Thank you so much! 
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Wow, I could have written this. Except my cannabis addict partner doesn’t even work. Silver linings!? Ha. Stay strong, friend. 
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An update:
So it has been a very chaotic couple of weeks. My son got jumped and robbed by 4 guys in town and broke his wrist and ended up with severe swelling and infection and had to be hospitalized to have it drained and operated on twice. Along with IV antibiotics, pain meds and sedatives. After about 6 nights there he calls at 2am and said he signed himself out AMA. So I drive 2 hours to get him. He had no meds or nothing. Luckily the next day his xx girlfriend who worked for health net called me and got him some antibiotics and a bunch of wound care items. I’ve been cleaning his hand and stitches and it’s looking ok. But our concern now is he’s due today for his Sublocade shot but his appointment isn’t until Friday and where they gave him Ativan and Xanax in the hospital along with pain meds he won’t be able to get it. He’s withdrawing like crazy now and I feel like hes back ro square one. In other news my poor mother fell out of her wheelchair yesterday and banged her nose all up and will probably have black eyes today. I’ve got to go check on her. We’ve got homeschooling for my youngest son and cheer Practice all week. I have a PT appointment Saturday because I can’t feel my legs and another appointment on Monday. I have a feeling this week will be hectic as Hell! My house 
is a mess but I ain’t doing 
until I have some more 
coffee and do some yoga 
so I can get my back in line. My life is starting to sound like a country song 
. I don’t mean to complain just feelings a bit overwhelmed. Thank you all as always for reading. Have a blessed day 
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Holy shit SV
Glad you found time to share.
And then go take care of yourself with that coffee and yoga. Maybe throw in a little ice. Your shit is too real. Not a complaint at all.
In these nightmare cases I use
First Things First like taking care of yourself. Then on to the bloody, no pun intended, next thing.
Hang in there friend.
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Thank you so much Eric! … I’m still on here for now with my coffee 
. I had to be up at 5am so I decided to take a couple hour’s this morning 
for me. I guess I figured if I typed it all out somewhere I’d have a good idea where to start lol. 
my goodness 
.
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. I am with Eric that it’s great that you did post it here and let it all out and better yet that you are taking time for yourself. Totally not complain when you are stating facts. I am so very sorry for all that is happening.
Wish that your son continues to heal. That he is ok with the withdrawals and gets through them till his next shot 
Hope your mom is ok and not too shook up from the fall
Good luck with the PT appointments. Hope you can get feeling back in them legs.
Much love and luck with tackling this hectic week 
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Thank you so much Jazzy
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Well friends my baby boy is at it again 
I got a call from the police department yesterday saying my car was seen leaving a crime scene. They asked me who all drives my car. I told them myself and sometimes my son. Well they asked me to give them a description of him and they said yes it matches what they had. Apparently he thought it would be OK to steal a laptop bag out of someone’s car at a hotel last week. Now I have to take him to the police department today to return the bag. I don’t know if they’ll arrest him or not. He’s not doing Fentanol anymore and now I’m not sure what the fk he’s doing. But I’m telling ya if it ain’t one thing it’s 10 other’s. Thanks for listening 
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Oh man I’m so sorry. Grateful he’s not in Fentanol but damn this has to be one hell of a rollercoaster ride you all are living.
Sending love and hugs my friend. You are one strong mother. Make sure to take care of you. Good luck today
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It sure is Jazzy. Thank you so much for listening to me vent.
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Anytime Melissa…that’s what we are here for. I do hope the day gets easier for you
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You know what you get if you sober up a drunken horse thief. You get a sober horse thief. If the behaviors both inside and out don’t change we stay a sober version of our present self. And if he’s boosting things for quick cash all you can do is try to get him into meetings and sponsor. We both know that if nothing changes nothing will change. I’ll pray for your son and that he finds hope.
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Thank you Patrick. Yes he goes to meetings. But I reckon he’s still doing dumb . Thank you so much!
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WE ALL DO DUMB SHIT! Ya just gotta love them till they can love themselves and pray for them.
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That really sucks SV.
Must break your heart to go through all this. It never lets up eh? And when it does you’re just waiting for the next shoe to drop. Fuck
Take care of yourself girl. It’s the only person you can really take care of.
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My son was drinking and doing stupid things from ages 18-22ish. Four stupid alcohol related arrests in 4 freaking years. Fortunately, no DUI or fights or felonies. People would say “he"ll grow up and out of it.” Oh, so you know this? Gee, thanks. At the time they were trying to be supportive. When you are going through it, though, the worry and concern is overwhelming. Anyway, he just turned 29 and did get his act together. But, I feel your pain Mom. Positive thoughts for you and your son.
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Thanks y’all he returned the items to the cops. They didn’t arrest him but if the lady continues to press charges they might. Thank you all for the support.
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I called my mom for an art question, and I heard her plastered. She was actually helpful with the art, but I was activated. I didn’t mention her state, she went out with friends. Now, I’m just feeling, icky. I can’t believe they still drink like this…
I’m also doing a lot of work recently of connecting dots, and understood how I’m the relationship manager. I have this feeling if I dont do, nothing happens. Especially with her. Its not an intentional thing, but a capacity thing, and I’m learning to reconfigure this incredibly painful imprint.
But hearing her tonight sent me in a dark place 
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Update on my son and other issues
Well he got a notice in the mail yesterday that he is to appear in court in January. I knew this was coming but I’m still worried because I don’t know yet what his punishment will be. Whatever it is he will have to deal with it.
In other news I’ve been snowed 
in with Hubby this past weekend until yesterday when we could finally make it back out. He is suffering from kidney stones. Well his bright idea for a cure was to drink a ton of beer to pass it. So I’ve been dealing with that.
And to top it off my mama fell again the other night and now has a huge bruise on her chin. Thank the Lord nothing is broken.
Thank you all as always for reading. It somehow makes me feel a little better to document these issues. Hope y’all have a blessed day.
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I’m so glad that sharing here helps make you feel better.
Sending love and hugs Melissa . Good luck with the court appearance. It’s in January - I know it’s hard but try not to dwell on it and go through possible outcomes. This will only drive you insane.
Dats trapped inside is bad enough but then also dealing with the drinking and his pain with the kidney stones 
… does not sound relaxing in the least. Sorry friend. Hope the kidney stones pass with ease for your hubby. Really hope you can find some quiet time for self case. Really enjoy that Folders this morning
so grateful that nothing is broken that must have been so scary to deal with. Especially so soon after the last fall. Hope she recovers quickly from the bruise and the shock.
Much love dear friend. Hope you are able to have a wonderful day
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