Checking in daily to maintain focus #64

If anyone likes nice weather, the forecast for my house is partly cloudy and 76 degrees (25c) with relatively light winds. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: Yā€™all come by!

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Day 82ā€¦ checking in

Iā€™m not having the best morningā€¦ I didnā€™t have the best night ā€¦ hoping the day gets better as it goes on

I hope everyone has the best day :black_heart:

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Just wanting to check in, been a busy few days! So happy to be back at work.

Hubby and I had an argument, which is not what the argument was about. You know those? Im just so grateful weā€™re openly comnunicating, as we go through this long journey of healing from all we have been through these past few years. He is my guy, and Im so grateful for him.

I have to tell you all I had a using dream, where I drank and what I remember from my dream is having to come on TS and post about it :face_with_peeking_eye: it makes me chuckle a little still thinking of it, and I am SO GRATEFUL to be sober today.

Wabting to free myself of resentment, fear and guilt. Working on these things. Keeping my side of the street clean, and hope to have healing around my dad. I love him very much and persobally I felt so much tension and anger with him after my sister died. Deserved or not, it does not matter to me anymore. I love him for who he is, I accept him for who he is and I hope he feels the same for me.

Xo. Daughter is home sick and hubby is off for a boys weekend at the cottage. Hope he has a good time, and me too with my kiddos :slight_smile: xo.

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Wow you are my inspiration!

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Day 3 :heavy_check_mark:

Wow, so glad and relieved to just know things are going to get better - Iā€™m already feeling and seeing it.
Iā€™m so glad my relapse was every few days over 3 weeks, and not 2 yrs like my last one.
I am really keeping positive and trying to stop the negative chatter in my head. Like when I get anxious about going outside to do gardening Iā€™m trying to channel my thoughts to the enjoyment il get out of it.
Instead of getting into a panick or over thinking or even telling myself oh I canā€™t do that il have a panick attack - Iā€™m telling ng myself oh that would be nice to get out plant those seeds, oh that will feel great when you have done that, oh wouldnā€™t it be nice when you do this. Instead of I telling myself I canā€™t, and all the negative thoughts Iā€™m thinking of the actual activity and enjoyment it will bring being productive.
In a shorter version basically Iā€™m telling myself, I can and I will instead of nope your not going to do it. Facing my fears head on, preparing for the worst that would happen if I go outside etcā€¦ have a plan just incase it does and go for it. (Usually my thinking is over dramatic and nothing I thought terrible happens).

I also know Iā€™m still the person I built up to be, who I was 3 weeks ago, before my relapse, but I also realised that she relapsed, I relapsed and Its good Iā€™m still in that place to bounce back, but I need to think what I can do better this time because I was struggling and Iā€™m still on ice.
So yh not sure if any of this makes sense, but I must keep communicating because I know for a fact It works.

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13.5 days - weā€™re racing forwards to 2 weeks! Woo hoo!

Feeling much lighter today, and Iā€™ve noticed that I wake up every day thinking ā€˜Iā€™m glad I didnā€™t drink yesterdayā€™!

Had an amazing meeting with my union about work - work have been absolute bastards for the last year and have been refusing to pay me whilst Iā€™ve been off; now they have to pay me in full and backdate everything!
My advocate said how much brighter my skin looks, and how much happier I look.

Went food shopping and fully stocked my fridge up. I literally havenā€™t used it in the last 6 months because I would never eat when drinking, but Iā€™ve done a deep clean and now itā€™s stocked with meat, veg, fruit and cheese!
Iā€™m thinking of a lovely lamb dinner, chicken and sweet potato curry, cheesy spinach and mushroom pasta, and guacamole for this week!

Also did my washing, took the bins out and vacuumed, which I never did while drinking. Iā€™m really starting to feel like me again, and I honestly thought Iā€™d never get her back.

Gotta go back up to the shops later to buy a new phone charger and energy drinks (a vice, I know! But not as bad as alcohol). Itā€™s lovely and sunny here, I feel so relaxed and happy!

Have a good day all! :blush:

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Oh my god, thatā€™s horrendous! Good attitude to have, but what disgusting claims they have thrown at you!
Always vent here, if you need to. Thatā€™s a lot to take on by yourself.

