hi and welcome, be prepared, we’ve been where you are and trust me this shit gets real, don’t fight it when it happens and everything, absolutely everything is normal and a part of the healing. If you can sit, scream and cry yourself through the next set of life changing experiences you will never have to do it again. I failed so many times and I know now that I can’t ever drink and smoke again, I don’t have that power in me to do it again, it literally kicked the shit out of me. Come on here and don’t do it alone bc it really will help. I wish you well on your journey. be strong.
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You won’t fail today, today’s not your day. We got ya, all the way.
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day 119 alcohol and day 79 weed and tobacco. At work, really busy as you can tell. I wish everyone a peaceful day and remember life won’t give you anything just because you think you deserve it, work hard and suffer is how we appreciate the quiet happy times. 
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Oh I’m sorry. This happened to my first husband. When he was finally able to defend himself, same thing. Devastating 
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Working on day 3 today 
Feeling great that I didnt spend money last night on unhealthy things. I woke up after a great sleep and not feeling like crap. Looking forward to the gym today and doing some shopping hope everyone has a wonderful saturday!
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oops that’s some dementia right there, I’ve already checked in once already. 
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I’ve spent more time on my mind than I care to say, it’s an endless task but helps no end.
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Yes I really knocked his block off and for the next 20 years I was in and out of asylums although I have been told by my own psychiatrist and also nurses psychiatrist to do with mental health and the head of the clinic that I use to attend that if I ever want to get either of my parents incarcerated in a mental institution all I have to do is let them know they are quite awhere now of the true matter of the fact although it’s a little bit too much too late I have quite an inheritance coming to me so I’m not going to open that kettle of fish as I have a 1.5 million dollar house coming to me and a $700 thousand dollar house coming to me by the end of it all I should end up with about 1.5 as this house that I’m in right now is a definite so by me and incarcerateing them I’m not going to do anything but lose my inheritance so I think I will leave it stand as it is at the moment the mental health seen really needs a good shaking up I’ve thought of becoming a consumer consultant as I haven’t been incarcerated for the last 6 to 7 years I’ve never fought the system and I suppose that is why they don’t want to incarcerate me anymore I’m number one for telling people their rights when they are in there I have turned the whole place upside down on many occasions legally and without the powers-that-be being able to do much about it if I do not get my inheritance I will take out a lawsuit against Victorian mental health for incarcerateing me wrongly in a straight jacket when straight jackets were illegal I was also strapped down to a bed which is called a gurney for over a year on and off it is a horrible thing especially when you really haven’t done much wrong endangered nobody else put yourself I can tell you the truth though is that straitjackets are way more humane then a journey at least in a straight jacket you can rub up against the wall in your 5 star accommodation padded cell and get some relief it gets incredible when you can’t scratch yourself when you are strapped down to a bed or Gerni you have to scream out for help a nurse would come in unstrap you for about 30 seconds then it was back to the torture again all this because I knock somebody’s block off that tried to strangle me as a kid of about 6 years old anyway it’s all a long time ago now I’m just concentrating on staying soberjust broke after 6 hours without a cigarette if I can go 6 hours I will make it 7 for the next time an increase it like that I know I can go 6 so why not 7 still sober though and I have a bottle of beer sitting right up on my mantelpiece I’m going to leave it there because actually I want it in front of my face all the time that way I know I can address the problem all the time instead of just being out one night in the wrong place and Rong situatio and breaking by keeping the bottle there I’m always aware of my problem and I’m fighting it all the time which can only make me stronger I know a lot of you would say to pour the bottle out if I’m constantly fighting it I’m constantly winning
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Day 171. On the road traveling with my sister to attend a family wedding. It’ll be the first time visiting my extended family as a sober person. I’m a little nervous but I’m resolved not to cave. We’ll be eating crawfish tonight and I always have 4 or 5 beers along with it in the past. But not tonight. Can’t do it. It’ll be nice waking up sober tomorrow and enjoying the wedding sober too. Have a great Saturday everyone!
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Day 55! I survived a week with the inlaws which included a 4 year old and 2 year old fighting constantly and a sick 9 month old and moving from one giant house to another. Oh yeah and bottles and bottles of wine and alcohol everywhere!! If I can make it through this I can make it through anything. I came so close to relapsing. I even smelled the wine last night just to imagine drinking it! OMG! Haha Lawd help me. Leaving today. I appreciate my own simple life so much more now. Staying strong.
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Good morning all my awesome ppl, day 26. These last two days I woke up happy, I could not sleep last night, so It took me a minute to get out of bed. We got pounded with snow, and it’s cold so me and the girls are cooped up today. But I am trying new productive ways with them and so far so good. Ran on the treadmill for 5 miles. I’m glad to see all of these long sober days from all of you. Have a happy sober Saturday
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Wow, that is a lot and I admire how you’re tackling it. I find being part of the solution to be very healing myself.
Made it through brunch SOBER!
My friend had one Bloody Mary like a normal person 
It was nice, glad I went. Happy to be home now though lol.
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Happy all around Beth! I’m happy for you lady. BTW, drinking alcohol is not normal. It might be the social norm but that’s something different. Being sober is normal 
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Enjoy Cristel! Sounds like fun. Congrats on 171.
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You right!! 
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Day 64 for me. Today my parents visited and that stirred up some displeasing emotions. Being social is pretty hard for me since quitting alcohol. I feel so vulnerable. After being sober for a while now, all those emotions come up – shame, guilt, envy, resentment. I want to deal with these emotions, I want to be honest to myself and others. It might be time for step 4.
@Hopeful777 What a beautiful view! I love big windows and the view of nature. Well done staying sober at the party. I hope you enjoyed the day hangover-free.
@Conor689908 Your next milestone is soo close. It always motivates me to see those numbers. 
@Girlinterrupted You have to deal with a lot – I mean, really a lot – and you should be so proud for not picking up drinking. I hope that everything will get easier, as soon as your daughter has her own place and I hope that your therapy will soon start to give you some relief instead of stirring up all these difficult emotions. I don’t think it is strange, that you can talk about your story without connecting emotionally to it. That’s your bodys/minds way to protect yourself from feeling those feelings, that come with life-threatening situations, like the ones you experienced. I’m so sorry you experienced those horrible situations and hope you get as much support as possible. Congratulations on negotiating the terms of a further cooperation with your partner. This is a way of taking good care of yourself!
@4842220kd Welcome to the forums Kole!
@Fargesia_murielae Thank you for sharing the AA Promises. Right on time for me. 
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Glad you made it through with the folks, that tends to happen and it’s rough. I used to get major anxiety hanging out with my family sober, now it’s fine
Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m looking forward to working on myself a bit. There’s a first time fir everything haha. It’s about time though.
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@Mno @Lisa07 @Conor689908 … today was a nasty one for me… mothers passing away day… in 22 hours my dads as well… special thnxxx @mno for beïng supportive for just picking up the phone… after a day of years and doubt… thnxxx ya’ll… this forum pulled me thrue it !! Dankjewel Menno… cant express hoe much…
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