How are you doing today?
Yes. How fortuitous to see this post. I’m feeling a little down today. The weight of decades of selfishness, bad choices and substance abuse that has wrecked others’ lives and wrecked my life is hard to live with. I also feel lonely. Noticeable lack of any real close friends (that live near me anyway). Lots of regret and shame over how I got here, with no time machine to go back and fix things.
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Do you have a sponsor? Have you worked the “steps?” It helps you to forgive yourself and make amends to the people you have hurt. It’s so important to forgive yourself, if not it may cause a relapse. How much sober/clean time do you have if you don’t mind me asking. Do you attend AA/NA meetings?
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I try to keep myself out of a funk by having a routine. When I quit drinking, I got a gym membership and now I go literally every day. I don’t know if I could make it through without it. I also drink a cup of herbal tea every night to unwind. Probably not for everyone, but it works for me. Sometimes I miss that euphoria that comes with being drunk, but I never miss the hangover the next day. It gives me joy and pride to know I can live life sober.
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I’m at 103 days.
I have my second meeting with a sponsor set up for this Fri. to start working the steps. I do attend AA meetings and outpatient drug/alcohol group as well as 1:1 counselling.
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Any suggestions for energy? I have absolutely none. 
Perfect!!! 
Yes. I have found myself in a funk from time to time. This is when I rely on self-discipline. I know what I should do and I get after it…even though I don’t want to. Don’t want to get up? Get up, make your bed, go for a walk or work out. Make your favorite wake-up drink, coffee or tea or whatever, and read for a bit. Now the day has only just begun, and look at all you’ve accomplished. Then pick the next positive thing you don’t feel motivated to do, and do it. The satisfaction of doing it, even though you didn’t feel like it, hits harder. Now you’re moving forward, leaving the funk behind.
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Im there now. I get it. Totally in a funk. Hang in there. Im here with you going through the same.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling this. But at the same time I take comfort knowing I’m not alone. I hope you feel better. I’m here for you 
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I love the promises in the AA book. Some how some way financial debts seem to work out when we’re doing good and staying sober. Jobs come out way, or people help out or something unexplainable happens. I’ve seen it happen to people and have experienced it myself. Don’t stay in the “funk” “this too, shall pass” 
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Assuming this is about child support, I personally believe that you have no choice in the matter. Not after you chose to have kids, their financial support is your joint responsibility no matter what.
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Sending you hugs and de-funking vibes 
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Yep I’ve been in a funk for a while. Felt like regression and stagnancy, but was in actual fact a feeling of being stuck and not putting effort in (on my side, not perhaps the same for you). I think we have to let our body take over sometimes and don’t think. Don’t think about taking a walk, just push your shoes on and go.
Try making your mind silent and do something with your body that will provoke your parasympathetic response system.
Hum or sing
Draw with music on
Puzzles
Get a massage
Smell therapy
Sleep or daydream
Cook an elaborate sauce from scratch.
Basic I know, but it’s best to get out your own way some days and put the old head to bed.
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Oh, my, YES! I get these spells often, especially when I have a day off from work, home alone, and don’t know what to do with myself all day. That’s one of the times I would turn to alcohol, just to ease my boredom. Plus, I’m an introvert, so I don’t have anyone to hang out with, other than my wife and cat. What I like to do now, when I get in these “funks”, is hang out at my favourite coffee joint or Barnes & Noble, and simply write 
in my journal, people watch, or hang out here on TS. That helps me. I’m alone, yet not isolated. Hence, no risk of relapsing.
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I like the idea of going somewhere just to journal. Great idea!
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i didn’t know other people called this a “funk” too, but i know that feeling all too well! i’m in a funk rn, antsy and not wanting to do anything at the same time. what helps me in these funks is talking about them with people who get it, and getting out of the apt in some way. i hate having to force myself to do things, haaate it. but, if you have someone to go for a walk with or even just sit together and do different activities you enjoy, that can help it not feel so forceful. i’m happy you shared, thank you for being open with us, and i wish you the best of luck in pushing through any funks!!
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