Thought I’d revive this topic because the struggle is real for us singles.
I’ve tried reaching out again online, joined a “adventure singles” group on Faceache, joined some of the group chats… Woke up this morning to a bunch of misoginistic/ pornographic messages in the chat.
I haven’t dated much in the last 7 years of being single but when I have sporadically, I couldn’t help but notice that people in the online dating pool have become ‘rushed’ for lack of a better term.
I understand that creating an online dating profile and determining what you do and do not want in a partner is hard work and takes a lot of effort, but that should only the beginning. Nowadays, people expect that an online match automatically means a click and they seem to shy away from actually getting to know each other and taking it slow.
Call me old-fashioned but I value proper dates, enjoying music together, cooking for a potential partner, going out on hikes and adventures etc., all before we discuss and decide if we want to jump each other’s bones, meet the in-laws, move in together and so on!
I’ve been reaching out in real life since Covid, which is tricky because I am not a social person really.
Joining clubs has been a great way to connect and meet new friends, but every time I meet a nice guy it is shortly after that I also met their lovely partner.
I feel like giving up on it.
I don’t even want kids and so glad not to have that pressure, I feel sorry for women of my age who do want kids and have not found the right person (I’m 43).
I just want to meet an equal, to share adventures, camping , hiking maybe a bit of climbing… and to rely on and to also support. But it feels impossible at this stage.
I’ve been asked out this year but twice by guys who are really just exceedingly age inappropriate and who I thought were friends. And also by a guy who just lives out of his van and for me finding an equal in terms of age appropriateness, career and employment status is valuable to me.