Like what you’ve said here. Stopping alcohol is a great, great start, which makes all the other health improvements possible. It sure takes up a lot of space in my life. Yes. Definitely be kind to yourself. Many of us have perfectionist tendencies, and I think there’s almost a self-loathing baked into that. Not just stop drinking (a massive undertaking), but get perfectly fit and have a perfect home, etc. All at once! (Why bother if you don’t do it all). It’s a setup, it was a trap for me. Trying to fix everything at once, I couldn’t enjoy life. But picking one thing, the most monstrous thing that blocks everything else…I can do that. It’s still very hard but I can do it. And I find some of the other things get taken care of (fitness, etc.) when I get out of my own way and focus on sobriety, for now
Within 3 days of stopping drinking I’m usually like a tornado trying to sort an endless todo list of things which got neglected during my drinking. Then onto the diet and gym twice a day despite not having been for weeks before. Always ends the same way with it all falling down
This time I’m focussing on the big one - not drinking - and like you said some of the others have started to fall back into place. Will I be back to running marathons any time soon? No, probably not, but I’ll be sober!
Haven’t checked in for a while as I’ve literally been bed-bound over the last few days. I have no idea what’s hit me, but all I can do is sleep at the moment.
Hoping to go shopping today so I can make curry as (tw: weight, calories) I haven’t been eating, and with the lack of calories from alcohol, my weight is plummeting.
I just feel so lethargic and exhausted.
Being sober is scary, but going to resus and having naloxone administered every few minutes to keep you alive is definitely scarier.
So is going to hospital and having a BAC of .49, and having all of the doctors and nurses baffled as to how you aren’t dead/in a coma.
I’ve been in both of these positions; scary shit.
Sounds like you’ve got a lot on your plate, I totally relate with the cleaning panic. Even if you just do one dish a day, it’s better than nothing.
The first few days are an absolute bastard. Between anger, fear and pure rage, I felt it all, and every little thing made me want to throw my toys out of the pram, lol.
You’re here and you’re doing the damn thing, and you should be proud of yourself. Rant away friend, it’s why we’re all here. No judgement or shame.
I wish both yourself and your girlfriend the best.
Checking in 30 Days. Struggling today. I am still sick but getting better. My wife was upset at me last night because she said that she feels like I am not following the road map she laid out for me to earn her trust back. I agree, I don’t think I have been doing the best but I am still sober so it was hard for me to hear. Things have been so hard with work taking over my life the past 2 weeks and now getting sick. Our kids are also a handful as well. Just trying my best to hold it all together but I can’t. I just feel like I need some time to rest and reset my mind.
Day 7 - the days not over yet - I have no intention to drink or do anything - so il celebrate it when ok in bed and the days over. But I am like wow that’s another step in the right direction
Hi everyone I’m back from my appointment, my head’s a bit… blah at the moment but I wanted to say thank you to everyone for your support
It means so much to know together we can all help eachother and I’m so lucky to have you all
I was so good at setting unrealistic goals for myself.
Like I’d plan my day… Try to fit everything in all at once… Even superwoman couldn’t of got it done. Then the end of the day I’d be left feeling like a failure.
I’m alot more easier on myself now, try to set realistic goals. And I even learnt a trick from @maxwell that instead of writing a to do list - just write down the things you did get done.
Congratulations on 8 days
Cheking in sober, but full blown anxiety!? I mean what the f is going on. I hate how I work. Im at the movies with my son and on the way I start feel wierd, dizzy, shaking, tensed, something wierd with the feeling in my teeth. I cant cope, Im scared and afraid Im about to die, to have a stroke. I just want to cry… I feel like such a failure.
Having anxiety definitely does not make you negative okay
Sending you some healing energy take some deep slow breaths and try and just sit down and have some water or a soft drink.
Hope it passes quickly for you and you can feel a bit better to watch the movie.
Thanks, I hope. Im alone with my 11yo at the movies, its ok if Im not abel to enjoy it as long as he does and I dont die now only me and him, and that he will be traumatized for life…
- the days not over yet - I have no intention to drink or do anything - so il celebrate it when ok in bed and the days over. But I am like wow that’s another step in the right direction 
take some deep slow breaths and try and just sit down and have some water or a soft drink.
