It’s definitely “a thing”.
I think it’s just a healthy reminder that I’m only human. I wasn’t designed to make sense.
At best, all I can hope to do is make-some-sense. Take this oddball existence and try to have fun with it. Maybe evolve myself a bit along the way. 
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Her showing your mom the text was uncalled for. I think you should have a set schedule for having your kids come over. It seems like she’s taking advantage of you and using them to guilt you…she knows how to manipulate you.
Don’t let anyone get in your head so much you want to use, mother included.
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That was entirely uncalled for by ur mum. A bit of 101 psychology, but she obviously doesn’t want u to use again, so there is something else, she doesn’t quite trust u yet and wants to test u? I don’t know. Maybe talk to ur mum, explain when she said that it really hurt you, and ask her to explain why she said it. With ur ex, u need boundaries, when it is her time, she watches them, and vice versa. Unless an emergency. It is not being a bad parent to want ur own time. We all want to refresh, to do something for ourselves. You deserve it.
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Day 177 checking in
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Boundaries talk asap… otherwise you’ll hate yourself for not speaking up etc …
Arrange what days whom has the children and stick to that
… children need to know their days aswell… routine for them…
Alternate weekends…
Have experience in this so just suggestions…
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Checking in on day 33 sober. I slept great. I’m glad it’s thursday. Almost weekend!
We got this 
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Coffee. Therapy day. It’s one of those ten steps forward, nine steps back days. I should be glad for going to therapy, especially on days like this. But I’m not. That doesn’t matter, I’ll go. Good days and bad ones. The only way out is though. One day at a time and all that. Grateful to all of you here, sharing your lives, both the good and the bad, the happy and the sad. Have as good a day as you all can. Sober and clean. Much love from Amsterdam where the park is pretty ATM.
@Butterflymoonwoman Awesome Dana! Huge congrats.
@Nowenbrace Eight months Owen! Yay you. Congrats my friend.
@Deadman I’m glad you’re here. And I see you and have seen you most of your 1234 days. Stick around friend.
@anon53116147 Boundaries and how to enforce them in a fruitful way may be the hardest thing to do for folks like you and me Mike. You’re working your sobriety. You’re working this too. Actually you’re doing very good. I can see it. Please keep going. It isn’t easier this way, maybe even harder, but it’s so much better!
@MrCade I’ve never been in, but what you are experiencing seems normal to me. You have to re-find your connections, re-find what’s normal life is about and how it works. I’m glad to see you using your tools, the right sober tools that is. I learn from that too. Thanks friend.
@Miranda Love your positive self-talk and self-affirmations. I think you turned it around right? You sure helped me this morning. Hugs.
@Minatasha I hope you made it through friend. You know using whatever substance won’t help with whatever you are facing. It will just make it worse. Keep going.
@CATMANCAM Just hugs your way friend. You are amazing.
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Day 70 AF
During that time I’ve felt very little urges to drink. I sat in a pub with friends for a couple of hours and didn’t flinch. This past week though I have fantasised about drinking. I have resisted but it has not been easy.
Anyway, hope everyone is doing ok.
ODAAT
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What do those fantasies tell you Seb? I think that by analysing them we can defuse them, one day, one urge and one fantasy at a time.
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congrats 
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Day 12
Today a strange thing happened i laughed like a child on a silly joke, i don’t remember when it was last time when i felt so in the moment and happy it felt awesome.
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Hello all, checking in on Day 40 (wow!)
Congratulations on all the milestones, and special well done @Butterflymoonwoman I have been following you as we have similar numbers and know how much work you have put in.
Sorry to all those struggling. I have been too, and some days it is just a case of reading and not writing. But today I woke up with more energy, I seem to have escaped covid and my daughter is back in school. Spring is definitely here, beautiful weather. I have a really busy work day but that isn’t bothering me and my attitude just seems to have adjusted overnight. I have windows wide open, fresh air and birdsong, been cleaning before starting work. Unheard of earlier in the week (or month to be honest!)
Just wanted to say that staying sober helped as my body/mind recovered from whatever issues I had without adding to them. It was crap sitting with those feelings but seem to have worked through it and now I am optimistic again.
40 days, hooray!
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Mate I’ve been having a wierd week myself, but I’ve been looking for those daily miracles and good things that happen, however small, and say to myself 'that wouldn’t of happened if I was drunk/drinking, obsessed with my next drink etc… It’s the only thing that’s keeping me on the straight now … nor sure why I feel so agitated all the time but I’m gonna try do a run today to get some good endorphins flowing…?.. I finished painted my room yesterday (had been half done for months), then there ended up being a whole clear out, room rearrange thing too which made me exhausted but busy!!.. Keep trucking dude, I’m with you 
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The fantasy of moderation. I really don’t like the fact that by drinking a 6pack a day, alcohol/addiction had a stronger effect on me than I realised. Overall, I’m having too much fun sober.
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Spot on. I’ve done some amazing things in these past 70 days that would be absolutely impossible if I had not changed my ways. Thanks for the encouragement
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Yay you Jenny! Have good day friend. Many congrats.
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Hey Cat, wanted to respond to you about the sponsor. I decided after the breakup to hold off on getting a sponsor. I returned to drinking after the break up and finally got sober a few months later. I now have a year, but still haven’t gotten a sponsor and may not do so. I do love my AA local group and attend 3 meetings a week there. They are family and a socialize with them. I may next year ask one of the ladies to help me with some step work, maybe not. I just know that what I’m doing now is working well for me. Everyone’s path is slightly nuanced. I will give this piece of advice even though you didn’t ask 
, don’t rush into getting a new sponsor. Use your gut instinct and get the right one. I didn’t follow this advice with my ex-sponsor. Going to meetings is a huge step and a great one to take. Have a fantastic week!
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Hey Everyone! Day 18 today. A little tired from work, but still going strong. I look back on this week so far and know that there is no way I ever would have been able to have a week of work like this and drink like I used to. Somewhere along the way I would never have been able to get this much done at work if I was still in my old habits. I am so thankful that I am fighting through this. I am also thankful to this community for helping me to stay strong and to help hold me accountable. Thanks to everyone here!
@Caite1025 congratulations on your 10 days
@Butterflymoonwoman so awesome you made it 30 days! Woohoo!
@GOKU2019 5 months! That’s awesome!!!
@JennyH 40 days! Congrats!
@Nowenbrace awesome job on the 8 months!
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Yessssss Girl. Happy 39 days!!! You did it!!! We are not surprised. You put in so much positive energy into your recovery. This is wonderful. Keep going …
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Congratulations on 40 days. This is great spritual number. Keep going.
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