I was very close to relapsing today. Big argument with partner and work stress etc and I bought wine. After an hour looking at it I poured it out and didn’t drink it. I was convinced I was going to drink it but so glad I didn’t know. Stuff with partner etc is ok now too as we talked it out eventually.
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So glad you poured it out. Finding healthier ways of dealing with life stressors is healing. 
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Good for you. That takes awesome will power to not drink the wine. Way to go. This inspires me.
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This past week I had done the same ritual, only after stating for a long time at the alcohol I impulsively bought I still drank it. Day 1 over again today, just hoping this is one of the last day 1’s and that maybe I’d have this same strength despite similar stressors. Thank you for sharing this.
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Good stuff Dan. Strong too although next time I wouldn’t buy the wine in the first place 
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Are you going to change anything this time around to make it your last day one? What sobriety supports do you have in place now to get and stay sober?
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Thanks 
yeah I don’t know what I was thinking buying it in the first place when I was annoyed. But glad I seen sense. 
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I’m coming up on 18 days sober now. I just reminded myself why I was staying sober and rang one of my friends and told her I was thinking of drinking as she told me to ring her if I was struggling and she made me see sense and pour out the bottle and not drink it. I’m glad I didn’t drink it. I’ll do more zoom meetings too
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That’s so awesome, my friend! That phone seems to weigh 900 pounds, but it works if you make the call.
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Not drinking in this situation is a victory. But it’s also the kind of thing that can help us identify our stressors. Glad you poured it out. Drinking woukd only have deepened tge original argument.
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Youve done really well not to drink it but youve got to stop using it as a crutch to solve things…find another way to deal with things that crop up because life will always throw challenges, find another go to way to cope instead of drink
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You didn’t nearly relapse bc you had an argument you will always find an excuse bc your an alcoholic. Next time something goes wrong you’ll probably have the same thought. I’m not having a dig I’m just pointing out the obvious. Alcohol is not our problem it’s our solution to everything. We are the problem and it’s time to find a new solution. Proud of you for not drinking though 
well done.
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Thanks so much. Yeah that is very true.
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Hey @Dan.h84 I’m glad you didn’t break sobriety.
How about some more measures in place to help you deal with your emotions? In case of stress, struggle, fights with the partner… What can you do to immediately relieve some pain? What would soothe you? Who can you call, where can you go? What can you do that brings you down from the ledge? (I clean. Exercise. Groom my dogs.)
Write it out. Put it on your fridge, in your wallet, in your nightstand. It’s called a recovery toolbox and you can also search that term up above to get more suggestions.
You’re doing great, man.
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Thank you so much they are great ideas and I will def try that
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How you doing today, buddy?
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I’m doing good thanks so much for checking in
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Keep at it, Dan. 23+ days sober? The alcohol is out of your body, but probably not your head. But stringing days together is so important!
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Thanks I can’t believe I’m almost reaching a month 
I have a work Christmas party next week but I said I wasn’t going as I know I’m not ready for that yet as they will all be drinking and I don’t want to not be around it yet. My partner who doesn’t have an issue with drink at all has given it up too to make it easier for me which is a great help too
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It is 100% OK to skip events that make you uncomfortable. This is your life you are fighting for. Not trying to be overdramatic, but it is. And support from your partner? Hell YES!! I love that.
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