Checking in daily to maintain focus #58

@Timetochange belated congrats on 80+ days :tada: and getting married :confetti_ball::revolving_hearts:
@Butterflymoonwoman I’m sorry you had to fight so hard to get what your son needed, I’m glad you received it quickly. :raised_hands:t2: Feel better soon. Sending you strength and I hope things go well if/when you feel ready to speak to your son about his condition. :people_hugging:🩵
@JazzyS thank you :blush: there is a very long wait, but I’ll get there eventually. The buzzing did stop after some sleep on Tuesday night thankfully, I haven’t had any energy drinks since Tues morning either. I’m pleased you did manage to find your passport after all the searching, and take a roadtrip to Canada with your family, I know that ‘let’s light up’ voice very well. Thank you for the tag, I’ve missed being here every day, everything slips when my routine gets messed up. Hoping not to get behind again now :crossed_fingers:t2::blush:
@SoberWalker I’m sorry you’ve been under so much pressure at work :people_hugging: glad you’ve got an upcoming hiking holiday, Scotland is beautiful. :blush:
@Mno I hope your travels were safe and that you’re enjoying Texas :sun_with_face:
@Julianthewhale welcome :blush:
@Thirdmonkey congrats on 2000+ days :tada:
@Katiee belated congrats on 80+ days :tada:
@Galen_82 congrats on your week+ :tada:
@calgary5577 welcome :blush:

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@Amy30 congrats on 8 months :tada: and being one step closer :crossed_fingers:t2::tada: sending strength as you navigate the setting of boundaries 🩵
@MooseTracks congrats on a favourable job offer :clap:t2: :tada:
@Brian1965uk congrats on 10 months :tada:
@tailee17 congrats on 60 days :tada:
@John1990 congrats on your week :tada:
@Thumper1213 congrats on the job offer :clap:t2: :tada:
@KarenKW congrats on 60 days :tada:
@Juli1 congrats on 2 weeks :tada:
@Just_Laura phew! I’m glad you were all safe in the end thanks to your dad in 2007 :raised_hands:t2:
@Merryshoes congrats on 400 days :tada:

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@Ray_M_C_Laren congrats on 37 years :tada:
@Clarity love this for you 🩵
@Rob11 congrats on quadruple digits :tada:
@Sabrina80 finally something happened at your work that should help! :raised_hands:t2: glad you’re feeling a bit better too 🩵
@Trixie1 welcome :blush: congrats on day 1 :tada:
@lorelai sending you strength :people_hugging:🩵
@Mira_D congrats on 60 days :tada:
@mister_f welcome :blush: congrats on double digits :tada:

1131 days no alcohol.
596 days no cocaine.
111 days no vape.

I dont know how it’s suddenly been 3 whole days since I last checked in! It would seem I’ve been catching-up on some of the sleep I missed, and yesterday, after a full day of in-person courses, I came home, fed the cats, layed down to meditate, and fell asleep until 9pm… I then made an iced coffee thinking I’d be able to stay awake to catch up here, but with all the new posts (which is amazing of course) it was too overwhelming, so here I am now doing it on Friday evening/night (I started at around 6pm and it is now 1am) after procrastinating on it all afternoon…

I’m okay. Completely out-of-sync with my routines, I’ve been doing about one short walk a day, and reading a chapter of my book. Weds I did an online course. Yesterday I did two in-person courses, all with the Recovery College.

One of the women from Safe Soulmates asked me if I’d mind postponing tomorrow’s meet-up, until Sunday. I checked the trains and the direct one isnt running on Sunday so I said I’ll see them at the next meet-up. But she has insisted on coming to where I live to do a meet-up with me, so we’ve arranged to meet at the nicest place to walk around that my city has to offer, at 1pm on Sunday. I protested that she really doesnt need to go so far out of her way just for me, but her kind response was ‘Honestly Camden, it would be really good to see you’.

Wishing you all wonderful sober weekends. :blush:

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My goodness!!! What an event. So glad you had a fire extinguisher (don’t forget to replace it). And I don’t know if i would recognize bedbuds. Just awful. I applaud your quick action. And agreed …a true blessing you were and are sober!!

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Fantastic Ray! So many years you didn’t drink away!

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Day 1000!!!
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So good to hear from you Cam - glad the buzzing stopped and that you are getting some sleep. I totally understand that a skew in routine can throw everything off. Just know your presence is missed.

Oh this is lovely Camden - others are seeing and drawn to your sweet compassion and loving nature. I am thrilled that you have made such a lovely connection with Safe Soulmates. I am grateful that you two will be meeting up this weekend. :hugs:

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So impressive - about to have double digits soon. You should be super proud of yourself! Grateful that you are going to both meetings. I am sorry you are dealing with sleep issues. I know in the beginning of sobriety many experience insomnia.

