One of the most frustrating things for me in recovery is realising how behind on life i am. I don’t know if it’s just my insecurity or my childhood trauma or my addiction talking but I feel so utterly useless the last while, I just feel like I don’t know who I am or what I’m supposed to do, or I don’t feel like I am a whole person. I also feel completely out of focus and like I’m just barely getting myself by daily.
I know recovery is a long road, and it’s not just giving up the alcohol that solves all the issues, it just allows all the suppressed issues to come to the surface and then you need to start dealing with them one by one, but fuck me it is exhausting, and relentless, and it hurts a lot.
Im 7 months sober soon, in the very beginning I hid myself away in this little safety bubble and just protected myself as much as I could, allowing myself to be fragile and to feel unwell and to not feel bad about what my day to day was like as long as I was sober, that was the most important thing. Now I feel like that little bubble has dissolved and its time to step up and start doing what I need to do, but I have no idea where to start. I feel like I have no skills, I feel like some tasks just seem so impossible to me and I get so frustrated with myself because I feel like I am an idiot, like I am stupid, and I wonder why I am like this. Its very confusing and it hurts a lot but you just keep plodding long day by day hoping one day something will just click. I have such a deep ingrained belief that I am worthless.
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Be kind to yourself and focus on doing the next right thing. Stuff has a way of working out.
This. Don’t compare out. It’s just not worth it. It’s a trap because you can’t truly see all the variables of someone else’s situation. Believe me, everyone has hangups in their life.
Start trying to see the glass half full. One day at a time 
Great job making it 7 months sober! You mean alot to your family and us here,your not worthless. Part of it for me is building back up my self esteem and being comfortable with my sobriety, enjoying life and accepting my flaws or failures. Taking it easy just one step at a time even if im doing very little in a day, if im staying clean and sober my mind will continue to heal. Its never to late to pick up a new skill or tool to help us along our way.
Yes. It is exhausting. It is painful. It is relentless.
But, it is freeing. It is healing. It is giving.
I’ve started getting help for my issues about a year ago. There was so much I was pushing away. So much pain. So much hate. So much sadness. But also so much joy. I pushed it all away.
A year ago, I wanted to die. I was certain I was worthless. Now I would mind dying; it would be very inconvenient.
I can life with myself after a life of hating myself.
I feel so much less hate.
So much less pain.
So much more joy.
It is a long road, and I’ve still got a long way to go. I’m still not 100% okay with who I am. I still have quite some issues. And most, if not all, are caused by continued addict behaviour.
But I’m not worthless. And neither are you. Dedicate some time to helping people, be it through (online)advice, or through giving them physical help. Their gratitude will show you you have value. Just like their gratitude has shown me.
We’re simply not worthless
You are going to find your way!! It’s going to take time to get to where you want to be. Be proud of yourself, you are taking better care of yourself and that is amazing!!!
You’re the man dude.
No one is worthless. Everyone has a story, an experience or a future to contribute to the world. You just did 7 months of hard time in your own mind and getting sober is a great first step. Now try to put a toe out the doorframe and see where you are needed. You have skills to discover and much to give. Stay sober, stay safe and start looking around for your place in this world. 
Interestingly, when I started removing alcohol from my life I realized that like 99% of my non-alcohol problems were because of severe unmedicated ADHD (actually maybe 100% because substance abuse is common with ADHD people). I have no executive function, can’t keep a clean space for the life of me, struggle with any kind of long term goal, can’t focus, have bad sleep and memory… These things that made me feel like a completely worthless person are actually really normal ADHD symptoms that I wasn’t able to see clearly because I was either drunk or hung over all the time, but now I can try to come up with systems to manage it.
Let me begin by saying that your thoughts and feelings right now, are quite normal. You’ve spent some time getting a handle on sobriety, and now you are looking around to assess your current state, while deciding what you should do next.
There is danger and opportunity in moments like these. It’s dangerous to get into a cycle of negative self-talk, where your internal dialog breaks you down. There is opportunity if you choose to be positively discontented.
Positive discontent can be a powerful tool. It can drive you forward. Desire drives action. You can become stronger, smarter, faster, better. You can become kinder, wiser, more secure in who you are. You can get better at getting better!
Or, you can fall backwards. You can constantly and consciously relive past errors and hurts. You can convince yourself you’ll fail, before you’ve even tried. You can spend so much time looking behind you, or comparing yourself to the projected image of those around you, and decide you don’t measure up.
I can see by your avatar picture that you are still quite young. You have a lot of life ahead of you. It’s good to pause now and then to reflect on your progress, but don’t look past that point where you decided to move forward. That’s where your journey began. Then face forward, set your jaw in determination, and get after it!
There’s a big beautiful world out there, and the only thing missing is you, the best you that you can be in this moment, and a better you in the moments to come.
You wrote all those words right out of my head. I am dealing with exactly all those things I am day 28 sober. And now I’m beginning to see clearly the person in the mirror and the more I see the more I detest so my feelings keep going back and forth from humiliation to prayers and talking and sharing and then a little calm a little faith praying fixing even how I pray I can’t articulate properly without the ego selfishness interrupting so I am in a constant struggle. The thing that helps me most is talking to my sponsor and others that have gone before a little further on the path with an exact understanding of where I’m at. God Bless you and I hope you are having a good day.
I relate completely; I’m 52 and I’ve absolutely missed out on life. While I have computer skills, I’ve never finished my education or worked in the field. I struggle with sobriety because I see no potential for long term plans. I’ll probably never get married, can’t have children, no one’s going to give an entry level job to a 52 year old. I’d also planned a backpacking adventure and building an off-grid cabin in the woods. Can’t do those either since I came down with COPD.
The only thing I know for sure is that drinking will make it worse. You’ve got 7 months so far. Keep up the good work, tomorrow is another day!