Day 13 here. Just looking for a bit of advice in my early sobriety.
I was drinking heavily everyday before I quit. I take lexapro, an anti anxiety and antidepressant. I knew that my meds weren’t working properly when I was drinking, but now I’ve stopped I still feel so rubbish. It’s been great not having hangovers and less guilt, I am feeling a bit better. But I’m still irritable, tired, and defeated. I was just wondering how long it has taken some of you before your brain levelled out a bit after getting sober.
I’ve also been struggling a bit with my partner, he has stopped drinking with me, which is fantastic. We both had two years sober in our relationship a few years back but it was after a terrible fight we got ourselves into. We had a solid reason to stop. And since we started drinking again over the last few years, we never stick to it, because there hasn’t been a solid reason for him. He has a really relaxed attitude about drinking, whereas my moods get to low and I can really see how much it effects me, and it’s scary because when he slips and starts drinking again I find myself wanting to slip too. But I just don’t want to anymore. I want to help myself be the best I can be, I’m just scared I can’t do it with his influence around me. I don’t want to pressure him, I don’t want to be that kind of wife. I want to be strong enough to focus on myself. But at the same time I want to create a strong environment to be able to succeed in living a sober life. Any advice?
These feelings can last a while. I think it was at least 6 months before I felt that I was almost on an even keel. Even now I get times when life just gets me down.
But, that life. It’s never all rainbows and unicorn farts, even without the drink!
As the weeks go by you will notice changes if you really work at your sobriety. I mean not just stopping drinking and hope that it sticks. I mean really taking notice of what is going on with head and body. Working some sort of program. Working through the bad times. Each time you do it makes you stronger.
Don’t make any big life decisions just yet. Wait out.
I’m over a year now and loving the fact that I am no longer a slave to drink or drugs.
But life still throws the odd curve ball. I’m just better able to get through it.
Congratulations on almost 2 weeks! That’s great! I cant give you any advice on the medication part but it does take quite a while for your brain to level out naturally. I drank extremely heavy every day for the past couple years and I just passed 90 days and am finally starting to feel good mentally on a day to day basis.
That’s awesome your man has quit with you. I remember, as I was still stuck in my addiction, begging my guy to stop with me. I said it was the only way I could do it. Well that wasnt true. I finally decided to stop and stuck to it even tho he still drinks every day. In the beginning he would lock his liquor in his car or hide it somewhere so I didn’t have to see it. Now it doesn’t bother me whatsoever. If your man decides to pick back up, you dont have to follow. You can only control what you do. All the best in your journey lady 
I would agree with @anon12657779, after 6 months I felt normal. The worst was day 4 then everyday got a little better there after.
For me, I think the “off” feeling seemed a little more amplified due to the fact that I could no longer detach, by drinking when, I found myself in certain situations. I had to sit in it and be present, that was new, uncomfortable and awkward at times. But the good news is, thisnstage doesn’t last forever and is over before you know it!
my partner still drinks in front of me and until a few days ago smoked in front of me too. Remember you are your own person with your own plans, their choices are not our choices. Look at the positives, by having it around you now and not making it a taboo subject should set you up nicely in the future bc there will definitely be a time and a place that alcohol is going to be involved. I’ve got to go to a funeral soon and it will involve lots of alcohol but we have to change our mindset when it’s near us, if I was to join in the toast I’m sure this person will be looking down on me with more pride if I did it with an oj. Show the same amount of pride and respect for yourself, mine has now rubbed off on my partner, the same could happen to yours.
Yes. Sobriety is not a contest. It’s not a race. It’s a journey. Some dawdle and lolligag, and some walk deliberately. Some walk smartly, while others shuffle along.
Walk your walk. Let him walk his.