Once upon a time, I was a festive fellow, but it’s been a long time since I’ve celebrated anything.
My ex drummed it out of me. She hated spending time wth my family or hers (with some justification). And I stopped buying presents after a couple years because they were always met with indifference before disappearing into a closet.
Anyway, while I am the walking definition of low-key, I have decided to make more of an effort. I owe it to myself and my wife to do that.
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Expressing gratitude is an excellent remedy for many spiritual and emotional ills.
Blessings are showering on your house 
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I personally like low key. I did get my partner some little gifts but I left it too late and decided not to stress about it. Not too much anyway. It can be hard not to get swept away with the pressure of that hyper commercialised or romanticised idea of things - gifts and happy families etc. I guess rejecting the whole lot can feel easier. I think that is what I would prefer really 
But a day at home with my partner, parents and lots of nice food has been enjoyable.
Anyway, sounds like you are in a good place to find a new way to celebrate with your wife that has meaning and reflects the life you have now. That’s great!
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Thank you for starting this post!
I think everyone has lost the point of Xmas.
It’s become a situation where the billionaires rub their hands together whilst we run around like mad people giving them our hard earned cash.
I am to a point guilty of this as a mother of 2……the lightning bolt hit me when I found myself in a popular supermarket watching people grab for cream for their minced pies…::god forbid a Xmas with no cream!!!
The real spirit of xmas has been lost unfortunately
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Sorry if TW…
“It is still a day that only amateurs can love. It is all well and good for children and acid freaks to still believe in Santa Claus—but it is still a profoundly morbid day for us working professionals. It is unsettling to know that one out of every twenty people you meet on Christmas will be dead this time next year… Some people can accept this, and some can’t. That is why God made whiskey, and also why Wild Turkey comes in $300 shaped canisters during most of the Christmas season.”
– Hunter S. Thompson
What does TW mean lol
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Trigger warning. The quote you ncluded possible triggers for some people.
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I think the best gifts are the ones given all year long (good moods, kind thoughts, sober household, hugs, and a listening ear). But flowers and a dinner out are always appreciated. 
Good on you for making changes to become a giver.
The hardest part of giving is not expecting an acknowledgment. The younger relatives won’t even tell us they received packages or cards. I guess that’s how things are now. But that’s my old lady rant (sorry).
Anyway, sending you encouragement for the changes you’re making at this point in your life. 