My name is Marlena, I posted my story. I have been 4 years clean and sober. 10/13/18 is my date! I realized having a great support system or any support at all is a huge help! I came in here to give anyone support who may need it, to be a friend and a support person for someone.
If anyone needs that, we can talk here or you can follow me on social media. My Instagram is __Hallowqueen
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Hi Marlena, congrats on your sobriety.
I am 7 days sober from alcohol. It feels good to achieve that as last year was my worst year for drinking ever probably.
I am struggling today though as my partner for over 3 years, with whom we share a home and 4 kids b/w us has taken off for the weekend in a hurtful and dramatic way. Essentially manufacturing a fight (this happens every few weeks) and making threats to end our relationship. I am quite upset about it and not sure what to do. I feel like she is wrecking everything we’ve worked so hard to build for ourselves and our kids. Umfortunately I don’t see this pattern of behaviour stopping from her.
It scares me because I love this woman and I love our family and it stirs up very unpleasant feelings about my divorce/split 6 years ago…which led to a downward spiral of drugs and booze and took me a long time to recover from.
So I am feeling hurt, disappointed, scared, upset and confused (AGAIN) b/c of her actions when I haven’t even done anything wrong!!! My trust is shattered. This only started happening when we all moved in together a year ago.
I am sitting outside the gym after spending the day by myself (kids are with our exes) getting ready to force myself to workout. I don’t really have any friends to talk about this with and all my family lives back in America.
I am not really tempted to get a bottle or go out, but feel really yuck about all this. I’m 48 and finally thought all my dirty past and bad choices were behind me. Guess I was wrong 
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Congratulations on 7 days clean! That’s a huge accomplishment!!! Keep it up! Your so strong! I’m sorry your having some difficulties in your relationship. I have been there before and my marriage was not at its best. I learned that sometimes you have to just be calm and try to talk and communicate and have a conversation even if it’s uncomfortable with your partner. Sit down and have a call conversation and try your best to understand each other and listen to each other. I’m no marriage gruru but learning how to communicate how you feel calmly and trying to understand each other has helped me in ways I couldn’t imagine.
Also feelings come and go. They aren’t forever. If you feel sad just know that feeling will pass and better feelings are on the way! Stay strong! Motivate yourself & try to find the good in everything! Kill that workout and take that time to decompress and think. Use that to change those yucky feelings. Your a strong person and you have came this far! You been through so much and there is nothing you can’t overcome!
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God Bless you and those wonderful words. I will take on board that advice.
Thank you for helping a fellow addict today.
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Congratulations, I am on day 24 and have been visited by the AV but told it to bugger off [addictive voice]
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Congratulations!!! Stay strong!! So proud of you for telling it to bugggggerrr offf!!! 
keep up the great work!
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