It’s hard to keep track in Al-Anon because I probably relapse every day. Fuck. Every hour. But I’m proud to say and to have been going to at least 2 sometimes 3 meetings a week for the last ten months.
It’s still a Twelve Step program and the only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.
And double the benefits because this program keeps me sober. Especially when I live with this cunning a baffling motherfucker of a disease.
Like any other Twelve Step program, it works if you work it. And your worth it. 
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Congrats on your 10 months.
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I would check that timer every day just to see that happy baby smile. Well done getting better at getting better. 
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My husband and I just took our first post-Covid plane trip and we chose to go to Las Vegas. We saw amazing shows, walked between 8 and 16 miles a day, had fantastic dinners and I maintained my sobriety in the face of all of that. I drank 4 NA beers over the course of four days and one day I almost smoked a cigarette but chose to go to bed instead. I feel accomplished and ready for more sober trips in the future.
My husband lost four pounds on the trip and realized that he is healthier (more food, more exercise, LESS alcohol) on a vacation to Las Vegas than he is in his everyday life. There is nothing that I can do with this information. He knows it, I know it and here we are. I can’t change him but I really hope he chooses life. He is such a good human but he is slowly drinking himself to death. I was drinking right along with him 400 days ago but my eyes were further opened on this trip. The world is wide and wild and I want to live in it.
Just some thoughts for the universe and love to those in this fight too.
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I had 2 NAs one night back to back and I could tell it was my way of wanting to check out, this coming from someone who routinely drank alcohol until she blacked out, so I went to bed.
Honestly I went to Vegas fully assuming that my new check out mechanism would be with legal weed. I almost posted here a few times before I left to see how others felt about “a little weed while on vacation” but I didn’t because deep down I knew it was the wrong decision for me. I didn’t seek it out and it didn’t find me.
I’m sober and I’ve decided to stay that way today (and probably tomorrow too 
). We saw Absinthe and Ka and both had amazing acrobatic feats. I loved the food, the sunshine and the shows. I learned that I still miss the “safety” of a check out mechanism which means there is more growth to be done. Onward!
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Mr @Dazercat I am especially grateful for you today. I think I came here to tattle on my husband when all along I needed to tattle on myself. Thanks Eric!
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Whether it was my active alcoholism or now my wife’s or my kids.
I still struggle with this.
I’m getting better. But sometimes I I’ve caught myself googling my feelings. Ya I’ll admit that.
The only feeling I use to know is Mad. I was always Mad.
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Thanks for the Tip 
no pun intended.
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Hi all,
I was reading through the below forum last night, its mostly the partners / family of addicts and the sheer hell they go through living / dealing with addicts and them telling their stories or asking for help, there are some very sobering stories and it has made me double down on my commitment to sort myself out, note these are not motivational stories they can be hardcore and saddening to read:
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This thread is all for people who have partners / family members who are addicted. I thought it might be especially helpful in this thread so I moved it here.
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This is so good to know!! The hubs has long wanted to go to Las Vegas and I’ve not wanted to go because from the outside it seems like just a bunch of drinking. I’d be down for a hiking AA meeting.
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Wish I was midlife.
I’m old life.
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My parents stayed over last night as my mum had the second of her eye operations yesterday. Everything is just so strained with them nowadays. I think it definitely helps that I minimise my expectations, and by that I don’t mean lowering them. I’m just trying to keep open minded and as unattached as I can. I did notice that my mum’s complexion has a purpleish hue which I felt sad about.
After dropping my daughter off at school this morning I was heading back to the house but decided to swing by the supermarket in order to minimise the amount of time I’d have to spend with my parents. I’m glad I felt I could do that for myself, and I didn’t feel that I was overthinking it.
My dad mentioned that he hadn’t wanted to wait in the waiting room while they were doing the procedure so he had gone to a nearby nature reserve and watched the swans. I was drifting off to sleep when I realised that he would have had a couple of bottles of strong beer with him that he wouldn’t have felt comfortable drinking in the hospital, and that there were no pubs nearby. It kind of made me chuckle.
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It’s good you took good care of yourself and stick to your boundaries. Another situation mastered with kindness and minimizing harm. Sending you hugs, it hurts to see the own parents like this and having to detach for personal sake and emotional safety. 
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My dad’s a stoner.
My mum is an ice and heroin addict.
I reckon I have been highly affected by their lifestyles.
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sober time under my belt.
” husband says, “you always change when I drink?” I thought it was a good one. Made me think. Too hard.