moved out away from emotionally abusive dad and started fixing my life nd my attitude
my friends didn’t like that I was defending myself and being my own person
now it’s just me and my tortoise (occasionally my mum and siblings but that’s still very bittersweet)
I live alone and my life sucks, although i dont hate myself anymore but when I think about the way things have played out, i feel so unlovable and like such a reject. I just want a friendship that is decent and not toxic af
Girl, me too! Just ended a dysfunctional 7 year relationship, and I don’t trust any of my old friends, except for a couple. I used to have the same feelings, like I was unlovable and worthless. I would have probably tried to end it if it weren’t for my dogs. Abusive relationships can do that to you. I’ve been in therapy, and got on antidepressants a few months ago. Things get better
I went through these feelings of loneliness. Its such an empty feeling. I am here for you! It definitely helps to have friends here on TS.
I like to think there is a purpose for everything and so I saw the loneliness as an opportunity to connect to my higher power and to myself. I listen to tons of podcasts, journal, read lots of books, pray, meditate and do fitness classes at the gym. I don’t feel as lonely anymore since now I am so hyperfocused on my own personal growth. Slowly but surely friends started to appear. It was uncomfortable at first reaching out but eventually it started to work. Just know that this loneliness is temporary, you will not always be lonely. Think of what you can do in this time of loneliness to work on yourself. Be your own best friend because you are amazing. Message me if you want!
I know how you feel. Really. I’ve got two or three sober friends IRL so I check in here several times a day. Don’t be afraid to join in, there’s a lot of good people here to talk to!
Same here! I think when we sober up we realize that we had some shitty people in our lives. My friends miss the person I was (when drinking and using). Plus, I am a different person now and don’t want to be involved in the same things I was previously. I keep telling myself that line about " I would rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone just to be with someone".
we’re all here for you, u can join the zoom meetings if u need to talk also
What you are doing is the best thing for you, moving away for the abuse thats a huge step sending you a big hug …
You are not unlovable, sounds like u have made some big changes and it takes a while to find a new groove. If u post regularly u will start to find people u have stuff in common with. Why not write a little about ur interests?
It definitely helps to have friends here on TS.
