I like to workout or run alone too, Mike. It’s my “me time”. Nothing wrong with establishing what you need.
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I’ll echo @anon60334405 and @Joyce19.
I have a tendency to make knee jerk reactions to situations I don’t like. I want a quick change. Sometimes that causes me to make a rash decision because I’m rushing.
Slowing down, assessing, making a plan, and then responding, I think, is better than reacting quickly in these situations. You don’t have to stay at the job forever, but you can probably tolerate it until to get something better suited for you lined up.
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I have had that same drinking dream! So strange, and unsettling. No hangover tho!
Last night I had a dream of smoking this huge joint. And somehow it fell apart and everyone else was mad at me for being so lame. Weird, because I have rarely even smoked pot in the last 25 years. Our brains are so strange.
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Welcome! I am a week into this. Story sounds similar. We got this!
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225 today.
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Good morning (here)! Day #85. Grateful for this community and its support. Also, if I ever give in to wine, I’ll never be able to show my virtual face here again. I know that’s bad, that means I’m not addressing the tugs, but, honestly, I never drank to numb. I drank because my parents drank and their parents drank and that’s how I grew up. Just looking to break the cycle for the benefit of me and my adult son who paved the way. Looking forward to a productive and relaxing day! We can do this.
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Aw @Misokatsu I feel for you! Because I am the same way. I am proud of you for getting out there though and doing the darn thing sober!!!
For myself I realize I do better sociallizing with one or two people. That energizes me and I feel good about it! Not large groups. Large groups drain me like no other. Perhaps you are the same way? Nothing wrong with it! But yes I feel you on the whole hiding behind alcohol for so long… at least you are learning now. I am so proud of how far you have come!! Be easy on yourself. We 
you!! 
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Same here!! I’m so excited. I always used to avoid eating just so I could drink more and get more drunk. This year I’m so excited to actually enjoy the food and everyone’s company instead of focusing on getting drunk.
@Figgie keep up the good work! I think it’s fair to say we all have cravings at some point, it’s only natural. Recently when I’ve been having cravings, I just think of 5 instances when drinking led to something bad happening. Inevitably it’s 5 different events each time I make the mental list (thank god I found sobriety when I did). So far that’s been working like a charm and the cravings pass as quick as they showed up. I thought of the principle of making a list of 5 or 10 good things you did during the day while you’re trying to fall asleep at night and then applied it to cravings.
@Jenni congrats on one week!! That’s awesome 
@RainbowUnicorn Welcome to TS, this place is amazing and you’ll find a lot of great advice and a sense of community here.
@Dragonflygirl82 I just saw your post about struggling with the down time of being sick and all the judgmental people. I hope you feel better soon and those people who do judge you should mind their own business. What you said about every person fighting a battle that you don’t know about is one of the most important things I’ve ever learned. Hope you feel better soon!
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Thank you @anon28001181 that does make a lot of sense! I was just thinking when you said knee jerk reactions that I forget that one of the characteristics of being an addict is instant gratification and expectations for things to be fixed “right now”. Thank you for that bro that really helps put things in perspective. Have a great day!
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Awwww thank you for your support lil sis, you always have the nicest things to say!!! Yes I’m going to go with the flow and just do what’s in front of me which is rest my back. Thank you again for the wonderful support I hope you have a beautiful day today!!! 
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I’m glad you stayed sober during your night out.
I’m sure the other people are in their heads about their own insecurities. We tend to think that we’re the only ones, but everyone has shit they deal with.
It’s not pointless at almost 40. You have a lot of life left to live. Whatever you decide you want to develop or work on, is definitely worth it.
And for what it’s worth, I don’t see the appeal of anime either. 
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I’ll stay sober today with you.- I can’t. He can. I think I’ll let him. When I’m agitaged or doubtful or how to react. I don’t react, I pause, and i say thy will be done, I’m no longer running the show. It helps
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Welcome back!
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Good morning from sunny SC. Nothing like waking up clear headed and feeling good! I love reading all the positive posts and reports of sobriety days stacking up! @Joy 500, @Figgie 85, @Harold 225. Outstanding all. I am on Day 7 Again. Is that an actual number? 
I appreciate 7 days, but I have done that so many times it is staggering. My goal is to never have a Day 7 again. Biggest stretch of sobriety? 18 years. Hmmmm…could still make or break that record but not if I don’t stop for good. Like…now!! Today is my younger son’s birthday so I wont wreck it today. That I know. 
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Those 18 years were not wasted, though. So there’s that!
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I had a group of some guys I hang out with a lot biking, drinking, running maybe. Spending most of my free time with them. Now, I don’t have that group anymore and working out alone most of the times. Sometimes I wish I would find a group again but on the other side I like being alone, not being stressed by the rhythm of others. If someone gives me advices w/o me asking for them I can react quite aggressive. I have to learn to not react on everything. They can give advices. I don’t have to take them and in the end I can decide not to hang around them anymore.
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Atta girl 
True that. And since my initial relapse in 2004 I have had many more not drinking days than drinking days. I’m greedy. I want them ALL to be non drinking. I know how to do this. I just need to DECIDE to do it for good. That is one of the reasons I am here. Soaking in the sobriety and wisdom and support.
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