Hi Marie
Thank you for the shout out.
Congratulations on your 400 days and progress so farā¦your doing the work. Proud of you.
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Congratulations on your 24 days Kathy. I agree support and connection are the basis of our recovery.
The cookies sound delicious. Do you use a special recepie?
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Happy Monday. Last day of January. Looking forward to moving into February.
Busy week. With highs and lows. My sonās birthday Tuesday and small gathering Saturday!l
Meeting withy Sponser Wednesday to review step one step work.
Lowā¦court on zoom Weād am. Hopefully last apperance. Duty counsel believes I havey license back by month end so that equals only a 3month suspension. Plus a fine .
My psychologist is encouraging me to sue the police as it was a very tramtic incident there were 5 SUVs surrounded me like I was a high end criminal. Mind you found outy neighbor called and reported I was a black woman. Taking responsibilityā¦yet my doctor wrote a support letter indicating I was going through a cycle of medication changes which effected my problem solving. I have anxiety every time I see a police veichle.
With that trusting in my Higher Power as he controls all
Good strong 24hr all 
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Good to see you post hope you feeling better, massive congratulations on 18 months clean time 
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Day 977 AF
Spent the day out in nature with my kids exploring and swimming at a hidden gem that I never knew existed 20 minutes from our houseā¦ was absolute bliss 
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Good Morning Charlie
Glad your feeling better. Iām assuming you didnāt get āthe oneā! Good Sober dayā¦Happy arranedingā¦if itās a word.,
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Day 538
Bit behind with grading. Got some very polite emails reminding me of the deadline. In other words, hurry up. Gotta get cracking tomorrow. Was covering a class today so didnāt have much time to do it today.
Have had some pastry sheets in the freezer for ages, today got them out and made meat pies. Bloody hell they were nice. English girls and their pies 
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Wow, glad you two crossed paths. She has an open line to you now and she knows youāre safe. As for the money, please donāt feel bad. Her mom will definitely pay her back.
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Ahhh donāt feel like an idiot because youāre not. Venting is healthy and this is the perfect place for that!
Parenting can be so tough, exhausting and challenging and kids go through phases that drive us literally nuts!
Iām not sure about over there in the US but over here we have neighbourhood community centres and they run free Triple P Parenting classes. Theyāre really awesome for helping parents out with undertanding and learning effective strategies when dealing with this stuff. Alot of the time its just phases they (hopefully quickly) grow out of but maybe you have something similiar available over there?
Hang in there Mike, sending you patience, sanity and some peace!
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Still here and still sober but my mental health is extremely poor. Struggling to find purpose daily while being unemployed. Being a single father and not working is slowly killing me. Living with the pain from the psychological abuse I faced at work and in my past marriage haunts me daily. The struggles I faced and fought for so long have destroyed me ad a person and I donāt know how to recover. Iāve tried meds and therapy but itās not helping. Iām truly at my wits end on how to feel normal again. Everyday I wake up and just wish my pain would end, my suffering would stop. I worked so hard for everything I once had and lost it all, lost it because of an abusive partner and toxic workplace that drove me crazy. Iām lonely, alone and suffering with little to no support, friendships or help. I have my kids, which is a ton of work in itself and taking care of them is all I have left but sometimes it feels so hard to eve wake up in the morning. Iām here, present in my pain, working everyday to try and ease it, reading, mediating, applying for jobs, seeking friendships but Iām so scared and alone. My mind is my prison.
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The main thing is consistency and boundaries. Once you give in on something or donāt set boundaries, thatās when kiddos turn into the gremlins that ate after midnight lol.
I sucked at this. I was also so concerned with them liking me, that I ended up being a bad parent. Thatās all changed now with sobriety. My kids are older now, but I read a lot about how to parent in different situations. That has helped me tremendously. I just realize there is so much updating I need to do. Anyway, 2 months ago when I got my alienates daughter back, she was like an angry wet cat. Iām so glad I read a lot about alienated children and how to handle them. I was firm and consistent, yet calm and respectful. Iām leading by example. Obviously thatās the short version. My daughter is now a completely different person. Sheās been very respectful and motivated to do well in school. She was failing last semester. I had 2 weeks to help her get her grades up, and she did it!
Going back to when they were little, I used positive reinforcement. My 25 yo would do anything for a damn sticker. Shoot, the girl still will 
So she had āEmilyās Good Girl Wall of Fameā when she was good, or did whatever, I let her pick out a sticker to put on her wall of fame. Ava was a treasure box girl. You buy some lame treasure box from Amazon or oriental trading and they get to pick a prize. Ahhh the good old days when cheap shit made kids happy.
Anyway, as per my usual novel of a post way, I would try to read up on some of the behaviors and definitely the dynamic of co-parenting and how it affects children. Once I looked at the situation through her eyes, parenting became so much easier. You got this. Itās not easy, so donāt beat yourself up.
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Wait what??? Have I been under a rock??? So excited to see your beautiful face pop up!!
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That is really hard. All you can do is keep plugging away to find a job and find people to connect with. But as a single parent time is hard to find. How old are ur kids?
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Sleep is good. Eat well too and u will keep getting stronger.
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Hey all, checking in on day 596. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Reach out or message if you need support or to chat. You can do this
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Day 598 clean and sober today. Using nightmares again last night but I know itās my subconscious working things out and they will pass again. Wishing everyone an amazing day today, love you guys!!! 
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Day 75
Great weekend. Back to it today. Restarting my weight loss journey today!! Have a great day all!
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Lol heeeeey Beth 
Iāve recently been trying to make a conscious effort to get back on here moreā¦ and besides you guys are pretty damn hard to stay away from, i always find myself coming back awesome to see your name pop up also, I was going to send you a message soon and touch base
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400 days!!! Thatās FABULOUS!!!
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