Checking in daily to maintain focus #64

[Chevy55]

2nd check in Day 86,

I’m unsure if what I’m doing is right or another type of addiction?
After my weight training, I worked outside on my lawn care trailer, loading on zero turn mower and just doing some stuff in garage to prep for a couple walls I need to build and put up in my sea container that I have for storage.
Then of course because I’ve done two hikes over past three days I did another 6k hike today and that pretty much wore me out so in bed by 8pm.

Am I just replacing one addiction for another? And while exercise and eating healthy are not in any way bad, could it be?
I’m hyper focused on hitting my goals I set, perhaps because I am enjoying it or perhaps I am just ensuring I don’t get bored or have too much energy to eye the old whiskey bottle.

I’m unsure as it just hit me earlier, what happens if this push injures me and I am laid up from exercise? At 57 (nearly) and definitely not a gym rat, but always have been capable physically and have had the good fortune to not endure any injuries not due to stupidity (tearing Achilles, blowing out knee entirely), how do I preoccupy myself if that were to happen?

Interesting situation I think, and perhaps one I need to think on carefully as currently I don’t really have a back up plan if this current focus goes south.

Anyway, if anyone has any thoughts I’d love to hear.

Be well all

[Steve14]

It can turn into another addiction if things start to revolve around it and you start obsessing about it. I know with me I can turn anything into an addiction. Over the years I have gotten into changing my eating and working out to extremes and focused on that number on the scale. In August I started to get back into cause I had gained weight from quitting drinking and was feeling like crap over all but this time I just do it to feel better and really don’t pay attention to the scale. Just eat sensibly and mix up my workout. I don’t know if this input helps and I’m just rambling on

[FAE1]

Wow it’s been forever since I have checked in! Sobriety really has kept me busy for the better! Today marks day 819!! I never thought even day 1 was possible NM all these days throughout. Life isn’t perfect, I would rather feel all the imperfections then not feel anything at all! Stay strong my friends!!

[Rookie]

Congrats and happy early birthday!

[Jasty2]

Checking in day 200 SAF and 186 no smokes. So I worked today, and then decided to work the second shift too, just to cover for the holiday. We didnt have any plans this year anyway. I been fighting some kind of cold, that now seems to have settled in my chest and I been sleeping like shit, so I have to be vigilante and make sure I’m doing extra sobriety work when I get in these funks. But I’m good. On the plus side I believe we sold the house 2 days after putting it on the market and our offer was accepted on the one we wanted so as long as the contracts are good when we go over them tomorrow with the realtors I guess we’ll be moving sooner than later. Anyways trying to catch up here. You all are some talkers. . But I love ya’s anyway. Happy Easter

[JazzyS]

@Jasty2

have to be vigilante and make sure I’m doing extra sobriety work when I get in these funks. But I’m good

Good on you in recognizing it and working diligently on your recovery

Congratulations wow that’s awesome news on the house. One less thing to stress about hopefully.

Hope you get rest and shake this cold

Lol…we are some talkers…this thread has been on fire lately.

[Butterflymoonwoman]

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Checking in this evening on a very cool number catch!! Went on the app and it popped up as all 4s for my $ saved. Thought that was great timing!!!

The evening was really nice! My son opened his gifts for Easter and then we built some lego. We will be playing a few games tmrw when theres more time. Hes off to bed and im going to do some self care soon. Feeling super grateful for recovery tonight. Just being free from drugs and alcohol is such a beautiful feeling Hope everyone is enjoying their day/night hugs

[Just_Laura]

@Rob11 Is that why my go to is EDM/House music?! Makes so much sense! But not to anyone else Sometimes lyrics distract me too much.

@maxwell I used to have one of those plants. We were looking at the cactus’/succulents and my daughter said ‘that one looks like a butt!’, so I obviously had to buy it. Unfortunately my house is a plant graveyard and the only one I can keep alive is my snake plant I should probably water it.

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First time I opened the app all day and it’s almost tomorrow! It usually feels daunting to catch up on 150 posts, but it was exactly what I wanted to do tonight It was such a strenuous day. I struggled to get thru some of it.

