Life without alcohol hasn’t been perfect but it has been transformational no less. Wishing everyone a healthy and sober Sunday.
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Thank u for sharing 
I like that… shifting our attitude and attention onto ourselves. It does help I wish that I could recieve the affection I want from him, but I also have no control over him and what he does. Ur right tho… and thank u for the reminder of putting the attention back onto myself how has ur day been?
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Checking in, day 2 no cigarettes. I’m tired, fell asleep two times during the day and can’t wait to go to bed as early as I can. I haven’t smoked since Friday afternoon. I crave it sometimes especially when my ex goes for a smoke, but it’s not too bad yet.
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Checking in
Day 27
Pretty busy day. Was surprised at how well I managed to keep myself together when taking to my supervisor today. I had completed my clients routine and breakfast. I came into the office to do paperwork, get ready for my clients meds, and start the weekend summary. My supervisor got abit rude with me and told me I should be out in the living room engaging with my client and not in the office. I have never neglected any client I was working with. Im very in tune to each client and their diagnosis and what their triggers are and what works best for them. I was actually doing work in the office (which she wasn’t aware apparently), and not just sitting there. I told her what I was doing and that I’ll finish it later. My client was struggling abit today. We normally give her space when she’s like this but my supervisor wanted me to engage. I go out there and after about 4 min she attacks me. Thankfully I had my bite jacket and hat on, the only thing that really hurt was her grabbing my wrist and squeezing it while she dug her nails in. I just spoke calm to her and she slowly let go of my wrist and I got her to sit down. I left to give her space. Told my supervisor what happened and she’s like, “give her 3 min and then go back out to engage with her”. I mentioned that she needs space to calm down. She is non verbal and her body language and actions are telling me that shs isn’t happy right now. When I give her space, she clams down. So I told my supervisor, why should I go back out right away and make her upset? Everyone needs time to relax and have time for themselves. Anyway, it frustrates me bcuz I feel like the supervisors are more concerned with “looking good” and making sure she is constantly engaged, then they are about her mental health and well being. It’s sad. My client is well looked after but they don’t give her down time which she needs. Some clients need the constant interaction, others don’t. And bcuz she is one of the clients that needs her space, they think we should be out there with her every minute in order to make sure it looks like we are all doing something. We always do her daily activities and spend time with her. But btwn 1-3pm, it’s supposed to be her quiet time. And they don’t even allow us to give that to her. Makes me upset 
But I did keep myself composed and professional. I did speak up on behalf of my client and I found out later that I am not the only one that has tried to give my client the time she needs. The supervisors apparently are just not listening 
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You’re making so much progress. Congratulations on making it to 27 days! 1 month is right around the corner 
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I haven’t tried any support groups. I may do that. I forgot that there are a lot of online ones now. Thanks
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That supervisor needs retraining. I’m not sure what type of job you have, but I had to go through caregiver training to be a parent paid caregiver here. Part of our training was recognizing what the client needs whether it was space or engagement based off their body language and signals.
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Good weekend! Went to the river yesterday and enjoyed the sun before it started a stormy rain sesh the rest the day, skipped rocks, bought some Easter decor at Fred Meyer, which I’m obsessed with. Don’t have a picture of my front porch area but this is my entry table, along with the huge gnome I got for the front porch area. I’m just excited about it. How’s everyone’s weekend been/going?
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Absolutely. I work with adults who have complex needs. So a combination of mental health and intellectual disabilities. I am asking for a transfer to the other house I work at for April. The “rules” around her profile are vague which causes confusion. How we approach her behaviours is vague. So everyone has a diff way to deal with things the full time coworker has an approach that works. The supervisor likes to think she knows alot. I’m sure she does to an extent, but she isn’t here to really engage with the client. So when she does show up like today… she tells me one thing, while my coworker is telling me something else. So im like a puppet being dragged around. And I speak up for my client and now I’m getting “scolded” for not engaging her constantly. The supervisor brings me out to the client (who by the way obviously needed sleep and doesnt know how to rest bcuz of her disability. We have to encourage her to rest and set the stage for sleep). She escalated so bad!!! And so quick!!! I told her that we really need to give her space. She is telling us that she wants to be left alone. I’m soo frustrated so I asked for a switch to a diff house for April at least
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Thanks so much Kevin!!! I’m excited!!!
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Still going strong. 
Today is my day off of work. I’m just hanging out in the house relaxing for the most part. Going to do a few chores around the house but I’m not trying to put pressure on myself to get everything done. My friend who is a lot further in their recovery journey will be coming over for a small amount of time - not for too long though because I really just need some me time at this point and tomorrow will be a busy day. I will also be attending a Zoom NA meeting later on tonight. This will be my third day of daily Zoom meetings. 
