I understand what you are doing, soon I hope it will be easier on you and you may be able to rejoin your drinker friends and feel safe and secure in your sobriety. With a new date person embrace your sober self? It should be a bonus to the date that you don’t drink. It will get easier. In the end you will be ever so grateful that you chose sobriety. I admire you for what you are doing to fill this lonely time. Hugs for you and your loneliness. I am glad you are here, posting and going rt along sober!
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Yay!!!
Happy you are back.
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But if you do want a pity party I’ve got boxes and boxes of hats and noise makers lol 
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Wonderwall to Rue! With your new guitar!
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Alisa thank you for sending hugs. They do help 
The guy asked me to go for drinks at a brewery. I’m not sure I’m in a place to be like I no longer drink because I used it as a numbing agent for my childhood abuse and trauma. I believe one day I’ll be able to be able to just be like I don’t drink can we do coffee? I’m honestly not sure if sober me is ready to date- I’m unloading a lot of built up emotions. I think that is step one.
That’s such a lovely hope. I hope we all can find safety and security in our sobriety. 
Sending hugs right back
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Haha I think Rue is my Wonderwall so it’s only fitting that I’m singing it to her
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Checking in Day 5. Tired. Great night all.
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How precious!! What a proud grandpa cuddling his lil bundle of joy. Wouldn’t trade that beautiful moment for a drink. 
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Hey!!! So glad to see you back!
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Thanks stella. Only thing im learning is to always keep pushing and never give up
I seriously won’t stop untill I perfect this
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From my seat I see a little differently I guess. I can see you learning more then that and it’s a beautiful thing. As much as it pains me to see you struggle at times I know that it is during those really hard uncomfortable moments you have that real growth can happen. Like I said though, the lessons, they beat me over the fucking head until I say “ok, ok, I finally get it!!!” Some I have found are easier to learn, some are still baffling me.
I can see more of her in this drawing Mike. 
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I get what your saying. But I can’t just give up, it’s only been six months. Yeah the pain from ppl being assholes sucks, but just bc ppl keep putting me down doesn’t me I should stop. Half of them starter right where I am and we’re no better. And thank you it’s tattoo on fake skin not drawing lol
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Oh i think you misinterpreted what I meant. I don’t think you should stop at all. I don’t think that is what you are being taught at all. I think you are being taught humility and I see you becoming more humble as your sense of self becomes on a more even keel with others. You are teaching yourself that you belong just like everyone else does. Everytime you pick yourself up and head back into the pit you are telling yourself " I am worthy, I belong".
When I came into recovery I hadn’t considered the fact that I may not be humble. I knew I wasn’t full of myself so I figured I was humble. I hadn’t considered the years of abuse I had laid upon my self worth. I hadn’t considered that being humble meant I was neither greater than nor less than another. I have learned a deflated ego is just as harmful as an inflated one.
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Welcome back Jenna!
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Oh thank you. Sorry I have such a hard time interpreting words. You are the best tho, much love
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Great advice! Also helps to smile, even if you have to force it, and even better to do it in the mirror if possible while saying “I’m excited!”
@CATMANCAM I’m so glad to hear about your interview. Your previous interviews are all great practice and remember you are allowed to bring notes to an interview. That has been the one thing that has helped me soooo much in the past. Bullet point things you think they might ask with bold headings so they stand out, keep it simple, and have some questions prepared to ask them, too. I’m excited, for you!
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Checking in day 4. Stressful day at work but I had some pho soup when I got home and painted one of my miniatures for a while. Played with the cat. Zoned out on my phone feeling super tired. In bed checking out the sober community and trying to stay positive.
My weekend plan to stay sober -
Tomorrow going on an easy hike to start the day. I have a Halloween party to attend around 7pm and I don’t plan on staying for long. Really Uninterested and would rather watch scary movies at home but I’ll get through it. Then Sunday is hockey night with the mother in law. Everything is all planned and no alcohol will be involved. I’m sure a nap will be in there somewhere. 
Have a great night and I will not drink with you today.
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@Nordique Hey there! It’s been weighing on me that I kept forgetting to wish you congrats on your 500 days! So here’s my super belated kudos to you! What an awesome accomplishment. I’m really grateful you’re here on the forum and for how encouraging and empathic you are toward others. Thanks for being you.
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You’ve catched them all Eric! 
Look at all those sixes! 
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