Here again. I relapsed more than once but I do not care. So I am going to renew my fight.
I am kind of person who wants to list his goals instead of just keeping them in mind. So I want to leave here a concrete to do list and not to do list in order that I will remember them and I think so long as I am in this forum, I am going to use this thread to see my strategies, reasons, results.
My english is not perfect so I think I do not have enough vocabulary just like a Native speaker, So beforehand I want to say that I am going to be sorry for any mistakes I might do.
I do not want to fight off in a childish way which starts with a fervent motivation and ends up relapsing and bringing no gain to me.
So at first, I would like to list why I chose to wage a war against pornography, I think the list drags on but I am gonna give out foremost ones and maybe I will add new ones later.
1-) It affects my mental health quite negatively, like depression, hardly concencrating, poor memorizing, sudden and constant mood swings, leads to being irritating, and probably weakens my willpower and leaves me remorseful.
2-) it is morally evil for me,
I think I won’t go deep into this but I have a theological background as well as having a quite scientific viewpoint on this. So both suggests me that I have to give up on porn. Who wanna see his/her sister in such an obnoxious state?
3-) Life has lost all of its taste in my mouth gradually since I have met porn. So nothing gives the taste that PMO gives, so I want to regain my happiness again. I do not wanna recall those bitter college days again. I want to grow better, this is not how I am supposed to fight and live through.
4-) as you all know, it needs energy so giving all my energy to this consumes all of my willingness for the rest I have in my life. My sleep is irregular, feeding habit is bad, I am spending so much time with my phone because of this.
5-) So phychological troubles have emerged since I started to consume pornographic contents and the strongest ones are being skeptical and obsessed with things. So I do not wanna mention about the cathegories I viewed but it is not difficult to see those cathegories and wait to see the same in your life. There is a obvious proportion between them.
So here I want to clearly list what effects Pornograhy has on me:
3-) poor memorization
5-) mood swings (the most important)
6-) irregular sleep
7-) longer use of tech. devices
9-)low self confident
10-) unhealthy relationships with strangers
11-) low self-care
So How can I beat pornography?
Maybe it is not all about pornography because it has been a complex matter of simultanous bad habits that caused this low life but in any case, I wanna conquer and get rid of them all step by step. I know that any addiction requires an intense attention and patience with it. To be hones I am mature enough when regarding how to beat it but it is all about the mind that you have in that state of craving and what strategies have you developed especially for that frame of time. So here, some simple precautions NOT TO easily fall into a craving trap.
1-) Getting rid of all the obscene images and videos I have on any device I am operating.
2-) using some blockers (which does not really work) but at least will give me a period of thinking over while unlocking them.
3-) keeping the gaze pure from all the stimulating stuff( in public or not)
4-) not spending more than two hours on my phone.
5-) I have to regain my habits( playing my instruments, writing some some essays, preparing for the oncoming exam for the job oppurtunity in the area of civil engineering , which is my major)
6-) stopping all social media for a while (Vkontakte, facebook, instagram and a few others)
7-) spending enough time outside ( do not worry I live in a village and people are far away from each other)
sleeping early and waking up early
9-) starting workout
That is all for now I am sleepy)