Up at 7am. Work started at 9:00. At 11, 250 people(half kids) walked in all at once. Chaotic Easter. They left and we had to reset the whole place by 1:30. Made it with 2 minutes to spare. Round two! Clean it all up again, and then some. I got home at 5 and could do nothing else but lay down. Didn’t sleep, just didn’t move an inch for 45 minutes. Then I played Easter bunny and drove to pick up my daughter. Every year I hide her basket too well and she ends up giving up. There’s still 4 MIA eggs(I learned to count how many I hide so I know if they’re still out there ). A few years ago I did it drunk the night before, and I forgot where I hid things! Found something a month later and she didn’t even relate it to Easter I put her to bed at 11, bc she’s off school, and this has been the chillest time I’ve had today. My stomach is a little funky, but I think it’s bc I hardly had time for a meal. I should force something down before bed. Mmm…bed Definitely gonna check that out soon. Tomorrow’s Dyngus Day so we’re going to my parents for lunch to celebrate. Should be a nice day of Polish food and pussy willows. Hope you all have a great one!

[Shawn1991]

Good morning all, hope everyone had a good weekend and ready for another sober week

[MrFantastik]

121 days
Big day. Spent the whole day at an amusement park with the kids. Everyone is pretty wiped out haha.
Quick check in while i get some dinner on

[Bones_80]

495 been binge watching the 3 body problem on Netflix not a bad watch

Happy sober Monday everyone

[Whereswaldo]

I binged that over 2 days! It really scratched my brain nicely. You’re nearly at the 500 mark! Inspirational!

[Timetochange]

Day 282. Weather still mixed. I finished all the flat packs I had to build for the apartment last week. Feels good to have them all sorted.Plannin g our holiday next. Probably not going away till Sept or maybe next jan/Feb. ( I need to pay off all the costs of the new furniture before we go anywhere)

My daughter didn’t message me at Easter but my son did which was good

[MrsOdh]

I’m here, I’m alive, I’m sober and I’m happy.
Day 34

Going to change my daily mantra to exactly that. Because to be honest, nowdays I am actually happy most of the time. So it feels more real.

April fool’s day today. Always disliked this day, Never understood why people want to play trick on each other and make their friends sad.
So no April fool’s jokes, or pranks here. I’ve also reminded the kids to not trust anyone or anything today.

Besides that I’ve started to get back to my exercise routine for real, and is making more changes to my diet. No cheating this time.
I’ve gained 10 pounds this months that I’ve been drinking, not happy about it. Really looking forward to get my own body back and fit into my clothes again.

Also have a new plan for the garden, it’s going to take a lot of work but will probably be cheaper than the original plan with the patio.

Ma talked about selling our house this Easter so we’re going to have a serious talk with her before we put any more money into it. To see what her plan really is. If she wants to sell like next year when she’s going to retire, or if she has a plan about keeping it for like ten years and hoping that we’ll buy it. Or whatever it might be.

My husband is also doing another x-ray for his back and hip on Thursday. He’s gotten a new doctor, who wants to check everything the last doctor didn’t bother to do. Hopefully we’ll get to know what’s really wrong and if there’s something they actually can do.

If it is like he thought on the last visit, he’ll only get worse, and there’ll be no point for us to keep or buy the house. Currently my husband can Only be on the ground floor, he can’t use any stairs to get to the other floors in the house.

Normally I would be sad, upset or worried about it. But I’m not. I’m at peace with whatever the outcome of everything will be.

My former best friend have also kept spamming me from another email adress this Easter. Says he misses me, wants me to come back, wants us to connect again. We broke contact a few months ago because I couldn’t stand all the constant chaos, arguing and his idea about that I should choose him instead of my husband.

After that I did one try to reconnect, and he said that I made him constantly nervous,and that he almost panicked by seeing my name come up on Instagram. I said in that case we most definitely shouldn’t be friends. Wished him good luck in life and blocked him everywhere.

He tried to send a few emails after that. I didn’t respond, and this holiday he totally spammed me. Still haven’t responded. I’m very much fine without him, I don’t need that stress or worrying in my life.

Feels a bit mean, we’ve been friends over 20 years. But to be honest, I’ve never felt this calm and at peace with the world ever before. So I won’t let him break that.

Wishing you all a happy Monday, don’t forget that it’s April’s fools.

Love y’all

[MrsOdh]

Eating healthy and exercise is good for you. Just like with everything else, it’s good in moderation.

