I feel an enormous hole in my soul and I don’t know why.
I love being sober but not sure how to manage all the “stuff”. Not sure if I’m struggling with PDST from post covid or struggling from moving to a new state.
I find it very hard to get motivated to do anything so to keep from spiraling, I keep my calendar full. That helps but also feels like avoidance.
I know meditation would be helpful, exercise would be helpful, but just can’t.
Is this part of the process or …?
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I felt the same for quite a long time. It is a hard thing to advice people what to do in this situation. I can only share what helped me. I started to attend church. But anyway you will definitely find pleasent to talk to somebody. Maybe a psychologist could also be a helping hand. Scheduling each day like hour after hour and keeping up to it is also a nice idea. Plan some nature walks, eat some food you like. Small life pleasures, helping other people and peace will fill this emptines, I am sure. Oh, a nice classical literature book is a good decision, but not tragedy of course. But you can pass through it, don’t give up.
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It is for me. I’m 4 weeks in. The way I’m looking at it although I’m up and down when I was drinking I felt so much worse. And overall for the 30 years of drinking I did 4 weeks of low mood isn’t too bad. I do think the better days will come, I am getting bursts here and there. Biggest problem now is not being able to sleep in, I’m waking at 4.30am and up by 5.30am. I know a diet overhaul will help sleep but I can’t motivate myself. I’m exhausted come 6pm. Id love a good night’s sleep
Sounds like you’ve had a lot of change recently, sobriety, moving to a new state, I mean, those are some big deal changes and it’s not always easy.
As far as sobriety’s concerned, it’s not uncommon to feel uneasy or feel that something is missing, because something IS missing. For me, with just sobriety alone, it took me over a year before I felt at peace with the my new normal; some people sooner, others longer.
Keep connected with your sober network, you’re not alone and we are here for you for every step of your journey.
Welcome to the to community!
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What’s sleep…LOL!
Some nights are good, most aren’t. That’s probably part of what’s causing me to feel down, depressed and total lack of motivation.
Thanks for mentioning this, it just gave me an ah-ha moment!
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Lots of big changes and now the new friends I have made are shying away. My husband and I refer to them as “professional” drinkers because they can put them down. We’ve gone to dinner a few times, but I can tell they are uncomfortable with the circumstances and maybe fear judgement if they drink. So that sucks.
As far as church, that’s a solid hard pass. I am a spiritual being believing in a higher universal power and energy. But I’m not sure where to find this vibe deep in the red zone of a rural community.
I’m not giving in because these challenges are still better than the alternative.
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