@RosaCanDo @Misokatsu thank you both 
@Dazercat congratulations! 
How lovely 
@Liz023 welcome 
congrats on 74 days
@KevinesKay congrats on 40 days
@Squirt sorry you’ve had to make that decision, it’s never easy. May you feel stronger every day 
@Scrammbles congrats on 2 weeks
@beachmouse congrats on getting a sponsor
@kat261 you’re doing really well, it’s really hard to do meal replacement diets, focus on the end goal and why you’re doing it 
@Girlinterrupted congrats on all the 5s and the continued remission from ED
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@Sobrietyadventurer welcome back congrats on 32 days
@Flower congrars on your month
@anon52066378 welcome congrats on 6 days
481 days no alcohol.
449 days no cocaine.
42 days no nicotine.
Feeling so disorientated lately. I know I need my routines, very much so, and I know I’ve not had much of one since reconnecting with my friend almost 2 weeks ago, so I need to work on the balance. He didn’t get charged last night so I’m glad he’s okay. I can’t keep meeting him at the pub every day, watching him suffering in his addiction, or spending the money that I can’t afford to spend on empty calories that I really don’t need. I really don’t know where to start with boundaries but I need to learn how to start saying no, and fast, and preferably without beating myself up over it. I was remembering my first relationship while I couldn’t sleep last night, we were 5 years old when we met and spent all of our time together, in and out of school. Love letters the whole time he was away in Australia on a 6 week holiday. He moved house and schools after 2 years, and turned up at the school gates one day with his new gf 
I was heart-broken and remember feeling this so intensely. I am sure that’s not ‘normal’ for a 7 year old!
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@CATMANCAM thank you for the welcome!
You’re smashing your way through your addictions!
Remember what led you to embark on your journey and that your routines are what keeps you from going back. Be there for your friend but don’t let them pull you into a world where you have escaped from once.
I funnily enough regularly see my first love and primary school sweetheart, she is friends with my next door neighbour, still brings back some unusual memories and thoughts about my feelings from way way way back when!
Good look on the relatively young journey into no nicotine, I honestly couldn’t count the number of days since I stopped smoking, was about 21 years ago so about 7600 give or take!
Take care, thank you again and keep pushing on! 
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Chris,
That is an inspirational achievement!
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Yes!!! This is what I want also. Just love for one another and compassion and gratitude for what we have. I think too that I sometimes get in a funk and I get negative about life… but reality is… is that many years ago I would have done ANYTHING for what I have in my life today. I just want to help people and live a good life with purpose love ur post! I bet the officers were shocked that u came in and thanked them.
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@Butterflymoonwoman Yes I completely understand
Years ago the police would come to me for leagal issues
Empathy and compassion and understanding is a must. And is needed
People can be so grumpy lol
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Ohhhh first mission accomplished, I went to a metal concert (first one since February 2020) with friends, one of them is sober, the rest was drunk all the way, and me, only high on diet pepsi 
The show was epic, I am proud of myself and that was one hell of a good SOBER night! 
Cheers from France
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Evening check in
Got home from work and went back outside to get supper. Everything was fine until I got home. My husband I guess is extremely stressed. He ended up getting pissy with me over nothing. I hate that 
He goes and has a cigarette and then comes back into the living room as if nothing happened. Really hoping that with staying clean and sober (for both of us), that stress will be reduced a bit. Less financial stress, less stress due to being tired or worn out or hungry, less stress between us in general. He rarely apologizes for anything and rarely acknowledges his wrong doings. He just pretends like it never happened. Thats his thing… we don’t talk about anything even tho I ask for that. Our communication sucks 
Anyway, I normally keep to myself fot a bit and do other things as I do find it hard mentally and emotionally to be around him when he’s like that. I have a few more things to do tonight and then will do some self care and go to bed.
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Day 3 in the morning. I had got to near on 100 days and unfortunately fell to the i can social drink. I did this twice first time i had that hangover again i hated it but recovered okay. Second time at an organised event and me being me just kept going as i will just keep drinking.
Day after was horrendous but again recovered okay but then something happened to somebody else that triggered me mentally and brought my back to reality.
Reassessed reset and realised that actually i cannot drink at all. I had started to feel so good sober. Level headed. Emotions coming back etc. Much better physically too.
So heres to reminders and learnings and soon to be day 3 on my next journey 
I hope everyone is doing well
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Few hours to go and it’ll be a week! Phew… Can’t wait to be over that hump… hopefully smoother sailing from here… I’m catching my breath finally… feels good to breathe again
Have a great night everyone! Stay strong! 
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Day 4 and I’m checking in! Today was a good day I went to the nail salon and did some self-care. I also went shopping at Trader Joe’s and did a little shopping and treated myself to lunch I sat and ate alone and enjoyed it learning how to love myself and be comfortable with being by myself WITHOUT alcohol. Today i had a good time by myself without it. I’m home now happy and my head is clear, I feel great. Thank you all for being here to give me your encouragement strength and hope. I love coming here daily to share my day and let you all know I’m okay
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Having a rough night feeling pretty crappy inside and not so loved at all. I realize this forum isn’t about relationships but I feel super alone right now. I hate how he talks to me sometimes and I’m just trying to keep my distance at this point. I do stand up for myself and have told him that I don’t like this and there’s no need to talk to me like that. I continue to try and help him with the activity that is stressing him out but I get shit on. I hate how he is sometimes so affectionate and then others times so shitty towards me. It confuses me. I never know where I stand with him. Anyway I am finally going to bed… clean and sober I might add huge hugs 🫂
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Thank you
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This is a recovery forum and that means our whole lives!!! Relationships play a massive part in us healing.
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Night check in, today was pretty good. Got my girls to help me clean their room upstairs. Then we set up the Christmas tree. I really am trying the methods @Englishd told me when I’m getting upset at a situation. It’s so silly sometimes because I don’t even know why I’m getting frustrated or upset. But today went pretty good. Much love
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- Coffee. Work in a bit. Happy I was in bed in time last night. Also happy I’m forcing myself to leave my phone alone while in bed. For weeks I woke up every hour or so, to check stuff on the interweb. For the last three of four nights I only woke once each night, allowing myself to check the time and nothing else. Much much better this way.
Last night I dropped of some gifts at the front door of my estranged best friend’s place for her and her 12 y/o. The presents were supposed to be found today as it is Sinterklaas, Saint Nicholas Day, over here today. But they found 'm within 15 minutes. Daughter called to thank me (as she figured out I brought the gifts immediately), and called her mum over to thank me too. Bless her heart 
And yes, @Butterflymoonwoman Dana, I think this belongs on TalkingSober. I’m very glad I’m clean and sober, because that gives me the opportunity to better my life. Including my relationships. One day at a time. It’s called recovery just like @Its_me_Stella says. Now I’m going to work. Have as good a Sunday as you all can friends. Love from Amsterdam.
@anon53116147 Good work Mike. Working your recovery you are. ODAAT. Much love to you.
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Oh yay, kids their age are so fun at Christmas.
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Congrats on 1 week. That’s the toughest week of them all in my opinion and you made it!
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