Checking in on day 892. It’s been a productive day and I feel good in myself. My daughter wants to revamp her bedroom so I’ve ordered her a new bed and other furniture items and have helped her declutter a bit. I’ve also decluttered my wardrobe a bit. I’m grateful to have a clear, sober mind to help make a calming and cosy space for us both. Sending love and strength to all.
Things have been pretty busy, but in a good way. I’m genuinely so grateful for the support and kind words.. and I aim to be better about accepting it and leaning into it. Hard to put yourself out there, but I know it’s worth it in the end.
Feeling a creative kick coming back on. Remaining hopeful, getting back in tune with myself and reality.
It was another good day, but I am sure like many parents of small kids I am ready for the break to be done lol. I love being with them, but man they have just been at each other so much and it’s been -25 here since we got home so we’re not out rocking it in the snow that much.
This aft was good though. We went to see some friends up the road and the kids had a blast. It was one of the first times I know when the kids just went off and played the whole time with almost no intervention or my son wantinf to be near me and taking a long time to warm up. They have a son a year older then ours, and a daughter 2 yrs younger then our daughter and they get on so well. We get on with their parents really well also so it’s so nice…they are just very chill, good people.
I’m struggling a little with my kids attitude right now…and just a bit nervous for hubby starting his new job. It’s going to be 12 hour shifts 4 days on, 3 off, 3 days on, 4 off. The days off will be nice, but it will take some adjusting bc his days on he won’t be home until we are putting kids to bed. I just know how cranky they can be when they get home and it’s hard to get them to settle/take space from one another…especially if it’s just me. I’m just…you know, worried about the change but hopefully it all balances out and he likes the new job
Another day ahead of temps around zero (centigrade that is) and precipitation that can’t make up its mind what form it’s taking. Luckily there’s stuff I can do at home. Some cleaning to be done. And a book that I started yesterday that’s screaming to me it want to be read all the way through.
Maybe outside it will clear up for a couple of hours so I can go out and get some good produce from the other side of town. Otherwise a trip to the grocery around the corner is all outside activity I will take today. I am 60 after all .
I’ll make today as good a day as I possibly can regardless of what happens. Sober and clean and I hope you will all do the same. Love from my little square.
@DanielaJ I remember the Job Center! Well done with 10 days snacks free, it must feel so much better I bet.
@SK213
“Just because I made some not so good decisions doesn’t mean I’ve lost all that I’ve gained.”
Truly if you think about it, there are not mistakes becasue at that point that was the only available option for yiu to take, or you would have done otherwise. It’s jus experience, orchestrated by your higher self, to learn and know better. Now, after sometimes, you come from experience and you do it in a different way. There is not good or bad, only experiences to learn from. In this way you can also help others when they go through same experiences. It’s good that you are reflecting on this … I have fucked up 99,99% of all I did in life up to four months ago …not a reason for not tryng again to live the life I dream of.
@Mno I really like the pictures of your sqaure. You should make a collage in a sequence to see how it changes across the months and post it! It would be super cool and you can make it the cover of your book!
Another lovely, uneventful weekend starts! If anything, this time around, getting sober is teaching me how to deal with “boredom.” I am doing pretty well with having a solid routine that I can repeat every single day, and although sometimes I feel the weight of wanting more, it has not triggered a relapse thus far, and I am grateful for this.
In my past attempts to give up drinking and using, FOMO has always played a major role in my relapses, and I always paid a steep price for those decisions: job losses, car accidents, injuries, diseases, lost friendships, family problems…any sort of drama that still wouldn’t be enough for me to believe that if I’m trying to control it, it means it’s out of control.
This time, life has humbled me enough to come to terms with myself and accept life on life’s terms, seeing the positivity in it rather than focusing on what’s missing. Nothing is missing, it is exactly as it has to be right now.
Yesterday I had lunch with a friend, and I certainly discovered a new place to go! I rarely do “social” activities, I’d rather stay home alone. Most of the time that’s fine for me, but I’m working on changing that, since I didn’t used to be like this until some 10 years ago, it came as part of my declining addiction process. The restaurant is right next to the sea, even though we sat inside cause it was quite cold. Super cosy place on the inside and excellent food!
I still have 4 days off, on Tuesday we have “Día de los Reyes Magos” / 3 wise men, and after that the Xmas festivities will finally be over! I have a ticket for the “Niño” lottery. I don’t believe in winning anything, but until the 6th of January the illusion remains.
I’m gonna get my place cleaned now, one of my routine activities that I can’t get rid of! If somebody forbids me to clean my place on a Saturday or Sunday morning, I’d get an anxiety attack!
Gray, snow, cold. Getting into the winter mood. After two weeks of a deep commitment to the slacker life I am slowly getting back into my usual routine, with enough time for LEGOs and other cozy activities.
I am going to a new gym today. Excited about it, I hope I like it there.
Afterwards I want to declutter my closet, read and get creative. Sewing or watercolors.
This morning I have been listening to a podcast about what teenage brains go through during puberty. It helps me understand my daughters behaviour better and I see her annoyed comments, eye rolling etc. in a new light. I am grateful for that new perspective.
And what an amazingly beautiful and peaceful morning it is as I enjoy my coffee watching the full moon set!
About to hit some cardio in about 20 mins, then do a bit more home cleaning, shower then off for groceries to help facilitate my “cut” stage of weight loss.
Wife works this afternoon, so a quiet and early (it’s awlways early, lol) evening to do some more reading.