In my opinion,If it becomes and obsession that goes way above everything else, when it starts to be the only thing your care about. When it takes over everything else then you might need to start thinking about of you replace one addiction with another.

Initially that doesn’t have to be a bad thing either, of you don’t hurt anyone. A lot of us have done the same thing. Replaced alcohol or any doc with sweets, became a little obsessed with an all over health lifestyle.

Wanted to do it all at once. Personally I have way to much energy when I’m not drinking it usually ends up in big house renovation or garden fixing projects

I’m sure you’ll do just fine, as long as you’re aware of what you’re doing and don’t push yourself to hard. Rest is just as important as everything else.

[Mno]

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I’m in a bit of a hurry as I slept in on my first day of vacation (yay!) and we’re back to over a 100 posts a day on this thread so quite some stuff to catch up after 24 hours of absence. And I’m expected to show up at my sister’s in 90 minutes time for Easter brunch (it’s Easter on Monday here as well). Luckily she lives only a ten minutes bike ride from me.

Anyway. It’s good to see you all, working on a better future for yourselves. And doing it together. It can’t be done alone. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Sober and clean. Love.

@JennyH Happy sober 43rd dear Jenny! Let’s celebrate it here!
@FAE1 Thanks for checking in and congrats on 819 days!
@Jasty2 Huge congrats on 200 days my friend! Awesome work.
@Bones_80 Glad to see you Ian. Congrats on your days and have a good one friend.
@MrsOdh April fool’s not my day either Sophia. Always happy with sobriety though. Love you

@Just_Laura

a nice day of Polish food and pussy willows.

That’s such a lovely image. Put a big smile on my face. Enjoy Laura.

[acromouse]

@MrsOdh Do whatever you need about that friend. I blocked contact with my best childhood friend some years ago, after she had become an endless nuisance in my life. If it’s toxic, cut it. You already did communicate your needs clearly, and he does not seem to respect your boundaries.
@Bones_80 Did you per chance read the book and can compare?
@MrFantastik Hope your getting some down time soon.
@Just_Laura I miss Śmigus-dyngus. My grandma used to wake us up sprinkling water on our faces on Easter Monday.
@Jasty2 Get well soon. Give yourself some time
@Chevy55 One thing I consider in these kind of situations is: Am I trying to control life a bit too much? Addiction is about trying to ‘solve and control life’ with a substance and behaviour. Recovery is the acceptance that I can’t, the surrender to life, and connection to all parts of it, the pleasant and the unpleasant ones.

131 sugar
29 UPF
2 gluten
2 dairy
2 overeating/binge

I’m giving myself a pass for yesterday’s hunger episodes. For today I want to be more attuned to my satiety signals and whatever my body wants to tell me. Goal for today: Become a body whisperer

Easter Monday is still a holiday around here. I’m taking it easy. Want to do a longer walk or bike ride after breakfast. A nap after lunch maybe And definitely Yoga in the afternoon. These are my very extensive plans for today.

Enjoy your day in peace, kindness and freedom friends

[james83]

Morning all! Day 18 and slept in past 9. Not sure what is going on with my body clock… some days I’m awake crazy early and others my alarm wakes me. Back to work tomorrow so that alarm will be EARLY. Either way, waking up sober never gets old.

Hosted extended family for lunch yesterday. There was wine but I noticed that no one drank very much. A little left over at the end which went down the drain because whilst I don’t want to drink it I don’t need the temptation. I had a 10 second pang of “a drink would be nice” before my mind shut that down on its own. I hate to bang on about it but “this naked mind” really has altered my unconscious mind and turned alcohol into something to be avoided.

Taking the kids out to a country park this morning because it’s almost sunny. Have a wonderful day everyone

[Forgive_Yourself]

Checking in after a longer break… Day 94, still sober.

Whole family was here on Easter, 12 people for brunch, a nice long walk and barbeque in the evening. I’m super lucky because 10 of these people live AF as well.

[JennyH]

Morning all, checking in on Day 8. Thank you all so much for the messages and support. You are all wonderful

I am feeling slightly better and the sun is shining so will try and get out. I don’t think I have the stamina for a walk, but a nice lunch in countryside surroundings sounds perfect. I have missed nature while stuck in bed.

@MeSober and @john_connor1337 can I join your sober train? We are all on the same numbers by the sound of it