You did the right thing. You have to be “selfish” (in a totally non-blameworthy sense), you have to set the boundaries. First, because you’re an independent grown-up person and have every right to do so. This is the only way you can have healthy relationships either with your family either with guys. Second of all, your sobriety is your first priority at the moment, so even if there wasn’t any family drama, you could choose to skip this Thanksgiving without feeling guilty to do so. You cannot treat and consider unhealthy relationships as healthy. You cannot act as if you were in a balanced relationship, if the other party takes advantage of you or blackmails you emotionally.
So don’t feel bad about your choice, feel proud to stand up for yourself and for keep going on your sober path.
@anon27760155 and @TSan I’m sorry you guys are both having a rough time.
Amazing job not picking up; I feel like (at least for me) it’s hard to remember sometimes that being sober isn’t always going to be amazing and fun.
Life and bullshit still happens so I try to focus on being grateful that sobriety allows us to handle those challenges with a clear mind. I also find solace in the knowledge that drinking would just make any issue worse and exponentially harder, if not impossible, to fix.
You both are so strong for sticking with the sober path, keep up the hard work 
Day 150 clean and sober today. Re purchased the Power of Now last night and there are some really powerful things that are pointed out and can help me with my journey but there are also to me some kinda far out shit that just resonates the wrong way with me lol. Maybe I’m not fully conscious yet idk lmmfao!!! It feels good to laugh at myself and at things in my life. I’m really done with taking things so seriously and being uptight/anxious. I know that I can’t make it all go away as I have a couple awesome disorders that deal with my mental health but I think I can at least try and stop feeding them with extra things lol. Don’t know if I’m making sense but I know it’s time to lighten up a little more on myself. The only thing I need to be 100% serious about is not picking up the first drink, that is definitely a life and death decision. Have a great day everyone, love you guys!!! 
That is BADASS!!! Way to go sticking up for yourself and yes you’re setting healthy boundaries right on!!! SUPER proud of you, you’re really kicking ass good job!!!
Checking in on day 1 for me. Hope everyone has a great day. I logged my goals for this morning and I really hope this helps me stay on track 
Congratulations on your 5 months Rebecca. That’s awesome. Your so worth it.
@anon27760155 you are another badass that’s here and gives me so much inspiration and motivation to do the right thing. I am so amazed by you everyday and want you to know you’re really making a difference in my life and I’m sure many others. Keep up the good work Danni f**k yeah!!!
Totally here for you April!!! Like everyone has already said, it happened, don’t beat yourself up we love you!!!
On you hundred days.
You’re awesome lady!!
Checking in on Day #73. Feel so much lighter and happier. With these elections behind us, work will drop off and I can begin to relax. Taking a few days off these week to rest and recharge. Never realized until sobriety how really important it is to designate time to relax, if possible. No wonder Genesis says on the 7th day He rested!
Guilt is such a hard thing to deal with, just remeber you can’t be present for others if you’re not sober. Your sobriety has to come first at all cost. Those who love you will understand even if they don’t right away. Hang in there.
Oh TSan… I’m just about to head into my day but wanted to send you a hug and some encouragement! You’re strong and brave to face all of this sober and your feelings about it too.
The meme below (I steal from the mental health memes thread all the time) reminds me of your situation - you are already doing this! Amazing.
Big hug to you Max too 
@anon27760155 Congrats on 
keep fighting!
@Ravikamor Congrats on 5 months 
@anon28001181 Congrats on 90 days
@Rockstar24777 Congrats on 150
@apes2020 Hope to see you checking back in soon
59 days.
I’ve had an off day. Really not feeling it lately, seem to have lost motivation for my walks, it’s been really foggy here and the limited visibility invokes fear in me, as I’m already hyper-vigilant from PTSD effects so I need to be able to see clearly to feel safe enough to be outside, so maybe it’s just that.
I spent a lot of time in bed with Prince curled up against me, I did some meditations and attempted to nap but couldn’t as usual.
It feels like depression creeping back up a notch, hopefully not though. Will see how tomorrow goes.
I ate crisps today (chips for American friends), it’s not the end of the world but it’s also not part of the plan.
I need to get back fully on my diet and stick to it, push myself to get out for the early morning walks as well as the afternoon ones, and read some more or listen to more audiobooks.
Pain has really flared up, but I’m refusing to take any of my pain meds because they don’t work anyway so I stopped them all a few weeks back. It’s just a case of riding it out til it settles again.
I need some oomph from somewhere!
Haha I will be 30 in two weeks 
but thank you for your kind reply, I’m not really proud, but relieved I made it past the point where I relapsed last time.
We’ll use the time of Covid to become confident enough in our sobriety that socializing won’t be an issue when it’s over 
Checking in, day 4. Today I worked a lot, but at least finished this task and could send it back to the client. Now there will be some easier days, but I’m quite swamped till mid-December.
I asked my friend how is she, because she is having some serious problems, but I didn’t talk about myself when she asked about me and I ended the conversation quickly. I feel myself a jerk for doing it. On one hand I would like to explain this whole situation to her, so she could understand my passivity and silence, on the other hand I don’t want to cause new problems for her.
strangely late check in for you, great numbers though so worth the wait.
Thankful for 3 weeks sober. I have more energy, my skin looks better, my moods are more even, i am exercising regularly, and I just feel better in general. Bad days still happen, but it is nothing compared to waking up filled with shame, anxiety, and a raging hangover. Here’s to 24 more hours sober