Last night I even shared at a meeting which is huge because I am a very anxious person.
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Hey everyone! Just wanted to update you all. Made it out to the movie and then out afterward. We stopped for some food at this local bar and I was able to sit back and have a diet coke instead of having a drink. It was a big test of my sobriety today, first time out in a situation like this, and I was able to stay strong. I’m really happy and proud of myself for being able to accomplish this!
Hope everyone else has had an amazing day!
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@Misokatsu I know right, they were so tiny and fluffy and cute 
Ugh, people really don’t seem to consider how their actions/words can affect people, I’m sorry 
@SadMemeQueen please speak to your doctor openly and honestly about how you are feeling ASAP. Sending strength 
@Lex06 congrats on 3 weeks 
@Quinnzo congrats on getting through a previously triggering event with your sobriety intact
@Deelzebub congrats on double digits
@DTC52 congrats on 2 weeks enjoy the movie 
@Rockstar24777 congrats on 21 months
@anon53116147 keep fighting man, you’re worth it 
congrats on 150 days
@Stan8162 congrats on 9+ months
580 days no alcohol.
45 days no cocaine.
22 days no binge-eating.
I’m missing any semblance of routine at the moment, need to develop some structure. I’m spending most of my time making and drinking iced coffees, vaping, and listening to music. The coffees aren’t giving me any shakes, jitters, chest pains, or anxiety, nor are the affecting my sleep, so they aren’t a problem in that sense, but it’s more of an expense than is affordable, due to the amount I’m drinking, so I need to cut back, I will start by using 1 spoon of coffee instead of 2, and less sugar free caramel syrup. With the vaping, I have under a week’s worth of 3mg liquid left, then I’ll be moving onto 0mg nicotine for a week or two before attempting to stop completely, it’s another expense more than is affordable, due to the amount of liquid I get through. Music can stay though 
My SIL and Niece are at my Aunties tomorrow, so I asked if I could go too as I haven’t seen them since Boxing Day 
I am very excited to see them so it will be a nice start to the week
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Checking in
Day27
Got home… dishes were done, supper was going. It is truly amazing what communication can do. I texted hubby this morning from work when I had time. Explained how i felt about needing help with housework and feeling overwhelmed. He apologized to me too. After my hard day at work, I texted him that I was on my way home. I told him flat out that I had a hard day (that I won’t be bringing this home but that I was letting him know that today was tough), and I also told him I needed a hug. Once I got home, he had the dishes done, supper going, opened up his arms for a hug and chatted with me about my day. It was sooo nice! Know if I can only communicate more often… I think this would really help!
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So many victories there Chikai. And well thought out plans.
Congratulations on your 5 days clean.
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I was just going to check in and saw your note thanks for your reply. My day’s been really busy and I haven’t eaten properly. it’s 5:20 here and I just left my in-laws house and saw my father-in-law pour a glass of beer for himself. I really want to go home and pour myself a drink too but I’m not going to. Why would I? I have been feeling so much better and oh my gosh I think tomorrow is my two weeks. Like literally I don’t understand why even though I’ve been feeling so much better I still want to go home and have a drink. It makes no sense does it, although I guess it does because that’s addiction! It really really helps me when I tell myself that isn’t ME that wants to drink it’s my brain, and I’m not going to let my brain win. Maybe I’ll go home and have another non-alcoholic option with some calming ashwaganda and rooibos tea or something. I also know I need to get my dinner started right away. I start to feel anxious when I really want to drink- but I shouldn’t-but I want to… but I’m just going to tell myself that if I really want one tomorrow I can have one, but I am NOT going to have one today. Just wait and see how you feeling in the morning and you know you’re going to feel better. Totally have to do some self talk (out loud) right now so thanks for listening
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Oh that’s soooo awesome! What a great feeling♥️
I totally have to ask for hugs his too 
. He never hesitates, but his family just never hugged. It’s just so weird to me. Im just really happy that you could communicate what you needed so well and that your hubby responded and respected that 
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Uv absolutely got the right thinking in that just focus on today and not drinking today. And then when tmrw comes, say the same thing, “I’m not drinking today just for 24 hours”. It takes the overwhelming effect off our minds in thinking forever. For myself too… if I think i can never drug forever… it scares me honestly. I have been drugging for 22 years and it has been my crutch. But in reality it IS my worst enemy and only wants to see me dead quite frankly. U seem to be really grasping the tools of recovery! I see it in ur posts. It’s really amazing to see!
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