Day 19 today! Thankful for this forum and learning from the experiences of others.
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Congratulations for you!! 
Letās eat cake! (Ore a pie, ore some chocolat ore some icecream, ore loads of icecream! 
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25 days 23.5 hours. Took my morning walk in the pouring rain and past all the homes into the pitch dark, each morning pushing past my fears a little further. The 1st half mile has gotten to be easy, brain feels now comfortable in that deep darkness. The next 20 feet feel scary and treacherous even with my flashlight, so much that I literally say out loud to Moose, thatās enough and hightail it out of there. Back to light and security feels.
I akin this to my sobriety journey. There are moments of dark and scary, but itās okay to return safety (my blankets and this fellowship) until ready to confront the new situation (insert triggers).
My thoughts on the day. Have a great day everyone!
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Happy Wednesday! Had an awesome birthday yesterday. Not because of a party or gifts but I am blessed to be able to do what I have a love for a living. That and all the well wishes from friends. Have a sober one!
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@Hopeful777 10 months is amazing. Great job!
@Wakikki I think that what is important here is you being honest with yourself, when it comes to your counter. What constitutes that reset will be a personal decision. The future holds a lot for you, just hang in there. You can do this.
@Liam1 Welcome to the forum. I hope you get what youāre looking for here.
@Nordique Another big congrats on your 500 days!
@Rockstar24777 My thoughts are with you, Rob. Coreyās life and light wonāt be forgotten. I know you wonāt allow that.
@Frank68 Happy birthday! May the future hold all the sober celebrations you can possibly fit in.
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I use several apps that send me quotes, especially from Stoic writers. This morning one of them was from Epictetus.
āSome things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and in one word, whatever are not our own actions.ā
Besides the fact that he used six words after saying it would be one word 
, I think he is right on. Itās a theme echoed by many Stoics, that we may not be able to control other things around us, but that we can control ourselves. We can take the reigns in our own mind, and control how we think, how we view the world around us, and how we choose to act in it.
Working through my own sobriety has been a study in really knowing that I have full control over my actions. I am a sovereign being, the master of my own āhouseā. I have the power to choose what I will do right now, in this moment, and that choice will ultimately create my tomorrow.
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Thanks Stella 
Iām trying to look at it as āthis too shall passā. I havenāt been able to solely focus on my own recovery, because Iām trying to fully be there for my youngest son whoās now 3 weeks sober. I got a phone call from my oldest son two days ago, and he was a blubbering mess, asking me to please help him stop drinking. This came as a real surprise, because heās a tough guy, and although Iām around him several times a week, he had no idea Iād quit drinking. Sooooā¦ long story short, I believe itās going to be a while before I can get back to me. Iām overjoyed at the prospect of both my boys living a sober life, but at the same time I feel like Iām always losing myself to someone elseās struggle.
Connection is key for me. Iām a loner, and the connection Iām finding here is helping me with my struggles, and itās giving me the strength to help my boys with theirs. Thank you for being here. I feel like I have a true friend in you. 
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Happy Birthday!!! Iām so glad you had a good one. 
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Thank you for your response. I am an alcoholic. I think I have just struggled with this realization about myself. I have been reading here today and am encouraged by how we are all at different places. I see the struggles and the joys, but the joys are what I long for. I slip every day. Every day! Then I canāt sleep because of the guilt. I long foe joy. Your words are an encouragement to me. Thank you
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Iām so happy to read about your son with 3 weeks sober. I canāt even believe that was 3 weeks ago. What a blessing.
Totally relate to this. Especially when itās your kids. It took years for me with my kids to finally not worry about when āthe other shoe could drop,ā because with addiction that could always be around the corner. Itās a tough place to be in. Iām praying God will give me the strength to open up on that thread I started about being affected by a loved one whoās an addict. And thatās where I got to really work on myself. It seems like Iām an endless project.
Congrats on your 75 days in case I didnāt tell you that yesterday. Sober sugar twin
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@Its_me_Stella thank you 
@Irisees919 sending strength
@Pat_m welcome back
@Hopeful777 thank you congrats on 10 months
@IamThechange congrats on double digits
@Liam1 welcome congrats on day 1
@Nordique congrats on 500 days
@Frank68 happy birthday for yesterday 
443 days no alcohol.
411 days no cocaine.
4 days no nicotine.
So far today I have stuck to my diet plan, but I donāt think I will make it a full day. I have given in to all of my food cravings within the last week, apart from crisps, and I am craving them today. I think I will have them because then I can draw a big line underneath it all and tell myself Iāve had everything I wanted and itās time to get back on track now.
Iām really pleased that the no nicotine is going better this attempt, I am not craving cocaine like I usually do when I quit nic, and that is very motivating. I feel in my mind more today than the last few days and have been able to spend some time looking at memes and playing a game.
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Thanks Eric. Iām an endless project, too. Iām going to talk more about the boys on your thread later today. Iām so grateful you created that space for us.
Congratulations on your 76 days of no added sugar! I hit a bag of Halloween M&Mās last night. I knew I got the darn stuff too soon! 
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No it was really not for longe, like a blink of an eye. And I am really disapointet in my self. But I saw what I was doing and where it would lead me, never again I said, stop rigth now! For a few months ago for sure I would Just continue on the wine and not stop myself. For seeing this and stopping myself I am really proud of. Im not going back. Thank you for your respond, I really appreciate it.
@Chiron Yes, to be honest with myself is important, Im not going forward if I lie to myself, it does nothing good and will not help me grow. Thank you for your words.
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Hey Trucker!! Was worried about you! So glad to see you back. Stick around, OK?
Amen. Love this Pattyā¦thanks for sharing. Itās a daily practiceā¦too be braveā¦too be sober!!!
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Congratulationsā¦got me inspired. Well done. Keep at it.
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Hey brother from another mother 
Congratulations on your beautiful 500 days of sobriety Nordique. You deserve the best.
Iām so excited for you. Iām glad youāre here.
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@Lotusflower and @Dazercat Thank you guys both so much!! I appreciate you guys both
Eric I know I would have succumbed to boredom at this point if it wasnāt for all your memes 
lol
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