Its hard becoming sober. Let me correct myself it fuckin hard but each day is a step forward. I get down on myself i definitely have low self-esteem and self confidence.
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I hear that. I’m a little over a year and a half into sobriety and I’m finally stopping all the negative self-talk, criticism and general self-loathing. You know, it feels pretty good to be kinda alright with myself.
The low self esteem/confidence are just open invitations to drink, for me anyway. I’ve got much better at realizing I’m hating on mysef and try to immediately think of something else. Memories of riding motorcyle as a youth are my go to thoughts.
There’s no doubt, it’s a battle. Good luck!
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Whatever works! In the last 5 years of my worse drinking, I didn’t ride much. Then I needed a repair but drank up all my money. I hope for my two year sober anniversary, I can get my bike running! I miss the love of riding. Maybe I’ll get a sober taste of riding this year. 
Hard is an understatement. Keep at it - sober life is so worth the amazing rewards we reap. ODAAT we are able to beat this demon and with our strength we can regain our self esteem / self confidence. Keep showing up for yourself my friend.
Glad you are here with us - we are stronger together 
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My friend. Funny i as well say that. I appreciate the replay ty. Im lost anymore. Wanted is one thing i wanted. Not by law but with the one. I get do unto others. I get it. Then im pooped. Im done. I look in the mirror im pooped. Hell i don’t want me why would i asked someone to want me. Love u. Ty
This is huge! First and foremost we need to love ourselves. You are special and you should see the uniqueness in yourself and love it.
We really need to work on our sobriety (addiction free time) and our path to rediscovering ourselves and loving ourselves for the awesome beings that we are and then think about any romantic connections.
It is hard at the beginning of sobriety to learn how to deal with all our feelings without having our DOC to suppress them. This is why its important to have support irl.
Stay connected to this community - a lot of great support and advice here.
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You arent defined by wether someone wants u or not and if u were thats the start of codependency…you cant expect another person to make you feel good about yourself thats for you to do and im sure there are many things about you that are very special u just gotta work on those, get happier with yourself then when the time is right youl attract the right sort of people
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