thanks so much
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Yes after talking and discussing with each other we are going to give our Marriage another shot 12 years next month 
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Day 322.
Such a monday. Felt a flood of relief though, that I didn’t head into it hungover and then spend most of it “just getting through” until I could take the edge off (yep, @Thirdmonkey. BTW - thank you for your posts. So many of 'em are bookmarked gems for me.)
Interesting, subtle observation: I think I compensated for drinking, and feeling bad about it, by accommodating work requests, co-worker or neighbour requests for favours, etc. I put effort into managing (or trying to) others’ perceptions of me, that they would think well of me. I care so much less now, because I feel better about me. And boundaries with work and others are so much better. I dunno, does this make sense to anyone else? Staying in my own lane more (the tunes are cranked and I may be car dancing at the red light, be warned!), and letting others stay in theirs…
Which is exactly what I’m gonna do tomorrow. Let’s see where this sober road takes us tomorrow, hey friends?
G’night all - sweet sober dreams 
Welcome back @Seb! And good to see you, @Briella1 - 12 days is just great.
@DLS always, sweet friend. 
Safe journey.
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Safe travels, Donna. Wave to me as you fly over Jersey. 
The weather up here is finally warming up, you picked a good time to visit.
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Yes. This makes a lot of sense to me.
When I think about it, my reflections are not as nuanced as yours. I just put it down to feeling like a grown up for the first time in my life, and feeling a bit more confident about who I am and what I’m doing.
I was chatting to my daughter yesterday evening about not loathing myself when I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror or a window pane somewhere. It is such a strange feeling because it is the first time in my life that I have felt it.
It’s all tied up together, I suppose.
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Huge accoplishment on the year Kyle. Keep it up!!!
Super number!!!
And congrats on the promotion, I am sure everything is going to fall into place for you regarding the money, it sounds like your stars are aligning.
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I’m checking in at day 18
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Super huge congrats on your 8 months of sobriety!!!
Love reading that you are proud of yourself.
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Kevin good to see you back!
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Absolutely! Not so much at work, but with my husband I definitely care less about pleasing him, even if it goes against my wants and needs, and focus on my boundaries.
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Lots and lots of rest! I recently I injured my foot and pushed it too far and ended up in a boot. Rest and ice! Hope it feels better soon.
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Day 33.
I’m going to the cinema today for the first time in forever. 14/15 months? I have missed it. Have great sober days, all!
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Ah I’m excited for you! I took myself out on a date to the cinema a few weeks ago for the first time in 15 months aswell. It was such a nice time! I made a night of it and took myself out for a fancy dinner after and I took a stroll around my city at night and admired all the lights. I felt like a tourist. It was so fun 
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This is fantastic news 
you must be over the moon happy j!!
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Long time no see @KevinesKay! 
Missed you here and many with me.
@apes2020 hope the doctor can help you a bit, sounds like painfull to me.
Day 972 
I’m checking in on regular basis these last days because I’ve noticed I’m a bit unstable. Being here helps me to stay with my both feet on the ground if you understand what I mean.
I have to keep my guards up just like everybody else here. So I have my own sober plan wich I use for myself when I feel I need it.
So here I am.
Picture from evening walk yesterday.
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Good you made a plan! Maybe you won’t need it because you are one step ahead. Beautiful picture, the clouds on the right look like a giant mountain. Love the idea we got mountains in the Netherlands 
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It’s been great seeing your check ins lately. I am glad you recognized an issue and you’ve made an adjustment. Good move. I love all the pics from your country. @Mno does a great job, but now I get double the pleasure.
We’re glad you’re here Claudia.
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Two weeks sober.
Still got some swing moods, they come and they go. The bad and short tempered moods getting less and less fortunately. I’ve read so much helpful stuff here. Forgot who wrote this but someone made the analogy with a nut allergy. You don’t eat nuts when you know you will be ill or die from it. It helps when I crave, I don’t drink alcohol when I know it hurts my body and mind (and soul I guess). Thanks for writing that. Another thing I’ve learned is that connection is key to everything, to feel good, healthy, loving etc. When I got angry, feel miserable, agitated or whatever, then it’s always a connection-error and it helps to reflect on that and, if possible, fix it with the person or with yourself. I’m trying to reflect more on that.
Anyway, thanks TS peeps, you all are awesome!
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