As I am struggling with selflove and negative thoughts earlier (maybe effected through my latest relapses and… depression phases), I love to start this thread called “Counter thoughts”.
Counter thoughts are replacing negative thoughts with better ones. This can change our point of view on the world, others and ourselfs.
I want to add this practice back to my daily routine and so I will start to share it here. Had good experiences with it in 2022 and a therapist allowed me to suggest it to the group. She was a fan of imaginations too.
I would love it, if some of you will give it a try with me!
At the end you can use the positive thoughts as affirmations or as intentions for the day
I am weak I missed some strength through covid, but I can build back up the strength by consistency, training, nutrition and recovery. I still win 95% battles in swimming
I don’t deserve love Love flows unlimited. I am full of love.
I won’t reach my goals I can reach everything I want by consistency and the right mindset.
I am too curvy I am just a boomchakalaka fucking rockstar.
I have to fight l live in peace
I am alone Everything is connected. I am never alone. We are never alone.
I battle negative self talk a lot. I have a few sayings that I turn to, but they are mostly generic. Like “I am enough,” “I am worthy.” And coupled with some deep breathing it helps shake me out of a bad spot mentally. I really like what you’re doing here by targeting the specific thoughts. Thanks for sharing.
Love this thread Jules! A great exercise in re wiring our minds with positive thinking.
I have already book marked your post …thank you!
@TrustyBird try a few of the ones below…we should try and refrain from using “don’t” “can’t” “not” as our brain still has a negative association with these.
I am open to learning new things
Or
My mind is capable of soaking up new information
Or
I can do anything I put my mind to
Or
???
I too find it difficult to come up with ways to speak without using the negative words . Looking forward to learning new positive affirmations/ phrases
bommshakalacka fucking rockstar
This will be or new self praise phrase
Thanks Jazz, that makes sense. I’m good at recognizing negative self talk in others but didn’t even hear the “don’t” in my own statement. Brains are tricky places sometimes.
I call this meeting of the boomshakalacka fucking rockstars a productive one.
Happy days all!
So true …I remember when I started making my affirmation list I didn’t realize all the negative speak I was saying till I wrote them on post its for daily reminders. Even then some got past my radar and my brother caught it
No one said re wiring our brains was gonna be easy - grateful to be doing this with such an amazing bunch!
Also doing this in therapy at the monent too. Self-compassion. Talking to yourself like you would a friend. So if you hear yourself saying something, question whether you would say this to one of your friends, if the answer is ‘no’, what might you say instead?..I am struggling to think of anything. Im supposed to be writing a compassionate letter to myself this weekend, ready for therapy on Monday, but I’ve got nothing, and it makes me sad that I must hate myself so much. I’m a boomskaklaka rockstar too! 🩵
Yeah you are!
Maybe write the letter to a friend and then switch it out to yourself at the last minute. Say nice things about someone else until you believe that you deserve them too.
I am in! I learnt about core beliefs at my chronic fatigue clinic. I have a core belief that I am lazy and it meant I delayed my recovery for so long. Deep down I had no compassion for the woman struggling with fatigue as I believed it was all part of me and my laziness. Once I realised that I made huge leaps.
This is not a counter to the idea at all.
It’s just another point of view as you said.
And I have all the respect to your experience and your way
And the technique of counter thoughts has its limits of course and it won’t be the first thing during bad life events, major depression… And so on. Thank you my rockstar turtle
I am so glad you said this. It really helped me, and I wasn’t expecting that! But I see this in myself and even just today I told my husband “I’m just tired today,” and he said go ahead and be tired. Take a break. So strange when I can’t allow myself downtime. Well, I’m still busy doing things but I can sit and relax! It’s a game changer.
I am so pleased I helped. It is so strange how hard on ourselves we can be. I am still battling that thought now, even though I can see it for what it is. I don’t know where it came from. We all deserve downtime. I am glad your husband is sympathetic.
Life is hard
Life is a challenge sometimes, but it’s fun to deal with it and to have possibilities!
I am not loveable
Every human being is loveable at its true nature.
I have to fight
I live in peace!!!
I am. lost
I am absolutly save.
I have to do something to be loved
Love flows by itself
I can’t loose weight
I have a friendly relationship with my body, I choose nourishing food that I like, to have power for excersise and daily life. I chew slowly. I take care of my resources, relaxation and recovery. My body will be transformed easily.
I remember last time I tried to conquer my dark thoughts one week ago. It was rather unplanned. I was getting the keys for the rental car in Nice and walking off I said out half loudly: jaaaa, wir schaffen das yes, I can do this. Because why not.
I love this Julia, its similar to something i try to do which is attempting to find what i call the 'silver linings" …pulling the positives out of any given situation that life throws at me… to give an example…
He doesnt want me
I dont want to be with someone who doesnt want me
I at least know the truth
That allows me to be open to someone that does want me
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yes, I can do this. Because why not.