This helps in another perspective.
Self-efficacy 
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Every person who drinks knows why they should quit. I think it takes a psychologist or councillor to understand why you drink in the first place. I think only then will you truly be ready to quit.
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In my experience, understanding and the beginning of wisdom follows action. In AA I learned I can act my way into good thinking, but I cannot think my way into good action. We start getting sober when we stop drinking and find ways to be comfortable doing that, not by understanding the reasons we drank. That does need to be addressed long term, but what is necessary to start is to begin being abstinent.
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First off, I truly believe you can’t quit unless you really want to…
I ‘admitted out loud’ I was an alcoholic to my wife, and her response: “Yeah I know”…even after admitting it, I wasn’t ready to give it up and it took me another 2 yrs until I finally did quit.
Why?
- I was no longer ‘me’…every bad decision I’ve ever made was when I wasn’t sober; Dumb bad decisions, which are kind of ridiculous now (like ‘fixing’ things around the house , I see them now as a sober person and have no idea what I was thinking) - to really bad decisions, like within my personal life.
- I wasn’t remembering things…events, get togethers; sure maybe I was the ‘life of the party’ , I think anyway, I really didn’t remember details on a lot of things; That did make me kind of scared
- My health. My blood tests were completely out of control bad - I probably had 5yrs left if I would have kept it up
- I started to find Faith again. Faith in God. The more I understood it, while even still drinking, I started to understand how alcohol was ‘changing’ me (It’s hard to explain unless you have both Faith and are an alcoholic.). Alcohol was encouraging me to make poor self choices; affecting my marriage, affecting my life, everything. Alcohol especially with an alcoholic ‘dulls’ everything where you kind of just ‘dont care’
- I saw my mom die of Liver disease (ironically, she wasn’t a drinker…yeah ‘ironic’).
It was a horrible, horrible way to go. I visited her every day until the end and just watched her fade away. Once your liver goes, the rest goes quickly.
After my mom died I signed up for rehab and spent 21 days there. Am now almost 2yrs sober, healthy, happy (really happy for the first time in a LONG time), and I know I will never drink again.
Your ‘why’ is probably the most important part; Doing it just for your health, yeah maybe (though I kept going even after seeing my super high liver blood #'s), doing it just based on Faith - no - but that certainly got me and kept me through it.
See’ing the effects I was having on our marriage because of my alcohol - was huge…I felt guilty and ‘bad’ all the time - and hey, 6 or 7 beers later and I don’t sweet…just repeat that every single day;
Watching my mom die the way she did - I think finally put it all together.
If you have anyone in your life that cares about you and you about them - you would never want them to see you die that way. Ever.
Sorry long winded…I can tell you quitting for good will save and change your life in every possible way. just have to get through that first month. Then you will become the real you.
I can tell you, Faith , real Faith, in God will help. Trust me.
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AMEN … I fully agree! 
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Amen to that post, you certainly hit a few nails right on my head 
thank s for sharing 
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Amen! In God we trust. Thanks for sharing!
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I was tired of letting myself down. Going back on my own word. I was tired of “running away” with alcohol. Then I got married and had kids and the self betrayal felt worse and worse. My kids and my spouse weren’t enough. So I got sober for me. To feel and to heal. To fight. To be free. To live through it all. The good and bad. To feel everything and still be ok. Being sober and finding my God made me realize I wasn’t living all those years. I took my first real breath like I was just born and felt alive for the first time. Felt the difference truly experienced life. This is the good life. Sobriety is the best gift I’ve ever given myself.
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My reason for actually quitting this time meaning actually doing something different and taking suggestions from Alcoholics Anonymous and my sponsor is because honestly I’m tired of ending up in medical detox homeless, broke, 20 pounds underweight, mentally and physically exhausted and sick And having to start from the bottom. And that’s just one of the places I could end up. Jails institutions and so far I haven’t died or at least I’ve been brought back.
I accept that I’m a alcoholic and a drug addict which means I’m not going to relapse Because i’ve crossed that line. Relapse is not an option because I am an alcoholic and a drug addict.Who’s track record has proven time and time again it never works out.
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Even if I wasn’t physically killed or ill from it, it was a totally wasted life when I was a drinker. Sitting in bed all day, no hobbies, no friends, no life, just drink and nothing else, apart from thinking about drink, bargaining, and in mental turmoil. A crap life.
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My mental health
A reason I used was to find the energy to go on with life
But I’ve lost that as well
Paranoid thoughts were stopping me from performing at any scale
And I didn’t want to hurt my mom , the only one who matters to me
The hell with the rest of the world. I hate overthinking and drugs make me do that
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Unlike a lot of people I quit because I wouldn’t die. Dying would have been way easier than continuing to live the life I had. I used excessively, and in amounts that should have killed me. I made no efforts to stay alive because honestly I didn’t want to. But each morning I kept waking up. Eventually I admitted that I either needed to proactively end my life or seek recovery. I’m here now so you can figure out how that decision went on your own.
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Got tired of being arrested and thrown in jail TBH
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I hate myself when i drink. It exacerbates my depression so that i harm myself and those around me. So i needed to stop.
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I finally quit because I was legitimately getting scared I was going to die soon. A few in my close circle had passed away due to their own battles the most recent one was November and he was like a brother to me so it hit me different than others before.It made me realize it could be me next. Plus on 3 different occasions last year I had to be taken from work by ambulance because I randomly collapsed due to a hypertensive crisis the final time was December 23 and I’ve been sober since December 26. I need to stay alive for my kids.
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I am a very ambitious person and could not be 100% there. Either in my profession, in friendships or in my relationship. In the end the best description is I was finally sick and tired of being sick an tired. Sometimes it’s hard but I have to keep going for myself.
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I quit for my mental health. I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired from drugs. It feels good to wake up with a clear head and not coming down from using all night and putting myself at risk.
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I quit because I was tired of the shame. I watched alcohol kill my mother and I knew I was heading down that path too.
But then the most wonderful thing happened. I realised that I like life and I like me. And I am enjoying everything now. So much more than I ever did when I was drinking.
YOU CAN DO IT!!
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I quit for lots of reasons
The one on my mind is
I can hold myself accountable. The help here in this community is helpful.
I’m honest with myself and others as much as possible
Even though I’m exhausted, if I make a excuse and pick up, I will know and that’s enough for me to say no for now
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My life got out of control and so did my drinking. Always been a drinker but my addiction got to the point where I drank everyday,through out the day and night. I knew I had to get help and found a AA meeting. I have been attending meets ever since and proud to say I have 717 days sober. Going to meetings, doing the steps and building friendships with other addicts has been life changing. A few months into my sobriety journey, I became very ill. My liver was shutting down so the realization of if I drink I will die. I will never take my health for granted again .Sobriety has brought a lot of awareness to the areas in my life that I need to work on. Working everyday on myself and trying to become a better person.
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