care, you have a beer belly, shut the hell up.

I work in a place with cubicles so listening to music to drown others out works for me.

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I’ve been vegetarian, mostly vegan, for most of my life. I guess about 30 years by now. People often say things like, Humans have been eating animals for thousands of years, so what’s the problem? It’s a bad argument. Just because something is perceived as “normal” doesn’t make it good or right, for society or for me personally. I knew that. But it’s amazing to me to realize that I made the same mental leaps with alcohol. I thought, It’s normal; everybody around me drinks; humans have been drinking for millennia; so that justifies my daily drinking and means it’s not a problem. Only now do I realize how silly that line of thought is. I’d say, switch off Facebook and tune out as much as possible of the discourse that is telling you, Drinking is normal. And remember that other people are on their journey, yours is yours, and you know what’s right for you.

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Oh my god @Elisabeth you’re hilarious :joy: I love your no-nonsense attitude!

If anyone ever gives me grief, can I give you a shout? You’d sort them right out! :joy: :yellow_heart: :heart:

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Come on…even JESUS drank wine. It must be “right” to do!!

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When I feel really bogged down with all the alcohol advertising & talk I remind myself that people used to use Cocaine and Opium regularly for everything from stomach aches to acne, like it wasn’t addictive or toxic. Hell, Victorian women would use straight Arsenic to lighten their complexion!
And then I think to myself "those fools, just wait until society comes to terms with their alcohol misuse and abuse, I’ll be on the right side of history!"
I feel like there’s increasingly more awareness about alcohol addiction and abuse- more research, documentaries, stricter regulations, doctors are even saying now people really shouldn’t be drinking at all…
We’re the smart ones, ahead of the curve! Stay strong!

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Amazing attitude, I started out in recovery always relapsing because everyone(social and media/fb) make it seem normal. My journey has to believe it’s not for me. :blush: thank you.

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It is the new thing. Drinking is glamorous again. Brown liquor, wine, vodka. Drinking every night is the new normal. I guess we were cool before it was cool.

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I find I am constantly looking in other people’s trolley at the supermarket to see how much noise they are drinking

I do this too, and often find myself thinking - ‘Good God man! Are you wise?!’ followed by 'Enjoy your hangover :imp:

If it bothered me that much, I would recommend getting off of Facebook and all social media. In the end it’s mostly politics (ok, i was guilty there too), other people’s great vacations, other people partying, and puppies and kittens.

I am actually a bartender, so it’s been an interesting (although short) journey for me so far. But when people start to annoy me (or even if I feel temptation) I just think about how they’re gonna feel tomorrow and it all goes away.

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I’m also a bartender, and I see a lot of the same people everyday. To think that I also used to drink that much every day disgusts me when I look back now. Although the last few years I did almost all my drinking at home alone. You’re off to a good start! Keep it up!

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A actually feel bad for all the times I would offer to “buy you a drink” to the bartender. Even when they looked pretty soused.