@Complicatedmama Hugs.
M7 D15
Feeling happy that things are ticking along. I am organising some extra classes for my son who is struggling at school, he needs more individual support that he can’t get in school in a class of 30. Glad I am sober so I can pick up extra classes to pay for it, and be available to ferry him there and back.
Managed a 20 minute jog today. I was able to do it in the autumn, got lazy when it was cold, and lost all stamina.
Sending you the biggest hug mama. You are so strong. 
and those cupcakes look amazing.
Wow congrats! 
Okay…I have a question for you. I’m reading “This Naked Mind” right now and learning how the brain chemistry changes associated with drinking actually cause our brains to think we “need” alcohol for stress reduction when in fact the alcohol is all the while creating or exacerbating the perceived stress. I noticed you kicked alcohol first…did you feel a substantial stress reductive effect after the first couple weeks that supported your move to quit smoking?
Thank you Paul!
Love from here, too. What a beautiful encompassing heart you have.
Sending you hugs.
Checking in on day 313. Second part of my trip starts today. Made it through the first part sober, so I think I should be okay for the second part. While I’ll be alone more, it’s more calming for me. I drank a lot because of social anxiety, so being by myself doesn’t trigger me as much. Hope everyone had a good day today.
Great day today seen my BFF from treatment cleaned the floors getting ready for my grandsons 1st birthday party can’t believe he’s gonna be one he’s already walking when he was 10 months oh boy look out world lol I’m just so blessed I am sober so I can truly enjoy him god is good!!
Oh, friend - it’s not about letting me or any one of us down!
I know you came around on all this today, but I was thinking about your post as I puttered about, and you know what?
Trigger Warning: Yeah, sometimes I miss it. Or I think I do. Just like @Dazercat posted a few days ago. Usually, it’s when I’m heading into a time of year or an activity or something that I previously associated with my full wine glass beside me, but not always…
You know what else though? I left this community for about 6 weeks, last spring. Nothing bad happened. Except it was so damn much work to prove to myself I could moderate. Eventually, it was too hard. And quite quickly, I missed all the things about being sober that I had traded away so fast! So I came back here.
Bottom line for me: I have yet to wake up, one single morning, and wish that I had had a drink the night before. So yes, I let myself miss it sometimes. And it passes, especially when I think about the future, when I’m an old woman, (kind of whiskery like my grandmother), in my rocking chair on my porch, and I bet I don’t say to myself “I regret not drinking.” 
Just one of the best perks? You put it best 
And apologies also - this just fell out of me!
Made it a week without a cigarette, seems to be easier than I thought it would be. I am reminding myself that I am capable of quitting for good just like millions of others who have. Also saying if and when I do want to smoke then if I smoke just one then that would ruin it for me, and I’d be back to smoking just the way I think about drinking if I ever get the urge to do either and it’s working. Also thank you everyone for the words of encouragement.
Thanks Paul, I’m so happy you’re doing so great my friend. Sobriety is so so doable, just odaat.
Blessings and sobriety!
10 days today without any drop of alcohol.
IT seems nothing compared those ones of you that hit that 3 numbers, but im in the right path. Not so proud tho…
I got back to my reading, walking, drawing habits, and have mental clarity. That’s awesome
Bad thing is that I still want to have a beer so much. I’m still emotionally dependent, I don’t really know if I like the person im sober, because I don’t know who she is…and a huge fear that others reject me because they met me during my addiction and now I don’t want to pretend anymore…: accept myself as I truly am.: That will get more work than just don’t drink
Thanks, I actually wanted to quit both alcohol and cigarettes at the same time but I realised it would be unrealistic for me because the hold cigarettes had on me was so strong I couldn’t go an hour without one. I knew I was through both these vices but I was only going to quit when the time was right for me and I was comfortable to suffer withdrawal like a true martyr. I really didn’t give it much more thought than that. I guess I woke up on day 24 af and because of accountability and other factors I was sure quitting smoking won’t trigger me to drink. Haven’t looked back since and pray daily to never going back to that place.
Blessings and sobriety!
thank you! I’m a bit lost and advice from people who know what I’m going through is really really appreciated. 
What was your experience with your social circle? not only with family and closest friends … but with those you thought you would lose if you weren’t a little drunk.
There is a little saying. You want to see who your true friends are? Get sober, it’s true. I don’t want to say I lost my friends, but I outgrew them just like you will. It’s not a bad thing tho, I made new friends and so will you. Your going to be finding yourself and figuring out who you are. I felt very lost and confused just like you. Life is good, not easy and still confused sometimes. But I’m sober that’s all that matters, trust the process.
Day 417. Gonna get a morning lift in. I was super grouchy yesterday what I said me and the girls were gonna do didn’t happen. They played out back and I was just a grouch for no reason so today I need to make it up to them and give them big hugs. I really do hate it when I’m like that, that was suppose to be who I was when I was in addiction, not sober. I cried a little when I went to bed things are so good yet they don’t see it. I remind myself of all the stuff I have to be grateful for and how my I have achieved.
I got some fake skin and tattoo ink and practiced yesterday, I actually did really fricken good.
I’ve just woke up so today you have been sober longer than me. Well done on double digits thats amazing. 
yeah I know 
thank you my friend.
