You already know this but I’m going to say it anyway: the real work starts after we become sober. Sobriety is only the first prerequisite for a better life. It does make it possible to better ourselves, to do the work needed. Etcetera. I’m glad you’re here Amy. Sober and clean. Let’s work this sh*t. X
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Day 213
Always, really always when there is a long weekend of 3 days people completely freak out. The phone was ringing for 5,5 hours nonstop.
Like…“The world is ending you haven’t been in the office on monday, help me NOW”
Thanks God I’m outta there now. Oh my God. Humans.
I tried to call my dentist today hahaha, same. Their phone was busy like ours, so I’ll try again tomorrow or Thursday.
My gut is a little bit funny today, going to get me a nice chicken now to make soup. Chicken soup is always good 
Oh and I found out that melatonin spray causes headaches. Every time I use it I get a headache the next day. If you use it, please be careful.
Have a beautiful sober day friends, stay strong 
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Ok-ish
Long story short:
Couldn’t sleep because of an big family with loads of energy, wine and a adhd child…
Asked the holiday host to give me a seat far away from them for my way home 
Fingers crossed 
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Thank you 
I have turnt my day around, although I felt held back I also felt an energy helping me keep push forward if I allowed it.
So I allowed it.
I’m just in a coffee shop 
after a nice walk.
I’m grateful I allowed this energy in, I’m grateful my energy aligned with it and we became one.
Hope your day is going okay 
Edit : thought I was in the gratitude thread 
But it works here also.
Yes the electrician is coming tomorrow I had a call a little while ago.
To my message I was referring to this morning feeling stuck in depression but Im doing okay
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Good morning day 13 check in.I hope we all stay safe and sober one more day of many!
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Ahhh interesting. I had one too, but it was scented with lavendel and I hated it. Just throw it away during my decluttering action
I heard a comment last days, that melatonin is the only hormon you can buy without recipe and the person (Felix Olschewski at Youtube) critisised if it’s okay at all to use it. It was one of his last videos about sleeping quality. Maybe you are interested. 
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Sounds fun, but exhausting. Like you wrote.
I wish you luck for the way home!
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Day 1. I know now that I consume because I want to scape of my feelings
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I know him! Great guy, has always great advices and because of him I got to know Paleo a lot better.
I didn’t ever push the follow button faster 
Don’t know why I unfollowed him at all 
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@Juli1 I’m watching the video right now. I’m making so many things wrong every dang day haha. Some stuff I did know but many things not.
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Checking in on day 117! Been an interesting week, had a couple incidents with my assistant baseball coaches on the field and the stress is something that would easily be a trigger to drink in the past. I did have a couple NA beverages yesterday when I got home that settled the craving and processed my stress by talking to my wife. That being said, my team is looking ready for playoffs and we have a big game tomorrow we need to win to secure 3rd place for playoffs. Focusing on the positives and pushing through to the fun part of the season, hope everyone has a great week 
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Day 19 no marijuana
5 months 18 days no alcohol
I had a bad dream last night where I got mad at some strang person
First I got mad at the person then went outside. I remember feeling a burning sensation to drink or smoke weed. It ended with me fighting the strange person.
This dream got me thinking this morning that if I get upset enough I’ll want to drink or smoke weed.
I cannot let that happen
In the dream I protected my wifey. That’s why I was fighting.
So I went from angry to wanting to relaps to fighting
In reality if I smoke or drink I can’t even protect myself so would relaps really take my anger away? No. It would get worse and I wouldn’t be able to protect anything.
The dream just got me thinking that if I got mad and drank or smoked, that’s me literally losing a fight or even worse just letting the issue go and not doing anything.
I prais the universe that I’m sober
If I didn’t try to get sober when I was younger, I would be getting drunk and high now.
Pretty epic stuff
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Could you please give a short recap, why one shouldn’t melatonin? I’m using it at the moment, that’s why I’m interested.
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Hello amigx! (Friends/amigos/as) It has been a while since I have checked in on this thread but I think it would be beneficial for me to start again while some stress is happening in my life. Today is 579 days free from binging on alcohol. My husband and I are in the process of buying our first home and it’s a big life event that has been exciting, but even happy events can be big stressors. I am acutely aware of the desire to relieve stress by numbing - it’s my old ways of coping that contributed to binge drinking. I’m proud that I’ve been able to face stressors and not hide from them, which has involved leaning on my friends and family who have experience and wisdom to share, and also through conversations with my husband, writing things out, making spreadsheets 
and not avoiding the hard questions. We also had to manage not always seeing eye to eye and practice really hearing each other rather than making our own separate points and wanting to be seen as “right.” We didn’t always do this well but we got there through persistence and loving kindness.
We managed to find a lovely home and our offer was accepted! We had the home inspection yesterday and tomorrow we sit down with the realtor to put together a formal response on some things that need correcting. We are doing the thing! And I haven’t had urges to numb out other than watching some tv and favorite movies on occasion
Long story short (wait, too late!) I could never have seen myself at this point of managing stress and anxiety without the level of distress I used to feel while still drinking to “cope.” It feels good to feel good about this milestone and getting through the tough stuff! I still have anxiety and had one bad anxiety attack at the beginning of this process but it wasn’t the end of the world and I didn’t feel completely derailed. I have real evidence of progress that I have made in my emotional regulation, healthier coping skills, and how by managing the present I can look forward to the future. I can’t stinkin’ wait to own a house and make it a home! Our home. But in the meantime as we get all the details sorted, get through closing and plan for our move I’m going to lean on our community here more and stay connected.
Sending love 
thank you for being here.
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It was just an opinion or critic, I heard in this episode by Felix. And @Sabrina80 mentioned the point with the headaches today.
It’s not a do or don’t do… And I am not enough into it to give any advise!
Sry @most of the users, it’s german:
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Happy to see you here friend. Welcome back. The more the stronger we are. 
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Checking in… day 86
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Day 5
Latenight checkin, hanging around at home,
safe and sober 
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Day 60 alcohol free. Think that’s two months under the belt. However with the good comes the bad. I broke on smoking and bought a pack of marlboro this morning. Had been a few stretching days in terms of cravings and increased NRT and bought a vape but to no avail. Met my ex for the first time in 6 months (unexpectedly) and he was joking about having drunk videos from our holiday last year and that got me down a bit but giving me a bit more of a firm resolve to stick at AF life of course
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Afternoon check in day 115. I’m in a horrible mood. Tired of struggling all the time. Everything is shit. (Okay, not everything, but it feels that way.) Just got back from a walk along the lake but that didn’t help. Trying to listen to upbeat and empowering music but that’s not helping either. Still have a couple hours of work left but not being at all productive. I want to scream. Except I’m not sure I have the energy.
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