I have a bachelor/bachelorette party tomorrow for 3 days in the catskills.
I thought long and hard about not going, but im in the wedding and it would be rude.
Its in a cabin with hiking opportunities and i am bringing my dog. Which i am so excited about. I am taking a separate car just in case it feels like three days is to much.
I am weirdly not worried about drinking, but i know i need to stay focused. I put in group chat already and told everyone my about my long term recovery and support was overwhelming. They have seen me at low low points and i know they want the best for me.
I know everyone has been in these situations, i am a little raw, but i have the support system irl and this app.
I am cautiously optimistic, i wish i was like a month into sobriety rather then two weeks, but it feels like a lot to ask them to move their wedding and bachelor party a couple weeks back.
We all draw lines as to what behavior is acceptable and tolerable. If we are invited to a party where hard drugs will be used, we’d pass without a second thought and go on our way. Sometimes, in early sobriety, we need to draw new lines, even if it means letting others down. To be honest, when it comes to protecting my sobriety, I’d rather let one person down rather than myself, my family, my wife, my kids, my sobriety network, etc.
Just keep that in mind, if things get beyond comfort, its ok to redraw that line of what you’re willing to accept or tolerate.
Hey Grant
You are doing awesome with your sobriety!
I know some events / obligations we can’t get out of and i’m happy to hear that you are preparing yourself: with driving separately and also by reaching out and by making everyone aware of your sobriety. We will for sure be right here if you need to support or just want to check in. Feel free to step away and take a time out if things start getting too intense for you - maybe go for a walk.
I am grateful to hear that you have such amazing irl support.
you may also want to take some non alcoholic drink options with you so that you have something in hand (i find this helps keep the urges at bay).
much love and strength my friend - you are stronger than your addiction!
Check you out — totally prepared! I am so happy for you. You are stronger than the addiction and remember we are always here - 247! Have a great sober time my friend
Just came back, there was a ton of drinking…. I didnt touch a thing, was a ton of fun. I am 15 days sober now!
Think i really turned a corner and had ton of support from my friends. I didnt really feel left out. I am pretty proud of myself.
I wanna continue the reading, stay level minded, and just keep an open mind on this app and to all the outlets i have available in this world.
Its like the monster of alcohol doesnt have me in a choke hold, but i still know its in the room. Which is good, i need to know i am still very vulnerable.
I like that summary. The monster of alcohol doesn’t have me in a choke hold. But it’s still in the room.
We just have to let it (our addiction) know who is boss.
Hugs
Congrats on making it through the party, Grant. 3 days in that environment had to be tough, great job on staying tougher! Glad your friends were supportive, I’m sure that made a huge difference! Keep it up!!
Glad your friends were supportive, I’m sure that made a huge difference! Keep it up!!