I’d like to add that this is why places like this are so valuable for sobriety. We understand eachother. I understand what a big deal 34 days is, congratulations on 34 days 
. Come here to be with people who have an understanding of what you’re going through. Best wishes.
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It took my family 18 months to finally start to believe me. My girlfriend at the time never took me back.
You can want kindness support and compassion but I wouldn’t expect. And you can find it here, but it’s really unfair to your partner to put aside all of their feelings to accommodate your needs. Look at it from their perspective and it might help you realize why they aren’t supporting you in the way you think you deserve
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@lorelai put it very well.
My story - After the relapse that was finally ‘the last time’ my husband was no longer worried, no longer looking for answers, no longer angry, he was just totally grimly blank. As others have said, he didn’t believe this was the last time, because I had said it was the last time hundreds of times before. He was all out of compassion, understanding, etc.
He gets home after me, and he parks his bicycle round the side of the house where the kitchen window is. He would always call through the window ‘Are you ok?’ (meaning ‘are you sober’) and see if I was slurring or just passed out somewhere else in the house. It took 3 months for him to walk straight in the door without checking. Jumped out of my skin.
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Hi there,
Just posting as check in.
105 days here since the last relapse. Main difference from the last is
- I’m really doing this for myself, not for anyone else
- 100% daily routine compliance, which includes an alarms with a quote from @Yoda-Stevie
Wish you all a very happy 2024!
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Hi there,
Just posting as a check in. 155 days in. Same routine, working so far. Day by day mentality.
Bye!
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Just passing by, 181 days now. So happy sober half-birthday to me.
Same routine doing its thing and keeping me off alcohol.
9 months is the new milestone.
Then 1 year.
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Just celebrated 40 years clean & sober. I started out with 3 detoxes and a rehab stay, then time in sober 1/2 way and 3/4 way houses, I realized I needed to work on my relationship with myself, not former partner.
Now I realize that I would have been doomed to relapse if my made returning to partner my priority.
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Checking in for myself on 1 year milestone.
Keeping it up with help from family, friends, medication, and counseling.
I’m not one to visit here often, but when I do, thanks to the people that support others. Probably you don’t know (or maybe you do) how much of a difference you make.
Thanks and have a good weekend
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Congratulations on 1 year! Well done, enjoy your day
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Congratulations on your year!! And for what sounds like some other healthy changes. Happy for you!!!
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Nice! Congratulations on a full year! 
We do recover! 
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Way to go! 1 year is amazing 
keep up the great work 
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