Todays been pretty stressful. Apartment had some flooding, had a lot I needed to get done, son wouldnt sleep. Ended up having a beer while playing games but was able to go to bed when my husband did instead of staying up and having more.
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I guess you need to ask yourself what your goal is here. If your goal is sobriety, deciding to have a beer is not meeting that goal.
If you wanna drink less, deciding to drink one beer is better than more than one.
This, however, is a sobriety forum, you won’t get advice on moderation here. And for the alkie or druggie, the more important issue is that as long as you’re not working on recovery, that is learning about and taking care of the mental and emotional side of your addiction on the basis of complete abstinence, you’re working on i.e. just managing your addiction.
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It’s either something you can control all of the time or something you just don’t have control over… there is no in between. If you have a dog that only bites you 40% of the time do you trust that dog?
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Reading your post you had a beer to release some of the stress the events of the day caused you. Knowing you from the past days you’re an addict like the rest of us. Knowing my addict self I had to quit doing booze and drugs as ways to deal with stress because that dysfunctional coping mechanism was destroying me, and find other ways to deal with life and its stressors. I am. Totally quitting all booze and drugs took me a while. But for me being sober and clean is the only logical solution to my addictions.
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If your goal is moderation having one beer is considered a success. If your goal is sobriety its not a success. It depends on what your goals are…
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Dunno… I’d say 70%, even 80% of the days I drank were uneventful. It was usually a bottle of wine at night, sometimes I’d have a couple of drinks out then get home and go to bed, maybe a bit tipsy.
Sure, I was living my life in a constant state of being mildly hangover, but I got used to it…
But every few weeks, sometimes months, I would get that second bootle, then the third, then the big bad blackout, then I’d wake up feeling like death and full of guilt, apologising profusely before even knowing or being told what I’ve done that I need to apologise for.
I’m pretty sure today I could drink one glass of wine and stop there.
I am also pretty sure that if I do that today, a few days/weeks from now I’ll wake up with that sinking post blackout feeling and a lot of broken shards that need to be picked up.
Never again.
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Your journey is yours. If sobriety is your goal, then read around on here. In the 5 years I have been here, there are no happy endings that started with drinking just one.
I get the point of view that you had 1 and were done. Problem is, while it seems like a victory…it always leads to more.
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The benefits of having zero alcohol in your system for a long time far outweigh the feeling of having a one beer for me. And I don’t even kid myself to think I can limit it to one beer. And even if I could have just one beer, I kind of don’t see the point. But everyone is different and I wish you the very best!
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