Hi there! Almost 8 days sober and this past weekend was so hard. I drink so I dont have to feel emotions. I struggle deeply with my self esteem and image. My husband doesn’t show many any affection and I tend to feel so alone. I want to just drink so I don’t have to feel this pain.
I need some small things that I can do to help with my emotional feelings.
I know this is the best thing for me but I just wish there were something to help me get through this dark time.
Thanks in advance for any and all advice.
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Congratulations on your 8 days Charity.
This is HUGE!!!
I totally understand this. Me too. Only it’s my wife.
But you just got through the hardest 8 days of your life. Well it was for me. My wife drank through and is still drinking while I’m sober.
Meetings help me a lot.
Al-Anon. And AA now.
Reading on here helps. Memes just looking at pets and the nature thread.
And I’m always on the gratitude thread listing and reading what I and others are so grateful for when we are sober.
It’s hard work. And you’re doing it.
The good thing is, we get our feeling back. The bad thing is, we get our feelings back.
But we can learn tools and tricks to deal with life on life’s terms now. We don’t need that poison.
Great job reaching out here.
Stick with us friend.
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Bravo on your days! AA has kept me feeling good about myself and my world for near 7 yrs now. No one judges, we see the similarities and not the differences and I’ve heard folks say things that just made sense & I really needed to hear that day. Maybe hit a meeting?
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Have you talked to him about fulfilling your needs?
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True this
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Hi Charity,
When drinking is your coping meganism, like it was mine, you have to find a new one.
Like finding a plan B.
I have a few things that are in my plan B box these days:
- Venting
- Chocolat
- Walking
I learned to adress my emotions instead of covering them up in booze.
That wasn’t a thing I learned in a day, and I’m still learning…That’s my recovery progress.
What has helped me was being here a lot, asked help from a coach, made a plan, read self care books and implanted some things they advised in my life.
Being sober helps a lot too because adressing the things you wanna change in life clearheaded is the way to start.
Congratulations with your 8 days! 
May many follow!
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Thank You
Coming to this place has helped me tremendously. Sometimes it is nice just to feel heard. Feeling is hard to do especially when I have spent so much time numbing myself.
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I am definitely going to start walking and pick up a few self help books. Thank you for responding and telling me some of the things that help you on your journey
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