That was interesting.
I think we as entities are neither the body, nor thoughts, nor emotions, nor choices because these are so temporary, accidental and do not define us entirely. I think we are potentials. Potentials behind our thoughts, feelings and choices which can be different based on the circumstances. But the main core, the will which gives power to the surface is constant.
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Itās funny you mention this because I had the same thing happen to me the other day. I was at my in-lawsā place and my father in-law offered me a beer. Heās always known me as a big drinker but he also knows that I havenāt been drinking for a while (we go on a lot of trips and usually drink together).
I politely declined the beer and he said āOh so youāre still doinā that huh?āā¦Meaning not drinking.
He didnāt mean it in a negative way at all, but itās funny how to me sobriety is one of the most important things in my life (and I donāt think Iāve ever been more proud of anything else Iāve done) and my mind is made up that it is a permanent decision but to others it seems like Iām just taking a short break. It goes to show how much of our identity really becomes intertwined with drinking.
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Day 1411 sober. Iām finishing an 8 week IOP therapy group next week that I had to do to get disability benefits. Itās been great for my depression. And, a couple of the other group members have decided to get sober!
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Itās so true! Thank you for the kind words, that really means a lot 
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Day 47. Iām still feeling kind of groggy today. Iām making a birthday cake for hubs. Itās a cinnamon Bundt cake. Iāve never made one before so hopefully it comes out! It smells good, for whatever thatās worth! 
his birthday is on Monday and it is supposed to snow all day tomorrow and Monday so weāre going to have dinner with my parents tonight. Iād like to take the dogs for a walk today before it gets too cold.
So as for my scope yesterday. I have reflux and chronic gastritis. One of the key causes? Alcohol. Iām guessing it came from when I was drinking so much vodka on an empty stomach and not eating. Itās treatable with medication (which my insurance of course wonāt cover, so Iām trying the OTC stuff) and diet. Iām a little confused on what changes I should be making as far as diet, so Iāve just been doing some research this morning. Iām relieved to have answers finally and hopeful that Iāll start to feel better.
Happy sober Saturday!
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Congrats to you! 28 days is huge!
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Checking in, day 41. I just finished work for today at 10 pm and tomorrow will be a longer day. Iām quite tired, but at least I didnāt have time for pondering. Sometimes my greatest enemy is free time.
My shrink advised to focus on the short-term issues, not thinking about the solution of my future. I try to stick with that, although I donāt want to stuck in a condition, where I donāt plan and donāt control just live day by day. On the other hand I know that in this period of my life I should go with micromanagement and shouldnāt bother myself about the big picture. I donāt know. But at least Iām sober.
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I hope you can stay away from the stuff tomorrow!
Well done on 4 weeks. 
Goodnight all.
Kind of a rough day todayā¦ I really wanted to go buy some wine, with the ridiculous notion that that would wash away some of the loneliness. But I know that it wouldnāt, of course.
Most of the time, Iām OK with being alone all the time, but sometimes itās a little harder than at other times.
So no, I didnāt go buy any wineā¦ I just got back to work, itās really all I have.
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Be relieved and proud that ya head is touching the pillow clean n sober, some ppl wonāt have that privilege tonight, lots of self love rest well tomorrow promises another day to make a difference. Xx
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Thatās so good that you know what youāre dealing with and how to help yourself feel better. Iām so glad to hear they didnāt find something more serious. Enjoy dinner with your parents tonight!
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@CapriciousCapricorn Super congratulations! You have come so far and I am in awe at how much you give to help others on here!
@zzz This is a forum of people and so regular people dynamics, so there will be fallings out, cliques, etc. Donāt let it faze you. But the aim of everyone here is to stay sober, so if u are doing that there will be people to support you.
@Lilemm Youāre killing it with the memes lately!
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As long as you like yourself and love yourself, thatās all that matters. The rest will fall into placeā¦ As the old saying goes, what other people think of you is none of your business 
you do you
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Owwwww bless you for making a cake for him. Thatās sweet pun intended 
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happy Sunday friendsā¦ Today is my favourite day of the weekā¦ I love Sundayās. I love how Sundayās always feels like. Sundayās, even during this last 6 month quarantine, every day is the same but Sunday still feels like Sunday lolā¦ Do you know what I mean? The people out side are just Sunday people. The people waiting at the coffee shop for there take away coffees are Sunday People with there active wear and super cool prams and babies and there puppies etc lolā¦ Itās just the best vibe. No matter what mood you are in, if you go out for a walk on a Sunday morning, just the energy out there is guaranteed to brighten your day! So my point is, get out and go for a walk lf your feeling sluggish! Itās a game changer 
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Day 1027
Hey folks, long time no see 
I hope everybody is still going strong and if not, getting back up?
Very early sunday morning here (night to be honest lol), I just chattet many hours with a man I met at an online dating site. I finally feel ready to start dating again. Itās so exciting. Weāll see where it leads me.
Otherwise Iām doing good, except sports. I became lazy again coughs BUT Iāll change that.
So far so good, hugs to all of you fam.
Have a beautiful sober weekend all 
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