Ok. So I have been doing great and will have 3 years of sobriety august 8th from heroin n cocaine. I work 40 hours a week and have my own place now n doing really well. But that’s litterly my life. I go to work Monday-Friday then come home to my apt and do nothing after that, I run 2 miles everyday on my treadmill and love doing that. But I just have no one I feel like and feel like I’m apart of nothing and it sucks. I was with my ex for about 3 years and we broke up about a year ago and it took me a wile to get over that. But I have been moved on from that for a wile now and now that Iam Idek how to interact with people really anymore or know how to even try n find a decent girl to spend time with. And on top of that I feel like the women I have tried to talk to have no intrust ina guy who works and is doing the right thing anymore lol. Am I the only one who feels this way? Or am I losing my mind? Cuz I swear I’m not lol. I’m gonna make some calls and try and get into some sort of groups and stuff like that. Not to mention the town I live in sucks so that doesn’t really help. I’m not having any thoughts of using anytbing dumb or anything like that, but just being alone everyday starts to get old. I hear from no one all day and it just sucks sometimes. Any advice would be appreciated thanks guys 
Thank you, yes same here I feel the same way. I pray everyday and try to tell myself the same thing that he has a plan for us all so when the time is right it’ll happen. I’d just like to find even some sort of friends or something ya kno. It’s hard cuz I don’t drive atm either cuz I messed that up when I was using to so that’s a process to that I’m working on getting back. But thank you. I’m not losing faith just bored somedays is all 
Hi,
I have only been sober a short period of time but I have found outdoor activities a lot more helpful than indoors. I now run outdoors every weekend and take daily walks during lunch. Being outside naturally changes your mood. It’s one of the benefits of sun exposure along with better mental health. In the dating department I have been out of the game for too long Lol. I have heard of really good things about bumble the dating app. Most people say that those on that app are looking for serious relationships not hook-ups. Sorry couldn’t be of better help. I can be reached by PM if you like as well. I can always lend a listening ear and busy fingers on my key board 
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Yes I definitely agree with the outdoor activities lol. I have a garden at my apt with tomatoes peppers and perennials. I kinda already did all my gardening lol now it’s just sit back and watching them grow. Thank you tho. I guess I’m just more confused on why no one doesn’t want a guy who’s doing everything I’m doing and trying so hard In life? Thank you for your support tho 
Thank you, yes I’m trying. Like I said also my area sucks to so I’m sure that has a part in it lol. A lot of people prlly think ima “square” now which is fine with me cuz I guess Iam but rather would be that then a junkie loser 
Have you ever thought about volunteering? Could be anything. Donate your time. It’s something that you can do to help your self esteem and confidence. Those two things will attract the right people for you.
Yes I have actually I’d love to. It’s just hard to really get anywhere for me tho cuz I don’t drive atm but I’ve actually been talking to my counselor about that and trying to either get into some sort of group or voulentear work
I have my son, my mum who lives in the same family home we do, just in the apartment below mine. I also have a small circle of friends and that’s pretty much it.
Today is my birthday, I did get LOADS of congratulations from acquaintances and virtual - I only use fb - acquaintances. And, of course, the aforementioned friends 
But I guess I would like to go out to a dinner or a theatre or cinema or whatever with a man, but I literally don’t do anything about it. I never did. Never invited a guy out, never flirted much. It just… clicked or it didn’t.
And I’m 46 AND look like it. A lot of people say I don’t, bit it’s just me.
Anyhow, I guess I’m also to spoiled and used to my routine, my travels (I’m gonna pause for a while) and nor really ready to let someone in, even if for something very, very casual.
So, it’s not only you
Can you join a running club?
Google “Park run” and see if there is anything in your area (are you in the UK?)
It sounds like running comes naturally to you and you are perhaps missing a sense of community and contact with people outside of work??
A running club could be a great way to start making connections.
Dating apps 