@Tomek sending strength 
@jjcarson92 congrats on 15 months 
@I.cant.We.can congrats on 450 days
@Truckinmonster21 congrats on 3 weeks loving your positivity as always 
@anon27760155 congrats on your smoke-free week
@gmeeb congrats on your PB
@iSage congrats on 200 days
@JoMarch congrats on 4 months sorry for your struggles, sending strength
@MrsOdh so sorry to hear about your husband and that you can’t be with him, sending strength and prayers
@Charlie_C so glad your found your cat, one of mine hides in the strangest places sometimes too and never comes to his name, has me worried even when I know I haven’t left doors or windows open 
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@Misokatsu congrats on 5 weeks no BE
@Chmixon congrats on 90 days
@EarnIt congrats on double digits
@Rockstar24777 good luck at the hospital 
245 days no alcohol.
213 days no cocaine.
I have the best news! 
…WE HAVE EXCHANGED!!!
I cannot describe how good it feels for all of the tension of the last 14 months (since putting my flat on the market) to be leaving my mind and body, wow, so relieved!
I have just paid the deposit and asked when I can sign the tenancy docs for the rental, hopefully he will say tomorrow, I can’t wait, I’m so excited now .
The springtime sun is shining lately and I’ve been laying here with my bedroom door wide opening letting the fresh breeze in and listening to all the birds, it’s absolutely beautiful, I will miss this, but I will just have to get outside more to get my doses of nature 
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Day 217: Feeling really good about my share yesterday and the new connections I made here as a result. Excellent! Also, I had a really good conversation with my husband last night. He asked if I wanted him to stop brewing. I said no. He loves it and it is a wonderful hobby. I just asked that he stop with some of what he does to try and include me. He has another friend who is into the brewing and that needs to be enough. I can listen to him talk about the process but I don’t want to smell the variety of hops anymore or taste what he’s making at different points in the brewing. He is just such a good man, I’m very lucky in my choice of partner. He is on board and is even starting another stint of sobriety with me. He recognizes the difference between having one beer and just not drinking in terms of his attitude and how he is feeling in general. He sees how wonderful it can be to be sober. It’s so helpful to be able to talk to him about this in such an honest and open way!!! Man, I’m super happy about this today. Sorry y’all for the gushing. Hope you are getting through your Monday okay. Sending love 
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I can’t tell you how freaking happy I am for you! I’ve been on pins and needles waiting for this news! Congratulations my friend!
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@RosaCanDo it’s really beautiful to know you’ve got this type of relationship with your husband. Proud of you for reassessing your boundaries, and I don’t think the tasting takes anything away from your recovery 
Just seen your other message, thank you!
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Thank you so much for sharing all of this Rosa. It all really hits a cord with me. My husband just started cider making as a new adventure/hobby for himself a couple of months before I decided to be sober. It’s been a lot of fun for him and he is really enjoying it. I wasn’t sure how it was going to play out with my chosing to be sober. Seeing you and your husband handle your similar situation so well makes me very happy. I’m lucky in my situation because cider was never really my thing and it is such a new thing for my husband that I luckily hadn’t started in the tasting process or anything with him before becoming sober. I know he would really like for me to be able to be involved and taste but he has been nothing but respectful of the boundary that I cannot. And for what it’s worth - I totally don’t think your few sips warrant a reset on your clock and I think it’s really cool that your sober journey has become stronger for it. You do you. Thank you again for sharing. I truly appreciate it. 
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I was expecting some really harsh comments. But, Conor, I’m really grateful for what you have said so honestly. It mirrors some of what I was feeling. At first I was feeling such shame and embarrassment and now I feel much more empowered. It’s not like I was ever drinking a glass of anything, we are talking shot sized tastes. But I now can say no, it’s not what I want and he is so respectful. I feel lucky and proud of where I am. Thank you for your reply, amigo.
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So glad it can help you! It’s why I shared.
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Congratulations on 8 months @icebear & @Misokatsu.
@Rockstar24777 helping others is something you do here & imo is a great employment path for you. I LOVE that you’re going for a final procedure. Prayers all goes well.
@CATMANCAM Congratulations on 8 months sober and 7 months clean. And YAYYYYYYYYYYYY about the news on the exchange.
@manishc Congratulations on 3 weeks.
@Complicatedmama So glad to hear you’re feeling better.
@jjcarson92 Congratulations on 15 months.
@RosaCanDo I too had a “sip” to taste and didn’t reset. I recognized the threat and won’t allow myself to do it again. Sooo happy to hear about your conversation. I’m proud of you Amiga and it sounds like you have a great esposo.
@Truckinmonster21 Congratulations on 3 weeks. You keep going brother.
@apes2020 Welcome back.
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@MrsOdh Both you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. I can’t even imagine not being allowed in. Sending love and strength.
@EarnIt Welcome back to double digits. My heart feels you. Looking back has helped me and is why I keep a personal check-in.
300 days. Somehow this milestone isn’t especially important to me. Knowing a year is in my sight is exhilarating. Woke up this morning knowing I needed resolve to move forward. I asked the roommate what he felt went on and a booby trap he had set for his bedroom door had been moved. I accepted responsibility for overreacting but noted it’s due to my deep pride as a person who will not lie, cheat or steal. He didn’t even think I stole something! I told him I would not apologize for the “music morning” as anything I said or did I meant. He said we can put it behind us and I’m good with that but I still don’t want him as a roommate. Thinking today is going to be a lazy ass day. It has been snowing for 2+ days and feels like -12 celsius. I want my flip flops back 
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Thank you for your response. Very much appreciated. I’m still waiting for the hammer to come down from someone, somewhere, but it really makes no difference to me.
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Thanks, amiga! My esposo is the mosto lol 
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The sun is out and the pubs are open, people are outside socialising and having fun. If only I was built different but I’m not so that’s the end of that brainwave.
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6 days ago I posted that I couldn’t get past day 4. Felt sorry for myself for a day and drank wine. And now here the hell I am at day 5!!!
The pubs opened. But so did the gyms. So that’s what I focused on today
@piglet that song you posted helped me so much. I had that going round and round my head for a good few days.
Had a weird thing this morning where I was walking down the street and could literally taste wine on my tongue. How weird is that? Anyone else get that? Is it just in the very early days? A fantasy?
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today is my 1 year sobriety birthday! 
thank you to everyone on here for helping me stay engaged in the sober community, keeping me laughing and sometimes cringing, and generally being a place where i can be my honest alcoholic self. thank the fuggin’ program, the grace of god and everyone i hang out with IRL that doesnt give a crap that i don’t party anymore but still like to be at the party/social distanced hang times. life is good. 
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Wooohhh, sooo cool 
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