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Reading your post has made me smile :blush: :grin:

Iā€™m so pleased work has sorted out your payments properly, and that you have stocked up on food and your feeling and seeing how well your doing and that all the little things are coming together and your happy :blush:
Proud to read this, proud of you :grinning:
Congratulations on your 2 weeks :sparkler:

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Thank you Twiz, this means a lot to me.

Iā€™m proud of you too for coming back and doing the damn thing! Youā€™re doing amazingly and I hope youā€™re starting to feel a little better.
Every road has itā€™s bumps, sometimes weā€™ve got to pull over and re-evaluate the situation, but the important thing is that youā€™ve got back on that road!
Keep trucking along friend, youā€™ve got this! :blush:

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Big hugs :hugs::hugs: Thank you that means alot :muscle:

Used all my likes but reading everything I see :grin:

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Mid day check in. Well itā€™s Friday already :partying_face: Had some snow last night just a few inches and expecting around 10 inches Sunday. Spring is in the air :smile: Oh well itā€™s been a mild winter so I wonā€™t complain. Not much else to report so letā€™s all have a good day!!! :v:

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Yes!! The days leading up to my cycle were always some of the quickest/worse blackouts and the older I got the worse they were. hope you get some good rest for your exhaustion :heart:

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Thank you, thatā€™s so kind! :heart:

I donā€™t post a whole bunch recently because Iā€™ve been so busy, but I always try to keep doing my daily check inā€™s to help keep people motivated :muscle:

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This is my 4th day,

Im grateful for my boss smile today,
Im grateful for my friends saying you looks pretty good
Im grateful i can eat good food
Im grateful that i can save money
Im grateful im getting good productivity

sleep issue and nightmares not solved

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Just realised 272 days is 9 months :slight_smile: fab. Thank u for support folks. Small steps

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Day 150
Some days are better than others

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@JazzyS congrats on 15 months alcohol and weed free :tada:
@MrsOdh I like that :blush: thank you šŸ©µ
@Just_Laura congrats on 400 days :tada:
@Mno thank you šŸ©µ Iā€™m glad you enjoyed the first creative writing class :blush:
@acromouse a little yes :raised_hands:t2: Iā€™m sorry about the panic/anxiety attacks :people_hugging: but congrats on 4 months of freedom from sugar :tada:
@Jimz thank you so much :blush: šŸ©µ
@MrFantastik congrats on all the 1s :tada:
@IamThechange that was exactly it :face_holding_back_tears: and thank you :blush:
@Juli1 I love these reflections, sorry you had to go through it all to get to this point though :people_hugging:šŸ©µ
@Lighter congrats on 3 weeks :tada:

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@Mindofsobermike sorry for the social media accusations, thatā€™s awful of her. :people_hugging: I do like your attitude towards it though :clap:t2:
@tifflynn07 I hope your day got better :people_hugging: sending strength šŸ©µ
@Lile01 please for you about the Union meeting, and all the benefits of your sobriety :raised_hands:t2: congrats on 2 weeks :tada:
@Timetochange congrats on 9 months :tada:
@Thumper1213 congrats on 150 days :tada:

1320 days no alcohol.
785 days no cocaine.
300 days no vape.
45 days no binge-eating.

It took me from 6am to 10:30am to get ready, I wish my brain wasnā€™t like this, it wouldnā€™t let me get in the bath until I only had an hour before I needed to leave. Much to my frustration and despair. Then it took me a little while to battle the anxiety about the drive to my brotherā€™s house, but I got through that too, and eventually, I was on my way, on time.

It was such a nice visit, even though my SIL labelled it as a ā€˜bad dayā€™ (baby niece was tired but wouldnā€™t nap, so there was lotā€™s of crying, bless her). I suggested going for a walk, so we did that, baby was quiet but still no closed eyes.
It was so nice to be able to talk to my SIL, weā€™ve always got on well, but these days thereā€™s always other people around when we see each other, and my 5yo niece of course, so we donā€™t get to catch up like we did today very often anymore.

Iā€™ve caught-up here, now Iā€™m planning an early night, so I can get into action on cleaning the flat this weekend. That is my sole mission for this weekend, so Iā€™m hoping to activate hyper-focus, and get it done, bit by bit, with short breaks.

Wishing you all wonderful sober weekends. :blush:

šŸ©µ

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Checking in day 81 AF :blush:

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Checking in on day 1400ā€¦.

Have a great night/day/morning where ever you are and have a lovely weekend :blush:

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