Congratulations on 700 days!!! Amazing work 
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Awwwwwā¦that is sweet @tailee17. Thanks for checking up on me. Also to @Seb @JazzyS @Butterflymoonwoman @SassyRocks and so many others. Iāve been enjoying the holiday here in the USA.
My time in America with my kids visiting my family is drawing to a close and has been such an amazing time!!! Iāve been able to re-connect with them and make some amends.
Goals for 2025:
- Continue working my program and my faith journey and honing my spiritual toolkit.
- Start sponsoring men in the program
- Secure a return to 50/50 custody with my kids
- Move into my new house and make it a home.
- Get a dog
- 50th birthday present to myself to return to America in August to hike a 400 mile section of the Appalachian Trail.
I am 8 months sober now and have so much to look forward to.
I hope all you guys are doing well.
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Welcome to the forum!! This truly is a very supportive and helpful place! Wouldnt be where i am today without it! Glad ur here 
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Oh yay!!! 
Congratulations on 8 months sober!! Love ur plan for 2025! Lots of good things on the horizon for u my friend
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So great to hear from you.
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5 weeks
Work tomorrow
Im not doing well
Need therapy
I just watched a series of videos of adults physically fighting over pokemon cards in costco which does make me feel better about myself if only slightly.
No drinking or video game, but lots of inertia and no stretching, cleaning, responses to friends and family, or important life admin tasks got done either. Just lots of nothing.
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Day 16 when I wake up tomorrow.
Going to bed sober tonight.
Feeling like the tide is turning and those good feelings are around the corner.
I welcome them.
Today went according to plan.
Had my work, then helped the kids with their math homework.
Day went as planned.
Going to bed now.
Good night.
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Well, I did get a ton more done, in very ADD fashion. When I get on a cleaning roll, everything distracts me into cleaning it. So I start on one thing, find something else, and again, and then hop back and forth until theyāre all finished (idealy). Today I did finish everything I started(except the dishes. theyāre always there for me 
). Iām gonna try to keep it up tomorrow, and then I can know how it feels to relax during the real weekend 
I havenāt mentioned it lately(no point to), but my ex is finally getting out of jailā¦at midnight. I have no idea whatās going on there, as I havenāt spoke to him since he told me he was only getting sanctioned for 1-2 weeks back in May 
And when he wrote āThis is for the best bc I didnāt see an end to drug courtā (after 4 years) in his first letter, it really sealed the fuck you deal. Yeah, Iām definitely salty about that.
Is someone there to pick him up (bc you canāt walk away when youāre released for some reason)? Does he have somewhere to stay?(it aināt gonna be here) Does he have any child support for me? (I could SO use some of the $8,000 he owes me) All that and more on the next episode!!! Iām on the edge of my seat 
Whoo! Sobriety! Making everything just a little bit easier 
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Donāt feel you directly but damn these situations, I have too many girlfriends who have dealt with these dilemmas. Usually taking some time to see what the guy actually chooses to do is a good start. I hope things work out for you.
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Iām sorry to hear. May he rest in peace.
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Oh, I got all the time. Not much will change for me honestly. Iām more concerned about my daughter, but eh. Time will tell.
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Day 110
In the books. I was able to sleep in on my day off and get a late start to the day. It felt much needed. Then afterwards I did the good olā house things (dishes, laundry, cleaning) then went running some errands, mainly adulting and paying billsā¦ yay but Iām thankful to be in a position to do so and not be struggling, much better than years past (thank goodness!). I did treat myself to a lovely ice coffee x double espresso which is always a blessing. Afterwards, I got the grocery tings as well. Finally, I was able to attend the pre-meeting meal followed by the actual meeting. Tonight was chip night and I was able to collect those chips like Iām the recovery Thanos. It feels good to have something tangible to recognize my progress thus far. Just more motivation to keep pushing forward. ODAAT 
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Checking in. 60 days without alcohol and 31 days without weed, yay!
Another day ahead at the psych ward. I didnāt sleep so well, so Iām feeling pretty tired. But Iām confident and feeling really good about my sobriety. Iām meeting a doctor today, so letās see what she has to say about when Iām going home. Iām hoping at least to stay here over the weekend. Iām missing home and especially running. But now itās most important to be here safe and to get better.
