Sorry you have found yourself in this situation. I can’t really add anything to what has been said. There is professional help out there, It won’t of, course, be an instant fix as you know and her treatment will no doubt involve how you, your husband and your children, react around her, which means you taking on roles as therapist and enforcer. In the long run though your whole family will benefit I wish you all the best and I have so much respect that you have not relapsed during this difficult time.
The only thing I didn’t do was outline clear and measurable goals. I brainstormed lightly but I didn’t write anything down. I’ll do a rug draft here.
a year from now I want to lose 60lbs and be able to do a hand stand and clime trees with ease. I pull up would also be nice
this April I want to graduate from my Ecosystem Managment course.
over the next four months I want to complete several renovations around the house I’m living in. This requires I encourage not only myself but others to get the work done. Basement is first priority.
this summer I want to wwoof to BC or somewhere more tropical (pandemic pending).
-I want to check in with a friend of mine in some capacity at least 5 times a week.
-I want to maintain a whole food plant based diet. I’m vegan now so the trick will be stay away from junk, and more crucially not going crazy if I do slip up.
meditate everyday. Tune in drop out
-drink absurd amounts of that golden liquid, green tea everyday.
That felt good to write out. Non of this discribe if or how I will make any money in the next little while, I may have to work on it but we’ll see. For now I have to go work on the basement.
Yes to everything you said! I am ready to start giving back more. I want to help people out of addiction but then I think I am still too wobbly in my own sobriety to attempt to help anyone. I feel like its calling me though. Right now I am just trying to lead by example. Id like to find other ways to give back… I do a few small things. I cut and color everyone in my family’s hair for free and I sponsor a child in Colombia but thats not enough… I need more ideas. Its hard to volunteer with Covid. Plus I dont have a babysitter and I am glued to a toddler.
Just posted this on the Daily Gratitude List.
Thought I’d share it here too.
Sorry. Not sorry.
I’m grateful I’ve conditioned my brain to be grateful every morning.
So, it just dawned on me as Daisy got on top of me in bed this morning (my cat! In case you’re reading the Daily Gratitude List for the first time ) that I start my gratitude list in my head as soon as my eyes open. I thought today I’m going to list that I’m grateful for uncontrollable purring. Then I got up and thought how grateful I was my back didn’t hurt. I love to stick my schnoz in the cup of fresh ground coffee beans right after I grind them. I thought I’m going to put that on the list . So basically, after a year of consistently doing this gratitude list EVERY FREAKIN DAY and some days it is actually a struggle to get it started. I’ve realized I created and attitude of gratitude that becomes the solid foundation of my day. And then I realize this is impossible when fighting a 3 alarm hangover in the morning. Those mornings with hangovers I had conditioned myself to “poor me.” “Good morning shame.” “Hello guilt.” Was that fun? Are ya having a good morning?
I’m having a freakin epiphany here folks!!!
BE GRATEFUL!!
Love you guys.
Anxiety but depression both are Through the roof today I’m debating on posting it or not. Just alot of unexpected turns I said I was prepared for, until they became reality. I spoke some of it to a close friend locally who gave me the typical recovery canned responses.
Thank you! I needed to read this and be reminded to be more grateful!! Such a great habit to have!! I might head over there and write out a gratitude list. #1) Grateful for you!
@Fury Hoping the best outcome for you today. Reality can both suck and be awesome. Always wait 1 breath after final desperation, because its
always a better reality.
Day 168…
Finally got some yoga in yesterday! Finally getting back into my rythm.
Ive been a bit distracted by my phone so I am going to take a 3 day break. I will be back Monday! I need to get some journaling done and get some goals set for this New Year. Love you guys!
I lost 3 best friends.
Liquor
Beer
And Wine
They were never really there for me. They were so fucking selfish. They sucked the life out of me and never once gave back.
It helps me to list the reasons why not to drink and then write out my plan for the night. I remind myself its only a night, dawn will be here before I know it. Maybe plan a special treat for yourself for the next morning:-) Good luck @SugarBear60
My sobriety is influencing others I work with to come out about there problems with it and start with one day sober…how cool is that all I did was tell them about myself and i guess it’s made them think it’s possible yay x
on your first week. 
) that I start my gratitude list in my head as soon as my eyes open. I thought 
today I’m going to list that I’m grateful for uncontrollable purring. Then I got up and thought how grateful I was my back didn’t hurt. I love to stick my schnoz in the cup of fresh ground coffee beans right after I grind them. I thought I’m going to put that on the list 
. So basically, after a year of consistently doing this gratitude list EVERY FREAKIN DAY and some days it is actually a struggle to get it started. I’ve realized I created and attitude of gratitude that becomes the solid foundation of my day. And then I realize this is impossible when fighting a 3 alarm hangover in the morning. Those mornings with hangovers I had conditioned myself to “poor me.” “Good morning shame.” “Hello guilt.” Was that fun? Are ya having a good morning?