Day 316 and checking in…I hope you’ll have had a great weekend so far…be kind to yourselves today and have a another great day in recovery 
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2 months 12 days
Had a lovely day yesterday with my little family
Bit of a crappy sleep but up and it’s a miserable & raining day, but hey ho sod it! Actually feel quite good as yesterday, cup of coffee, some morning yoga & meditation then some family time and maybe out for some shopping etc, starting to get a bit more confidence back, which is nice 
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Day 363 
Weekend 
Going to a little festival today.
I know it involves a lot of alcohol, but wich festival is not 
So the first thing I’m doing when I enter it is buying a bottle of water.
I manage!
Have a great sober sunday TS friends
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Yes…nothing too intense, it’s hard to be mad when you wake up with a view over looking the Mediterranean 
just the ups and downs of life
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We take when we need to Bud, and give back when we can. No one can ask for more from us.
Take it easy.
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Take it easy Josh. Make sure @Dejavu, Dan stands by what he promised!
Back when he thought that there was no chance you’d go through with it! 
Sorry Dan.
@mleclaire, Emilie, hugs to you. You know what’s what girl. Yes we are going to get constant reminders. Just helps to reinforce us.
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Good morning. Heading into day 21. This is the same amount of days I had when I made the decision to have a drink. I had “planned” on drinking for our camping trip when I joined the forum. So I figured a few days before the trip, I might as well have some anyway since I’d be resetting. Something feels different now. Maybe because no more camping trip planned. Maybe because I continue to read posts on here daily that make me reconsider pouring that first drink. Thoughts of moderation sneaking back in (and I know they’re just trying to trick me). I’m excited to push past these 21 days though I know they’ll be challenging in my home environment but reading, bookmarking posts, tough love posts… they’re keeping me going. YOU are keeping me going. I thank you 
Happy Sunday! Time for another coffee & time with tiny human
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15Th sept 1986 i walked into my first AA meeting so today im 33 years sober./thats why i say go to a meeting they help ,
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Wow, so much honesty here that I’m catching up on today.
@anon30771928 - I spent the first few months wondering why they didn’t rewrite the big book to be more modern. then i learned that if they tried, it would probably tear the place apart. keep what works as it is and work from that. I have a bunch of different books - mindfulness and the 12 steps, and my sponsor and i use “a woman’s way through the 12 steps”. At first I was annoyed because I didn’t understand why women’s alcoholism is different and was annoyed it was pink with a flower on it (I want to complain about everything really), but really it is like a trauma informed approach and isn’t just about alcohol (food etc). Anyway, I hope you find your path and the solutions you seek, whatever it may be. 
@MrCade Keep breathing, my friend. We are all here with you. Changes to relationships are HARD - there are many people here that have gone through it. You are a sober rock star in my book and watching your journey from when you first washed up here has been miraculous. You’ve gone from shaking and terrified to finding internal strength. Stay with us, my friend.
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Nice one @Ray_M_C_Laren !!! Thanks for being sober and being here and sharing your journey with us. I know it always helps me 
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Congratulations Ish on 70! 
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180 Days @KevinesKay
200 Days @mleclaire
33 Years @Ray_M_C_Laren
Numbers are just that, but the people, their stories, and their perseverance, give these numbers significance. I am happy to know you all!
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Tales from the Sofa, chapter ??
My knee bends about 15 degrees now. Walking like a pirate with a peg leg, just swinging this useless f*cker around. 
Less constant pain, but it’s still uncomfortable 100% of the time.
The hub complained about an achey finger when he walked past the sofa this morning and I wanted to clothesline him with my crutch.
Yep…immobility for months on end can make a gal cranky.
Get out there and have a swashbuckling Sunday, mateys!!!
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Just checking in . 8 days💓. Feel nice .
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If I’m going to make 33 years sober I’m 84 years old 
But who knows! 
Congratulations Ray and thank you for being around to show us a large amound of sober days is possible!!
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Day 250. Planning a long hike with my husband today. It is a sunny, cool fall day - just perfect. 
Sending extra love and prayers to those of you who need that extra strength today. One day at a time. Keep going. You can do this! Much love to you all. 
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Ray you are one of the living examples of aa working. Works for me too. So many congrats on your 33rd anniversary mister!!!
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Cade, I was going to say similar to what @Lionfish has said.
When I started this sobriety thing, I too started to think that sobriety is the most important thing in my life. Above all else.
About 4 months ago my wife and I had a couple of serious arguments while she had been drinking. One of them the neighbours called the police in!
I stayed sober even though both times all I wanted to do was get totally wasted.
The day after the first argument, I had already planned a wild camping night away on my own. So I did this anyway and used it as a chance to start to get my head around not being with my wife in the future.
Over the next month or so I worked through a load of shit in my head, letting go of my marriage basically. I had everything worked out. Where I would go to live, how I was going to spend my time etc etc.
Slowly my wife and I started to enjoy our life together again. She isn’t drinking these days apart from if she sees friends.
But today, I feel that if something happened, and to be fair, we’ve not really resolved anything, just things have got better, I wouldn’t feel as bad as I would have done .
I used to think that I couldn’t live my life without her. Literally. I’ve had suicidal thoughts in the past when we have had big bust ups.
But now sobriety has helped me see myself.
Don’t get me wrong, I love her to bits, she is a wonderful woman. Been through the wringer like we all have.
Hope you can take some solace from this in that you ain’t alone mate. I mean marriage is a big part of our identity, of who we are. And a break up of any marriage, is like death, yeah?
Stay strong buddy!
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Yes I’m sober. No I can’t avoid them
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