I guess I’ll start.
I got sober 649 days ago. And my wife still drinks.
I have 2 children who are in recovery and made my life completely unmanageable during their late teen and twenty years. The best thing I did for that was find an Al-Anon meeting. It took me awhile to find a group I fit in with. But when I did. Bam!! I wasn’t alone. So many parents battling with their addicted children. My kids are good now.
But my wife. She drinks wine all the time. And last weekend she went for the cocktails at dinner while my daughter was here with her husband. I knew exactly what was going to happen. And it did. 3 nights in a row passing out on the couch.
I couldn’t stop it.
How could I? You ever try talking to an alcoholic?
Well as I mention on the gratitude thread the other day.
Then that Ol useless unstoppable friend resentment comes in. Resentment has always been my biggest battle. I know it’s coming. I know it’s like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. But it’s a feeling. It comes. And it goes. And I’ve learned how to deal with resentment and not hold on to it for weeks.
Anyway. I’m powerless over my wife’s drinking. I’m powerless over my drinking. I’ve accepted that fact.
And I read yesterday:
I should pray for the one against whom I hold the resentment. I should put that person in God’s hands and let God show him or her the way to live.
From my daily Hazeldon Betty Ford reading.
And I’m going to try and remember when that no good shit heels of a friend resentment shows up? I’m going to pray for that person instead. And let God deal with it.
