Counter thoughts - Selflove

[LAB]

He used to tell me I was stubborn. But really I am persistent.

He used to tell me I would never be successful if I kept doing what I was doing. But I am successful in my chosen profession because it is a good match to my personal strengths

For me, most anything my father told me when I was a child is painful and damaging. I’m still cleaning up that mess now at 58 and him being dead for 22 years. Still working on counter thoughts here.

Thank you for the thread. Have a good day!

[Starlight14]

@Soberbilly

Acceptance: Acceptance, in Buddhist terms, refers to our ability to stay present. When life presents us with something the ego finds painful and not pleasurable, the mind’s tendency is to resist, avoid, change or generally push against. If we don’t like feeling depressed (and who does?), rather than accepting that this is what’s here, we engage in various strategies to try and change our feelings. Ironically, resisting a thought or feeling only makes it worse. So in order to experience (and potentially change) anything, we are instructed to first “say yes”, lean in and simply let go of the effort and energy we invest in resisting reality.

Billy…i want to thank you for this, since i read it ive thought about it alot…it made ALOT of sense to me…i wont be resisting what is anymore

[Juli1]

Thank you both Kelly and @Soberbilly for this perspective. It feels very soft to let my mind sink into this.

Due to my depression there are thoughts showing up, that are not true or, need another perspective. And so this little technique or let’s call it game is helpful to me.

[Juli1]

I need him

I am brilliant on my own.
Created a kind of date with my own today and thought ohyes what a relaxed and loyal person, here I am save! She is calm, warm and got humor. I am save with her!

That was a good date. Nobody got hurt. I will go on dating her.

By the way, she is kind of a boomchalalaka fucking rockstar. She got me.

Call me crazy, but that was another kind of counter point of view excersise

[JazzyS]

@Juli1

That was a good date. Nobody got hurt. I will go on dating her.

Gotta love a good heart felt date! Glad that you and you got along so well…think i can see a beautiful relationship blooming

Lol…not crazy at all…love how your thinking is changing and evolving

[Juli1]

I am lonely
We are all deeply connected

[Juli1]

I have to work hard
I feel

[Juli1]

• I am in danger
  I am relatively save in this world.
  I am an adult, I have everything I nerd and I am save.

• I am not worth it
  HE is not worth ME
  He won’t change.
  I am not in this world to educate a man being emotional adult, emotional intelligent and available.
  I am my own teacher.

• we could have had a chance
  No, he is not able to!
  And a not acceptable political attitude is one of my dealbreakers.
  So I will commit to myself!

[Dolse71]

Read eckhart Tolle The Power Of Now, life’s a lot easier when you realise you are not your thoughts.