If you haven’t already - you may want to try these out:

  • melatonin
  • magnesium
  • hot shower before bed
  • a deep tissue foot rub
  • lavender essential oil…a drop on the pillow and also in diffuser
  • mindful body scan with deep breathing. Lay flat on your back …start with toes and work your way up. Crunch up the toes and then slowly release. Take deep inhale and exhale.
  • stop any tv/ phone/ computer use as the light and sounds keep us awake
  • meditation - a great thread here if you are interested

Hoping you do get some great sleep soon. Keep up with your amazing work. :muscle:

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:first_quarter_moon_with_face: Evening Check In :first_quarter_moon_with_face:
Day 579
Grateful to be clean and sober today. Tonight was a triggering one for me. Something had triggered me and it brought on a fairly intense urge to use. I worked thru it but it was tough honestly. Other than this craving, my night was pretty relaxing. Hubby and I ordered out and then i had a nice hot shower. Work this weekend for me so need to prepare for that. And my voice is basically back!!! Yay!!! So grateful for that also. Hope everyone has a good night! :butterfly:

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Ah sorry my friend - That is rough and intense. Do you know what the trigger was so that you can avoid in future?
I am super impressed with how you handled it. Grateful for your hubby being committed to his recovery and thereby being a great example / motivator for you.
Flex those sobriety muscles my friend. You are a rockstar!

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Welcome Trixie!

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Checking in 90 Days alcohol free
I’m spending the weekend with a dear friend at the Lake. I opened up to her today about my sobriety and the milestone I reached today. I knew she didn’t drink but always just assumed she didn’t like drinking. She confided in me today that she has 10 years sober. I was shocked. She explained that it’s a person journey and one she doesn’t feel the need to discuss.

My friend has experienced a lot of trauma in her life and I’ve always admired how she’s overcome it. We are both psychic mediums and I’ve considered her a mentor for many years. We share a similar past and now we have another area to bond over.

Grateful for the short work week and the extra time with my friend. I’m also grateful for this community and the support, advice and encouragement I get from all of you. Thank you sober family. My life has improved so much in these 90 days. I know the sky is the limit.

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So…7 months :partying_face: and I had a fantastic day!

Even though I went to bed late, I was ready to start the day. Got to work by 10 and was the only one opening up for the first hour. The routine of it is calming to me, even tho it’s alot of work for one person. Lunch shifts are hit or miss but today was a good one. 5.5 hours flew by. I still had that cleaning energy when I got home :+1:

My daughter was picked up at 6 so I made some food and began a movie. I felt antsy, like I should be doing something more on a Friday night. I started going through my old jeans to see if they fit yet (since I was much heavier the past 2 autumns). Pretty much all of them did! Which felt amazing. I got a whole new(old) wardrobe!

Then I sporadically decided I wanted to go to a meeting. I can rarely make it to the Friday night ones, bc of work, but I figured it only made sense for today. The one I like gives out every monthly chip. Unfortunately I thought it started at 8, but it was actually 6:30 :confused: Nevertheless there was another one at 8 that I’d never been to before. Very welcoming but I didn’t recognize many. Then my brother walked in. Our relationship is still complicated from our drinking days. He sat across the room and left immediately after.

Anyway, a speaker meeting. Her story was unique in that she got sober at 21 bc of AA. She went to meetings and remained sober for 25 years but was still miserable in life. You wanna know why? She NEVER did the steps that whole time! Once she finally did, she realized that is the whole point of the program, and loves her life now. I only got thru step 5 before covid, but the difference that made was monumental. What I learned in a few months back then has stuck with me ever since. Getting to meetings became near impossible for me since covid. I definitely want to make it to more once work slows down.

I thank you all for being a part of my recovery :pray: Hope you all have a wonderful 24 hours!
:heart::heart::heart:

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Day 1823 :walking_woman:
Went to a concert of the Levellers yesterday and fall in love with the violin player :blush:
What a good looking man :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Besides that, Im doing fine! My milestone is coming up soon but I’m feeling solid and not twisted like most of the time when a milestone is in sight. I changed my day counter into a year counter, but the widget on my mobilephone is still showing the days. Still can glance at the days as well :blush:
Today my last day at work before my holiday starts. Tomorrow we are taking the boat to Scotland. Going to hike and travel around and celebrate my 5 year milestone there :tada:
Soberwalker surrounded by scottish mountains (and lot’s of rain :sweat_smile:).


Have a great saturday all :raising_hand_woman:

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  1. Getting up. Walking the dog. Going to see mum in hospital with my big brother. Coming home. Sorting stuff for the new house. Running.

Being time poor and feeling overwhelmed by too many things (even if it’s not really that much) used to be an alcohol trigger. Now I know it and I’m just busy but not drinking. :slightly_smiling_face:

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Day 84. Last night was a bit tricky. Went for a meal and other three i was with where knocking it back. They had a bottle of wine for lunch and two with dinner. One was talking non stop in the evening whereas i just wanted a relaxing quiet meal. One was complaining about their stomach mid day so i said we could postpone the meal (as it was expensive) but nope. We went for the meal , they picked at the food but managed the wine and grappe ok.
… cost: 230 pounds and i just felt abit frustrated. I didn’t drink and won’t. Off to explore whilst folks are asleep

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Day 132. Happy weekend folks :call_me_hand::smiley:

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Checking in! :call_me_hand:t2:

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Having a coffee im off till Wednesday now ,miserable weather for walking the dogs but im sober im hopeful about my future ive got acceptance and i will do this ,hope everyone is good sending love :heart:

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