I’m stopping everything.
Going out, socialising.
Staying home now.
Stopping work.
Giving myself undivided attention and maintaining physical activity.
I stopped.
Cutting off everyone associated with it.
All is well except I realised…
If it’s there… I’ll relapse.
If someone visits or I go somewhere, I’ll relapse.
Clearly theres a time period where you need to stay sober to solidify self control. Which is my goal atm.
I’ve read a lot on tips, they’re helpful but can’t ignore the fundamental truth.
You have to want it, like deep down.
It’s why some people can just go flat out sober and not go back, like out of nowhere… That’s because they found their reason. ‘Their own specific’ reason.
What’s your reason for quitting? Everyones different. Clearly. Merely exploring ideas really.
This is towards amphetamines. Other habits are a breeze incomparison.
My reason is to be me: my true self, my honest self, my self that is not hiding. I’m done hiding in my addiction. I’m done sneaking into bed when my wife’s asleep. I’m done with her asking me if I’ve been using. I can’t do that any more.
I’ve tried quitting before but I never actually wanted to give up drinking so it was never actually going to work.
Now I am trying again by going to rehab voluntarily for a month, going back to AA and stopping all alcohol.
I am very fortunate to have the support of my partner and family.
I’m quitting because my partner said I should go to rehab and it made me realise that I have a serious issue. We had talked before about how we aren’t going to get married or have children while I still have a drinking problem but I didn’t really take it seriously until he said “rehab”.
I drink while working from home, I’m drunk while driving, going to appointments, whilst sitting in AA. I need to quit for lots of reasons. But the main reason for me is for my future marriage and kids
Same as Ray above for me,the way I was drinking and the way i was behaving while i was drinking it was either going to kill me in the end or i was going to be killed because of it,it had to go
My immediate reason was I became suicidal and I knew I did because of the drugs and booze. Indeed I didn’t want to kill myself no more after I quit all.
Can I ask you why are you sure you’ll relapse as soon as you participate in life? Seems to me you still see positives in using, you still see merit in continuing your addiction. And as long as that’s the case you will indeed go back to using. You still see reasons to use. Which in truth never are reasons, they’re just excuses the addicted part of your brain uses to pull you back in.
Whatever you cut out of your life, you will still be yourself. Can’t escape yourself. We need to build ourselves a new life. One we don’t feel the need to escape from by doing drugs or booze. My true reason is I wanted a new life badly enough so I’ve worked my ass off to get it. Not out of the blue. Not just go sober. It’s called recovery. It’s work and lots of it. It’s a work of love though. Success.
I was tired of letting my past traumas dictate my present life. It’s not been easy but I made a plan (my plan evolves over time growing and changing as things come up) and I’m sticking to it.
None of those drinking people were true friends. Not one. Once I quit, they left. It’s all a lie, just fake friendships. We just weren’t capable under the influence. Pretended to be friends and hang out but we were just drinking. Wasted time and health.
I’ve got new people now. They want to live, be healthy and have actual relationships. So no, you’re not wrong at all! Glad you’re here you will love it!
I quit because I don’t like the person I am when I drink. I think it affected my mood and behaviour between drinks and made me a person I don’t like. It fuels all my anxiety and paranoia, and makes me more depressed.
With mental health problems the only way to have any kind of chance is to face life stone cold sober and get help.
Alcohol never brought me clarity or made me happy. I always drank to be drunk and escape and I made everything worse for decades.
So, quitting was absolutely necessary to have any kind of life. I’m working on all the mental health stuff, and that would never have been possible if I was a drinker.
I’m sorry to say that I didn’t have any particular reason. Also, I could say I had different reasons: my son, my mother who was worried etc.
But ultimately I quit because I’ve had enough. The anxiety, the feeling of worthlessness, the feeling I was somehow filthy, the depression after the binge.
I relapsed a fair amount of times, but at one point, I got sober and remained sober (and hope to continue being sober).
I didn’t think about the future, about not drinking ever (though I never had any problem with that idea), about anything.
My life is far from perfect and I am still trying to figure out what to do with myself, because I do feel that I have to fulfill some of my… not dreams… just to be more me and more useful to others. My nerves are not what they used to be, but even on a REAAALY sh…y day, I am so much better without alcohol.
Again, sorry for not being able to help you, but I think that perhaps, for the time being, you shouldn’t try too hard to find THE reason.
Spend some time here, that will help for sure.
And see how you feel sober. That in itself can be a huge reason and reward.
I quit because I was being stupid when I drank, got tired of waking up in jail. I had lost the respect of my children and family. I was a functional alcoholic. I had 3 jobs to support myself and my children. The father wasn’t in the picture. I realized that I wasn’t going to be around much longer if I kept at it. So I packed up some stuff and went to the mountains and stayed for a month, reflecting on my life and the direction it was going. I realized that I needed to change course or I wasn’t going to be around to be a better mom and grandma. I had tried in patient treatment and out patient but it didn’t work. I thought of everything that I learned from the programs while up mountains. I was the Only person who could change me. So I decided it was time for a change. That was a little over 13 years ago. I agree with you on that a person needs to really want it but they need to want it for themselves, I tried for my family and kids with the in patient and out patient but I wasn’t ready. I had to be ready for Me, not every one else. I felt like I had been on auto mode long enough. I send you prayers for strength both emotionally and mentally We’re all here for you hun:pray:
I found I needed some physical separation. At the end, I was drinking to avoid the withdrawals, to a certain extent.
Other than that, I think you’re barking up the wrong tree. I had no self control and that is partly why I drank as much and as frequently as I did. What I have today is the choice each morning to stay sober and some tools to help me achieve that. I work my sobriety, I do not simply “resist alcohol strongly enough”.
I quit because I had made the decision that I could not stop drinking and was willing to just drink and see what happened. About 3 years later of daily drinking and deteriorating physical condition due to it, I was literally stopped, arrested by the cops yet again. That forced abstinence was the beginning of the time I grew my sobriety day by day. I will grow it again today and I plan to do so tomorrow.
you will love it!
….Found this place and I’ve never looked back. 