Have a great day/evening, my dear sober fam!
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2050
Still misty out there. Writing it down makes me remind to hit my daylight lamp as outside Iām not going to see any 
. Thinking what to do today on the second day of my weekend. Might go for a skate. Could do with some exercise and exertion. Otherwise not much new.
Mensendieck therapy was nice. Got some exercises aimed at my posture and a bit of stretching and relaxing in ways I never did before so thatās good. Trying to sit up straight (using the right muscles) behind my desk instead of like a bag of spuds one of 'm. Had to remind myself of that only three times while writing this 
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Letās have as good a day as we all can friends. Sober and clean or nothing will come of it. Love form my little square. Got a letter from the council yesterday announcing a revamp with more green and less stones. Hope they donāt mess up the trees as I love 'm.
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Wow, that really is a lot going on. I am sorry you are having to deal with that. Ultimately you really donāt have to put up with it and think your plan for proper paid care is the right one. It is so unfortunate that some people go mean with dementia. One of the nicest Aunties ever became really unkind with it which always seemed so cruel as it wasnāt her at all.
We lived with my parents while saving for a deposit for 18 months. They were absolutely wonderful during that time but I still found it so tough, not having my own space. Really impressive that you are staying sober under such difficult circumstances.
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Thank you @Just_Laura Pregnancy sleep is awful! Prepares you for the next stage of awful sleep I suppose. Wasnāt anticipating doing this at the grand old age of 44 
So sorry for the problems with your ex, really hope you get some of the answers soon. Your daughter is lucky to have you!
Hi all, checking in on Day 119.
I am such a good mood, not sure if it is a Friday thing, but I am taking it. Sending positive feelings to all today. Wishing you all a peaceful and sober day.
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Waved my other half off very early this morning and Iām home alone now till Sunday evening. This would have been a signal for me previously to drink the entire weekend and probably do many things I would regret. Not today batman, Iām going to finish the paperwork chore that I truly wish Iād never started (though I found two pension funds with money in that I had forgot about) and act like a non addict for three days. Wish me luck.
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Please come over here and find some for me as well! Success with the chores friend 
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Day 21
Woke up feeling like shit. News about not getting job launched depression. I feel bad in my body and have mainly negative thoughts. The job i was waiting would have provided me own appartment, old collegues and old safe enviroment. I have no power to think about other opportunities right now. I donāt want to complain all the time but living with my parents, no partner, no work, no friends visiting, mental health problem and alcohol problem together are just making me feel a loser. Waiting for a meeting with psych nurse but i donāt know when.
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@MrMoustache Congrats on two months free from alcohol! Great job especially in difficult circumstances
@Just_Laura Your situation demands a lot of strength and nice loving self-care. Sending you strength and love over the ocean
@sober26 Good job stacking those sober days!
@Minatasha Hey there
Sorry to hear you are not doing so well. Do you have an appointment with a therapist in the future? Sometimes sharing in a meeting can be helpful. Sending you virtual hugs @Aussie_Tiger So good to hear your visit has been such a success
@Butterflymoonwoman Hoping you got that self-care time to wind down and relax
@Catmama23 Good to see you are taking things one step at a time. Sometimes this feels like the longest journey, but with time the steps become habits, and stuff will be easier.
@Tragicfarinelli Your description of the way you used the spend your weekends when alone reminded me very much of my own behaviour. Oh man, what a wreck. Wishing you luck for all those adult endevours of yours. By the way: What are the most nerdiest british things one can do?
@Mira_D We are all just human beings. We make the decisions that are available to us in a give situation. In hindsight most of it is stupid or just human. Donāt beat yourself up. So much in life depends on chance.
@handoferis So sorry to hear about your difficult circumstances. Also very impressed how you are handling the situation, putting your well being and safety first and asking for help. You are a hero!
422 sugar
286 UPF
160 gluten/dairy
Finally, finally I slept through a night. I feel sooo good. Also the sky has cleared up and I can see the blue and the sun. Great start to the day.
The home help is on the schedule today. A friend drove my daughter to school and she might come by later for a cup of tea.
I want to do some light programming today, review my heart practice for this week and some yoga in the afternoon.
Todayās picture is how I want my cheese to be delivered 
Peace and love always 
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